Mom, will you die? One day my child asked me this…

One day, the child came to me worriedly and asked: Mom, will you die? I was stunned for a moment and answered him: Yes, everyone will die. The child\’s eyes immediately turned red, and I added anxiously: But don\’t worry, mom will live for a long, long time before she dies. \”Mom, why do all people die?\” For a time, I didn\’t know how to say a thousand words. I tried my best to communicate with him that birth, old age, illness and death are a very natural process. But the son refused: Mom, why do people have to die? Why should we be born again? What exactly is going on? I found that I couldn\’t answer. The child was not satisfied with a conclusion at all. I remember that I usually say to my children: \”You didn\’t wear enough clothes yesterday, so you caught a cold.\” He would ask: \”Why do you catch a cold if you don\’t wear enough clothes? Why do people catch colds?\” The biggest difference between the thinking of children and adults is that Children will not be satisfied with any final conclusion, they will definitely ask the question to the end. As an \”ambitious\” mother, I have always been very concerned about maintaining my children\’s curiosity, and I will try various methods to explore with my children. Fortunately, there are so many excellent picture books describing life and death. \”In the Forest\” is one of them. In the forest, I told a story like this: A little boy with a paper hat and a paper trumpet walked into the forest. The big lion who was taking a nap heard my trumpet and followed me. Two of them were taking a bath. The elephant baby also came, two brown bears sitting under the tree came with jam and peanuts, the kangaroo mother brought the kangaroo baby, the kangaroo father also came with the drum, and a silent stork also came. Following me, the little monkey took out his best dress and followed me. The little rabbit hiding behind the weeds also came after my invitation. We came to an open area where we could have a picnic and play games. Everyone stopped and ate peanuts, jam – and ice cream and cake. We sat in a circle and played \”throw the handkerchief\” and a game of hide and seek. The little boy closed his eyes and waited for the animals to hide. When he opened his eyes again, the little animals were gone. At this time, my father came from the other side of the forest and said, \”It\’s time to go home.\” So the little boy sat on his father\’s shoulders and shouted into the forest: \”Goodbye! Don\’t go far! I will come back to you in two days!\” The last page of the picture book drew a forest without people or animals. This book was written by the author Mary Hoiss when she was 50 years old and knew her destiny. At that time, she was in very poor health and her beloved husband was terminally ill. They live outside Chicago, waiting for death to come. Let\’s imagine that a woman who was burdened with great suffering told her children a story: A little boy met many animal friends. How happy and beautiful they were once. When his father came, the little animals disappeared. The separation of the little boy and the animal symbolizes that we will have a favorite object, a beautiful relationship, but these things will leave us. Even our closest relatives will leave us. With courage and a smile, Mary told the children: Come and experience this wonderful journey. Many beautiful and happy things will hide and disappear. But it doesn\’t matter, youYou will gradually realize the true meaning of life. We can experience such beautiful moments in life thousands of times. As children grow up, they will experience the death of others, their favorite toys will be lost, friends they play with will no longer communicate with each other for various reasons, and small animals they have raised will die. How to deal with this? How to say goodbye? There is a saying in \”The Life of Pi\”: If every change we experience in life allows us to go further in life, then we will truly experience what life wants us to experience. . Once, I took my children on vacation in Hainan. Our hotel is right next to the beach. Yesterday, he picked up a big feather on the beach. My son held it in his hand and played with it for a long time. He liked it very much. Before leaving, he hid the feathers in the sand and said to me: \”Mom, we are coming again tomorrow, and I want to find the feathers.\” Today, when my son came to look for it, he found that the feather was missing. He looked everywhere but couldn\’t find it. He was a little anxious and asked me: \”Where are the feathers?\” I thought for a while and answered him: \”Why don\’t you ask the sea?\” I hugged the child and was very close to the sea, watching the waves coming over, and we pricked up our ears together. Listen, the sea breeze is so strong, the waves are hitting the beach steadily, and adults and children are playing and laughing not far away. \”What did the sea say?\”, I asked him. He said: \”The sea says there is no more.\” Then he ran off to play, never thinking about the feathers again. Children themselves will grow up, and what they experience and feel will become a part of them. So, what are you worried about?