Don’t disturb your child’s curiosity and don’t ignore your child’s exclamations

This question is really a bit long. I originally wanted to express it directly with a \”?\” and \”!\”, but I was afraid that people passing by would not be so clear and understanding. So some words were eliminated. Our daughter, who is two years old, has been pointing to various things in the house since she started talking and asking: \”What is this?\” \”What is this.\” Our two teachers naturally answered patiently: \”This is a TV \”This is the desk\” and \”This is mom\’s facial cleanser.\” Indeed, like all children, she had told her these questions a hundred times, and the next day she continued to ask: \”What is this?\” What\’s also very interesting is that every time she shows him something new, she always looks excited. For example, while walking in the community, I saw a child who was slightly older than her, playing and blowing bubbles, with colorful bubbles surrounding her. One moment she was chasing to catch this one, and the other moment she was running to catch that one. Especially when there are many bubbles rising in the sky with the wind, you will exclaim \”Wow\”, \”Wow\” and \”Wow\”! Frankly speaking, I have never been taught this word, and it seems that my family rarely uses it. And her pronunciation is very accurate. The pronunciation used to express surprise is: [wow]. I discussed with my family that apart from teaching her to start calling her \”Dad\” and \”Mom\”, we have never taught her words and sentences such as \”What is this\”, \”What is this\” and \”Wow\”. Could it be human instinct? Could this be the so-called nature of children? Human beings will express doubts and curiosity about this world and everything that happens in the world. They will be amazed at what they are interested in or find surprising. Isn\’t this a process from \”?\” to \”!\” And more importantly, many questions will be followed by exclamation. Only when there are questions can there be exclamation. In other words, doubts and exclamation are always closely connected. Have you noticed? Do you know what curiosity is? Psychology believes that curiosity is the psychological tendency of an individual to pay attention, operate, and ask questions when encountering novel things or being in new external conditions. Curiosity is one of the intrinsic motivations for individual learning and the motivation for individuals to seek knowledge. It is an important characteristic of creative talents. This is a professional term. For us ordinary people, curiosity is the psychological process of exploring the information received by various sense organs such as seeing, hearing, smelling, and touching. Curiosity can make human beings do things that they would not even dare to think about. It is precisely because of curiosity that human beings can develop and progress and become the masters of the earth. Wow means surprise, amazement, astonishment, and sometimes the result of curiosity. When my daughter was almost one year old, she was curious about everything, especially the switch on the water dispenser. This seems to happen in many families. Her grandmother was very worried with her. Every time her daughter wanted to touch her, her grandmother would hold her and walk away. At first, it worked. My daughter\’s attention was easily diverted, maybe she was still only one year old after all. However, after turning one year old, this trick of diverting attention is not completely effective, and it arouses the daughter\’s curiosity even more. The adults always walk away, but the daughter can move around. So I decided not to watch anymore and drankThe switch of the water machine is not very dangerous. As soon as you let go of your hand, the water will stop. Instead of watching in fear all the time, it would be more useful to let her get burned once. This is what I am willing to do, but there is also an additional surprise. One day, my daughter got into the place where the water dispenser was by herself. Our whole family was actually paying close attention, but pretended not to care. Of course, before trying this, we felt the water temperature. It was slightly hot, but not scalding. The daughter first turned on the blue switch and held it still. After all, her strength was a little weak. At first, it did not make the water flow into a line faster, just bit by bit. After thinking for a while, the daughter thought for a while and used two Hold the switch with one hand, and sure enough, you can hear the sound of water flowing, rushing into a line. The water was cool to the touch, and the water splashed all over my face. The daughter seemed to be shocked by her own actions. Her mouth grew wider and her head tilted. After a second, she clapped her hands with both hands, accompanied by the sounds of \”wow\” and \”wow\”, and then we heard A string of magical laughter. After a while, my daughter finished studying the blue button and started studying the red button. Based on the last experience, her daughter understood that she needed the strength of two hands to press the switch, so she used two hands at the beginning. . Because the red water has a slightly higher water temperature, our whole family is paying attention at this moment. Sure enough, when she went to test the water temperature, there was an obvious difference between the cold water just now and the hot water now, and she was burned. This time, \”Wow\” came from crying, but after a few seconds, the daughter stopped crying on her own, and still stared at the two switches, with her tightly furrowed brows seeming to ask: \”Why is it blue?\” The color is cold water, and the red is hot water?\” At this time, we knew that it was the most appropriate time for us to intervene. Tell her that this is a water dispenser, red is hot water, which is very hot, and blue is cold water. Red water may hurt you so remember, whatever your parents tell you to stop you from moving is for a reason. Don\’t think that one-year-old children don\’t understand. In fact, they will understand. The result of curiosity is exclamation. Of course, it may also be surprise or fright. For children, both surprise and fright are indispensable energy. What we adults have to do is to provide scenes that allow children to dare to explore, and let them bear the surprise, fright, and surprise while ensuring safety. During the summer vacation, my little nephew came to our house to play. One day, he turned on the TV and accidentally saw a magic show. The little nephew couldn\’t take his eyes away and looked at the screen, from the time the props were placed until the end. The little nephew\’s eyes were wide open, and he made a \”wow\” sound from the corner of his mouth, asking himself: \”How did that vase come out, and why did the color suddenly change?\” \”Wow, that\’s great\” came from time to time in the living room. His exclamations, from which exclamations can be heard, joy, appreciation, and adoration. \”Stop yelling, don\’t yell\” my mother interrupted her little nephew\’s exclamation. Because I was anxious to watch a certain soap opera, I quickly grabbed the remote control and changed the channel, while saying: \”That\’s all fake. It\’s because there are props to help. You are so old and you don\’t know.\” On the side Look smallMy nephew\’s eyes darkened obviously, but he still pulled on the corner of my clothes and asked: \”Is it fake? Is my aunt fake? Why.\” I quickly pulled my nephew into the bedroom, then turned on the computer and said: \” Let\’s watch some magical magic together, shall we?\” The little nephew suddenly became delighted with the magic, closed the door without thinking, and seriously watched the video of me looking for magic. I have actually seen magic performances on TV many times, and they are really strange. In order to let my little nephew feel the magic and thrill of magic, I chose several different types of magic. The little nephew stared with bright eyes and exclaimed as he watched: \”The magic of the arrow piercing the heart is really thrilling.\” I also marveled, and the two of us discussed together: \”It\’s so amazing, why does it happen like this?\” Later, I I went to check my nephew\’s diary for the day. He had to write a diary every day. This was his summer vacation homework. Normally, he couldn\’t write a word for a while, but this day he finished it in less than half an hour. He wrote in his diary: Today, my aunt and I watched a magic show together. The magician was wearing a black high hat and clothes with hem. He asked his assistant to fix a person in front of the target and wave his hands. He took out an arrow with a silk thread, opened the bow, and shot the arrow. Hearing a \”swish\” sound, the arrow passed through the man\’s heart with the silk thread and clattered on the target. At that time, I was worried about whether something would happen to that person, but the person lying on the ground suddenly stood up as if nothing had happened. I think magic is very magical. I have a lot of questions in my mind. I have to study hard. My aunt said that only by studying hard can I crack the magic of magic. I marvel at children\’s curiosity, and at the same time I understand the importance of not ignoring children\’s exclamations. Everything in the world must not be without \”curiosity\”. If there is no \”curiosity\” in the world, it will be the same as there is no water in the clear and beautiful lake, and it will not be a real lake. We are often surprised by children\’s curiosity. It seems that they really have ten thousand reasons in their hearts. We often hear children\’s exclamations, which is their heartfelt love, yearning and joy for the world. Because they are curious, they go back to observe and want to study, because after studying, they may have more joy, which is crucial to their growth. It seems that it is natural for children to like small animals, whether they are caterpillars or small fish. Yesterday, my family bought some small loaches and put them in the water basin. They were jumping around happily. Children don\’t know how to be afraid. When my daughter saw them, she welcomed them with cheers as if she were welcoming a group of children. I am very afraid of these things, and selfishly I want to teach my daughter not to be afraid. We put the little loaches into the water basin, and my daughter used her hands to stir the water, and the little loaches jumped up and down. My daughter seemed to think that the little loaches were responding to her friendliness. We stayed in front of the water basin all afternoon, sometimes going to wave the water, and sometimes thinking about shaking hands with the little loaches. From time to time, we would be dragged along to watch the little loaches\’ swimming competitions. We followed her and it was fun for us when she cheered. When the loach swims around and splashes in the water, we also felt interesting, as if we were back to our childhood. Have you noticed that as we grow older, adults have less and less curiosity. We often expect ourselves to maintain a childlike innocence and original intention. But in fact curiosity is an important part of childlike innocence. Have you ever noticed that as our experience grows, it becomes increasingly difficult for adults to reveal their surprises about things? We often make ourselves more composed and calm, and do not express our preferences at will, and our emotions and anger are not expressed in color. . But in fact, people who are willing to show joy and surprise are more likely to be happy and satisfied. Curiosity and surprise seem to be lost traits that we will eventually miss. We know that magic is fake, we know that clowns are fake, and we know that many things that we thought were magical when we were children are nothing more than that. We often say \”curiosity killed the cat\”, and we often think that expressing surprise is a sign of not having seen the world. Even sometimes, it disturbs children\’s curiosity and ignores their exclamations. We often say that children need our companionship, but true attentive companionship must be about discovering with the child, marveling with the child, and exploring the process from doubt to wonder, which is truly effective companionship. Hush, don’t disturb your child’s curiosity, don’t ignore your child’s exclamations.