Sad! Dad, you can’t spend 12 hours a week with me, but I love you too

I saw the latest issue of \”Qi Pa Shuo\” and the debate topic is: If fathers spend less than 12 hours a week with their children, the title of father will be revoked. Do you agree? To be honest, when I saw this debate question, I felt a little disgusted. Because there are many fathers around me who cannot spend two hours with me every day. Is it really possible to leave a child without a father? For a child, that is an unacceptable and sad thing. But the key thing is: Dad, can you accept it? There is a regret that the grown-up children will not let you and I raise them again. Yan Rujing\’s words in Qiweishuo made many parents cry, \”Life is a TV series that cannot be watched back. Parents are the only viewers of their children. If you don\’t watch the TV series, we can make up for it, but the child\’s life cannot be made up for.\” Come back.\” Many fathers said they felt wronged because they were under great pressure to make money and also have to spend time with their children. When you really have nothing, it’s not your father’s fault for not working hard. But in the hearts of children, the role of father is far from being replaced by a big house and a good car. In the movie \”The Pursuit of Happyness\”, Chris is kicked out of his home by his landlord because of long-term arrears in paying rent, and he lives on the street with his son. The father and son\’s residence was moved from a poor relief center to a public toilet, with nowhere to stay. The father and son secretly hid in the public toilet and locked the door. People kept knocking on the toilet door outside. The father hugged his son tightly and shed painful tears… In \”Little Children\” In \”Shoes\”, because of the family\’s financial difficulties, the father has no choice but to take his son to work as a part-time gardener. The child was sitting on his father\’s bicycle, smiling happily. Even when you really have nothing. The child will still regard you as his favorite father. When the program team gave the child a debate question: If you don\’t accompany him for less than 12 hours, you won\’t call him daddy. Are you willing? The answer is surprisingly consistent: unwilling. The reason is: because he is my father. Dad is my best dad. Dad works hard and it’s not easy. After hearing these answers, the father\’s eyes began to moisten. We often feel moved like this, but there are still not many fathers who are free. Therefore, in the eyes of a child, even if my father can\’t spend 12 hours with me every week, I still love you. Children are so tolerant and throw themselves into our arms without reservation, carrying their own slow and full love. But many dads take it for granted. Keep telling your children that you have no time, no time, and let those promises turn into empty words. One day, you will find that you have actually canceled this title a long time ago. Because of long-term absence, there is a high wall between you and your child. The kid who rolled around you naked as a kid has grown up. And all that is left to you is to reminisce about time. I think every father has three roles in his life: when the child is 0-2 years old, he becomes a good orderly. Dads should get involved in their children\’s lives as early as possible and assume the responsibility of raising them. Only when you really put in the effort can you understand the difficulty of raising children. As I watch my children grow up step by step, I also grow up from a new father. This experience cannot be replaced by anything else. Since my son was born, I have tried my best to stay with him. Get up at night to make milk and change diapers for him. Listen to music with him, talk to him, take him to watch the clouds and listen to the wind, and tell him stories. When he is a little older, crawl with him, jump with him, and walk with himTake the first step in life. Listen to him babbling. Slowly you can understand his specific language. Statistics say that in the first two to three years after a child is born, the baby needs to change about 5,000 diapers. Assuming that you change 20% of the diapers for him, then you have a thousand opportunities to communicate with the baby. And in this kind of company, we give love, but we also receive full love from our children. Moreover, the participation of the husband as an orderly can reduce the mother\’s stress, eliminate depression, and the mother\’s mood will be much better. When the child is 3-6 years old, it is a big toy. A child\’s little expectation is to receive unconditional love from his parents. They need more than a mother\’s tender love. I also like dad’s unusual taste. The child and his father will have some special conversations, such as body language. A mother described the relationship between her husband and her son: Sometimes, I feel that the relationship between her husband and her son is like a mystery. They are always fighting, chasing each other, and tickling each other. I can\’t learn or understand the way they fight with each other. There is a special language between men and women. Sometimes, Xiao Xiaoyu and I play some games that his mother cannot participate in. We even only need to hum or say a simple word to know what to do next. And these all come from the tacit understanding produced by daily companionship, and many of them are unique to us men. Psychologists will tell us that the physical contact between father and son during play is a deep communication between father and son. And this kind of communication is exclusive to father and son. The mother\’s love is gentle and delicate, from which the child gets a sense of security; while the father\’s love is rough, deep and broad-minded, from which the child finds a sense of direction. Especially boys, they use their fathers as a lifelong reference. \”Did I do it?\” Almost every boy will ask himself this question endlessly, internally referring to his father, as he grows up. And after the child enters elementary school, be the child\’s good friend. This role of friend will continue until our children reach adulthood and until we grow old. Thinking about this stage, I am also the most uneasy. Because I have seen many cases of father and son turning against each other and becoming estranged from each other. But I know that these warm moments that I spend with him now are my dedication. Children can definitely feel it. There is a saying that goes, \”You grow up with me, and I grow old with you!\” I believe we can continue to warm each other and support each other in the future. If there is no family and love, I don’t know what is lovely about a man? cause? money? Social status? Or… There was once a post titled \”Things You Will Regret Before You Die\” that was wildly reposted on domestic and foreign websites, with over 10,000 clicks in an instant. The author was a hospice nurse in the United States named Bronny Meyer. In the article Summarizes the five things people regret most when their lives come to an end. The second thing is: \”I wish I had not spent so much energy on work, missed the fun of paying attention to the growth of my children, and missed the warm company of my lover.\” The role of a father is by no means as simple as making money to support the family. You also need to give love and companionship to your family. In fact, you yourself also need the love and companionship of your family. If you are only busy making money in life, and only making money, you will miss thisa life experience. It\’s also a misfortune. I feel that as a father, everything he does will ultimately be evaluated by his children: You are a good father. There is no higher reward than this.