Instead of praising \”other people\’s children\”, it\’s better to learn from \”other people\’s parents\”

The book \”Study Methods Taught Me by Professors from Tokyo University\” was written by Hiroyuki Nagano, a famous Japanese private tutor and principal of Nagano Mathematics Private School. From being at the bottom of the rankings to entering the famous Todai Institute of Space Science in Japan, the author reveals his unique learning method to help readers master the secrets of learning and realize more possibilities in life. This time we share a formula from the book about improving children’s learning, that is, improving learning ability = (sense of loneliness + sense of crisis) x learning method. ① \”Facing It Alone\” \”Nowadays, children\’s homework is left to their parents.\” I believe many people will have similar feelings. But in turn, this also reflects that parents are too concerned about their children\’s learning, and instead deprive their children of the opportunity to face problems alone. Once the idea of ​​\”My parents will help me anyway\” is formed in a child\’s mind, don\’t expect him to improve his learning ability. Japan\’s \”Elite House\” magazine once conducted a survey. In the past ten years, they interviewed a total of 1,064 students. The results showed that the proportion of students who were forced to \”study\” was very high. \”My parents keep saying \’go study\’ every day. It\’s so annoying!\” \”They always say that, but it makes me not want to study even more.\” Don\’t always complain that your children are not good at studying. \”Stupid students\” are probably caused by their parents. From The pressure of cram schools and interest classes destroys children\’s interest in learning. They cannot adapt to the loneliness during study and are full of dependence on their parents. When running a cram school, the author found that parents of underachievers were more familiar with the exam scope and key content than their children. The top students are often those students who choose their own tutoring content and come to the interview alone to finalize the course. In short, they all make their own decisions and decisions. And after choosing, they are more willing to accept the loneliness when studying, because they chose it themselves. Therefore, parents should appropriately leave problems and choices to their children and let them face and analyze them alone, so that they will be more resilient in the face of difficulties. ② \”Enhancing Crisis Awareness\” Students who are able to avoid being late even when the city is closed due to heavy snow, are able to hand in homework on time even if they have trouble sleeping in summer, and are able to persist in studying even if they have a cold or fever, such students tend to do well in their studies. Their persistence in learning reflects their deep sense of crisis. \”Go to bed quickly, it\’s getting late.\” \”You\’re still studying, what time is it?\” In the home of a top student, you rarely hear the urge to \”go study quickly\”, but more of a distressed reproach. Children who grow up in an environment where \”parents will arrange everything\” will not have this sense of crisis. The author found that many parents are \”problem busters.\” They have prepared ample material conditions for their children, provided them with all their food, clothing, housing, and transportation. They do not want their children to suffer any grievances at all, and they shoulder all the difficulties they encounter. But they never think about it. This kind of embarrassment for themselves will never bring a bright future for their children. Only when the young eagle is pushed off the cliff by the eagle can it learn to fly. Smart parents must be good at creating a crisis environment for their children. For example, come up with factual data that reflects the relationship between academic performance and employment, instead of talking nonsense and threats such as \”If you don\’t study, you will beg for food\”; summarize the arduous learning process of outstanding people in various industries and let them see the trajectory of success; or Can also be given to childrenProvide social practice opportunities so that they can find a sense of crisis in the face of data, facts and reality, and inspire real enthusiasm for learning. ③\”Knowledge of learning\” Although current education has very high requirements for memory, the author found from the observation of students that thinking ability is more important than memory ability. And by focusing on the process, you can master the \”thinking ability\” that improves learning. Einstein said: \”The so-called education is the remaining skills after forgetting what was learned in school.\” \”In school, what children learn\” is knowledge, which requires memory; and \”the remaining things\” It’s wisdom, and you need to use it yourself. Therefore, one of the learning concepts that needs to be established for children is: understand the process and do not remember the answers. The trick to learning is to minimize the amount of information you need to remember. Some of the knowledge in the textbooks is beyond the child\’s cognition. He may not be able to understand it for a while, so don\’t memorize it by rote and let it go for a while. Until you fully understand the principles behind it, then use your own way to derive conclusions. The \”remaining stuff\” is the key. It refers to your method and ability to understand things. What’s the most effective way to attack the “process”? The method provided by the author is to question the results layer by layer. That is to say, for any question, work backwards from the result, analyze step by step, and work backwards until the end of the question. Thinking deeply makes knowledge easier to remember. On the contrary, if you encounter a question that you don\’t understand and look at the answer immediately, it will not have any training effect at all. It is strange that you can do well in the exam. To sum up, no matter how much research is done on \”learning technology\” and \”learning art\”, it will be in vain if we cannot understand children\’s psychology when they are learning. The role of parents is to accompany their children on a key journey in life. If they do everything for them, they will lose their ability to learn. Next time, when you want to praise \”other people\’s children,\” think of \”other people\’s parents\” first.