How do parents educate their children correctly? They must take them on a long trip

In August, I had dinner with a friend, and she was in a hurry to leave as soon as she finished eating. I asked her what happened? She said that her child was taking piano lessons in the afternoon and she had to pick her up from school. She also had a transitional class from kindergarten to primary school in the evening. Nowadays, the age of children attending cram schools is getting younger and younger. Some parents arrange various extracurricular classes for their children in art, music, mathematics, and Chinese during the holidays. In fact, sometimes, taking a boring course for a month is not as profitable as taking a long trip. On a long trip, from departure to return, good parents can let their children learn a lot along the way. Taking your children out for long distances can help them learn to take responsibility. When my son entered middle school, my wife and I took him on a long-distance trip by train for the first time. When he went to the mall to buy travel supplies, he pointed at a children\’s trolley suitcase and said he wanted this. So we made an agreement with him: We can buy it for you, but this small box will be yours from now on, and you have to be responsible for your own luggage. Before departure, my wife and I were packing things in the house. My son also dragged his small box over. After opening it, he poured his toys into it. I asked him: If you bring so many toys, where do you put your clothes and pants? The son said confidently: Put it in mom\’s box! The wife said: Mom’s box should contain her own things. Didn’t we make an appointment? You are responsible for your luggage. You have to arrange what you bring and how much you bring. In the end, my son reluctantly chose a small dinosaur toy and hid it at the bottom of the box. During the trip, we let him drag his small suitcase; on the way back, we reminded him to take care of his belongings and not forget them in the car. Now, my son is used to taking responsibility for himself. As he grew up, his small box was replaced by a large box, and his small backpack was replaced by a large backpack. Every time he traveled, he took the initiative to pack his things and carry his own luggage. In fact, traveling far away is a good opportunity to cultivate children\’s independence and self-reliance. Children\’s educator Takatsushi Tsuka once said: Parents consider everything in advance and arrange everything. This is not good for children. This is tantamount to depriving children of the opportunity to grow and learn. The child must be allowed to understand that \”this is my own business\” and let him think about what to do. Many friends around me don’t like to travel with their children. They feel that taking their children out is too tiring. Packing large and small bags is like moving. They are tired both physically and mentally. It is better to rest at home. That’s because the way they treat their children while traveling is wrong. With luggage on their shoulders and children in their arms, how can they keep their steps brisk? Let the child know that he is also a member of the family, and he must take his own small share of responsibility for himself and the family. Responsible children can share the pressure on their parents during the journey, while irresponsible children will only increase the burden. Taking your child on a long trip can also help him learn to overcome minor setbacks and difficulties. Last year I went to climb Mount Taishan with my friend\’s family. The two children were very energetic at first. They chased each other and ran faster than us adults. It didn\’t work anymore in the second half, and everyone started to cheat. My friend\’s daughter Nini is in kindergarten. She hugs her friend\’s lap and asks her father to hold her. She says she is very tired.Can\’t walk anymore. My friend said: Look, this mountain is so high. What if dad can’t walk even if he holds you? Nini was very unhappy: You hugged me before! The friend said: But now you are an older child. Dad is holding you, and neither of us can go up. We can only wait here for mother to come back. The friend asked her daughter again: Do you want to go to the top of the mountain? Nini nodded. The friend held her hand and led her to climb up: \”Then you have to walk by yourself. We can walk slower and take more breaks in between, but you have to walk this road by yourself. Dad can\’t hold you.\” Finally, when we finally reached the Nantianmen, we saw the sun was approaching and the clouds were low, and we had a panoramic view of the beautiful scenery. The two children were jumping up and down with excitement. An enthusiastic tourist passing by asked Nini: My kid, did you come up here by yourself? Nini said proudly: I climbed up by myself without asking my father to hold me! The tourist gave Nini a thumbs up. Many parents raise their children to be very squeamish. When they encounter difficulties and setbacks, they immediately turn to their parents for help, never thinking about overcoming and solving them themselves. Travel often requires walking a lot, which consumes a lot of energy. Fear of hardship and fatigue is a common problem among many children nowadays. At this time, the attitude of parents is particularly important. Wise parents will take this opportunity to tell their children that you have to cross this hurdle by yourself and walk this road to the end by yourself. After all, journey is like life. Parents can help their children for a while, but they cannot help their children for the rest of their lives. If you don’t dare to face even the smallest difficulties during travel, how will you overcome the hardships in life in the future? Taking a long trip can also broaden your children\’s horizons. Yu Guangzhong wrote in \”How to Relieve Worry\”: The meaning of travel is not to tell others \”I have been here\”, but a kind of change. Travel will change people\’s temperament and make people\’s vision become more long-term. During the journey, you will see different people have different habits, and you will understand that not everyone lives according to your way. In this way, people\’s minds will become broader; in this way, we will face our lives with a better attitude. If you are only willing to guard the small area of ​​​​the world in front of you, then your heart will become smaller. Only when you have seen high mountains do you know that there are people outside the people, and there are mountains beyond the mountains; only when you have seen clear water do you know that the deceased is like a man who never leaves day and night. But this process is very short, only a few days, and only ten days and a half months. You like mountains, flowing water, the vast starry sky, and the vast sea, but you can only take these with you in your eyes and in your heart, and finally return to real life. Tell your children that poetry and distance certainly have their beauty, but life requires being down-to-earth, taking control of your own life, and cherishing what you already have. If you can\’t manage the current daily necessities well, it will be difficult to have a romantic and romantic life in the distance. Some people say: The experience during travel is the essence of travel, and the scenery is just an accessory. To educate your children, you must take them on a long trip to take a good look at the outside world. Educating children does not have to be in school or in the classroom, it can also be during a trip. Leave the children\’s luggage to themselves, give them a small mission, and cultivate the children\’s sense of responsibility; no matter how long or far the road is, let the children walk by themselves and teach them to face setbacks bravely and actively solve difficulties; take the children to Look farthestBeautiful scenery, and then return to the most real life together. You grow up well and I work hard. Truly wise parents will not only lead their children to appreciate the scenery along the way, but also help them settle their souls, grow during the journey, and become better versions of themselves.