The most important responsibility of a parent is not to educate their children, but to be a good themselves

He gave up his flourishing singing career and went to college. Not only did he graduate from Stanford University, but he also sent his three sons to Stanford University. Chan Meiling\’s educational methods have been talked about a lot, and news has even spread that Chief Executive-designate Carrie Lam Cheng Yuet-ngor recommends Chan Meiling to be the next Secretary of Education. Chen Meiling said that she spent thirty years doing one thing, which was to become the best version of herself and then the best teacher for her children. The education of children depends on parents. The first thing to focus on is the parents’ character, knowledge, words, deeds, and habits…the results and influence they bring to their children. Only by being yourself can you become an excellent parent. After Chen Meiling had her first child, she neither wanted to miss her child\’s growth nor give up her job. Therefore, Chen Meiling took her children with her every time she worked. At that time, Chen Meiling was developing in Japan. At that time, the Japanese people had never seen a woman working with her children. Most people believed that if you love working, then don’t have children; if you have children, don’t be an artist in society. Tossing the road. Chen Meiling\’s taking her children to work sparked huge controversy in Japan. After seeing this news in a magazine, a professor from Stanford University invited Chen Meiling to study in the United States. Chen Meiling thought this was a good suggestion, so she took the GRE, applied to schools, and was eventually admitted to Stanford University. Chen Meiling took her eldest son with her. Two months after arriving in the United States, she gave birth to her second son. She and her husband lived separately, studying for a doctorate and raising their two children at the same time. When Chen Meiling was in class, her friends carried her hungry child outside the classroom. Chen Meiling hurried out of the classroom every time to breastfeed her child. With gritted teeth and persistence, Chen Meiling successfully graduated from Stanford University. After studying at Stanford University, Chen Meiling returned to Japan and returned to work. She had to write papers and take care of her children. The work was very intensive. Chen Meiling gets up early every day to make breakfast for her children and make lunch boxes to take to school. At night, after her children go to bed, she can do her homework and write papers. Chen Meiling said: \”The hard work is certain, but the thought of giving up has never occurred to me.\” After sending her eldest son and second son to Stanford University one after another, in 2015, Chen Meiling also sent her youngest son to Stanford University. I and my three sons all graduated from Stanford University, and there was no delay in work, study, or family. Chen Meiling has written a book about her own methods of educating children. Whether it is \”Eight Consciousnesses as a Parent\” or \”Educational Methods for Children to Have Good Results\” and other chapters, the central meaning of the story is what parents should do, what parents should do, and so on. Only by doing what you should do, doing your duty as a parent, and not shirking or evading responsibilities can you become a good and outstanding parent and raise good children. Chen Meiling said: \”Parents should bear all educational responsibilities for their children.\” What she has always practiced is that she must first be an excellent mother before she can educate her children well. Only when parents first do their part, whether at work or at home, fulfill their due responsibilities, and continue to grow themselves, can they pass on their healthy and positive energy to their children. Only by being yourself can you give your children correct guidance. In fact, Chen Meiling is where she is today thanks to her father’s influence on her.. Chen Meiling is a singer. In the 1980s, she was named after Teresa Teng and others. Her songs such as \”Wild Pastoral\” became very popular. At that time, Chen Meiling went to the TV station after class every day to record songs, shoot commercials, and often toured various places. She earned a lot of money, but she was very busy and had no time to study. She had no other choice but to sleep more every day. Chen Meiling felt that her head was empty. Once, Chen Meiling\’s father went to Japan to visit her. When he saw that she was praised by everyone but was impetuous and vain, he told her: \”Money and reputation are like running water, and they will be taken away if anything happens; but knowledge will not. Once it is engraved in the brain, it will always be there, and you have to continue studying.\” After Chen Meiling thought about it, she felt that her father\’s words made sense, so she quit her job, took off all her celebrity halo, and went to Canada to study child psychology. If Chen Meiling\’s father only focused on money, the star halo effect, immediate benefits, and short-term effects on his daughter, there would be no Chen Meiling today. When Chen Meiling talked about her father, she said that her father always loved her unconditionally and trusted her, which gave her a deep sense of security. Chen Meiling said: \”I know that even if I do nothing, my father still thinks that I am a valuable person.\” People.\” Her father always made Chen Meiling feel at ease. She drew trust and strength from her father, which also made Chen Meiling always believe in herself. Although Chen Meiling\’s father passed away very early, he left her many maxims, such as \”When you are confused, choose the most difficult road to take.\” It gives you a lot of courage and gives you a lot of sense of accomplishment.\”… These words always alert and inspire Chen Meiling when she is confused and difficult. Parents who have the correct outlook on life are a blessing to their children. When their children encounter difficulties, confusion, or critical moments of growth, they can provide them with strength, answer their questions, and provide them with correct guidance and guidance. Don’t pursue immediate benefits and short-term effects. (Chen Meiling with her three sons on the campus of Stanford University) Only by being a good person can you teach your children through words and deeds. Parents’ behavior and language are their children’s templates, and their children will imitate them. Zhang Heng, the top scorer in the Guangdong College Entrance Examination in 2017, said: His father is a very ordinary worker, but he loves learning very much. He likes to read, has a wide range of hobbies, and likes to collect useful knowledge in life. His father was conscientious and dedicated at work. As far back as he could remember, his father was often called to the workplace in the middle of the night to deal with electrical faults. His father could \”fix\” problems that others could not handle. When Zhang Heng was in college, his father, as the oldest classmate in the training class, endured the pain in his cervical spine and studied in class every day. He passed the intermediate draftsman exam and realized his long-held dream. Zhang Heng said that his father taught him with practical actions: dreams can be realized by oneself, and dreams can only be realized through hard work and diligence. As a result, Zhang Heng also likes reading and learning very much. He has a strong enterprising spirit and curiosity. When encountering difficulties in learning, he always likes to figure it out by himself and will not give up until he achieves his goal. Finally, in 2017, Zhang Heng became the top scorer in the Guangdong College Entrance Examination. still remember\”A public service announcement, \”Mom, Wash Your Feet\”? The little boy saw his mother bringing water to his grandmother to wash her feet, so he imitated the same and brought water to his mother to wash her feet. The mother\’s behavior becomes a role model for the children and establishes a sense of respect for the elderly and filial piety. Zeng Guofan was a well-known filial son. It was his father\’s service and care for his grandfather that deeply influenced Zeng Guofan. Zeng Guofan\’s grandfather was ill and had to get up many times every night. Every time, Zeng Guofan\’s father would put away the utensils first. If his grandfather\’s clothes got dirty, Zeng Guofan\’s father would change them immediately. Zeng Guofan\’s father served at his grandfather\’s bedside for many years and never complained at all. Zeng Guofan saw it in his eyes and remembered it in his heart. He talked about the way of running a family in his family letters, believing that a harmonious and prosperous family requires \”noble body, filial piety\”. Zeng Guofan was away from home all year round, but this did not affect his filial piety. Whether on the way to Beijing or while serving as an official, Zeng Guofan did not delay writing letters to his parents, and the contents of the letters were detailed. Zeng Guofan not only practiced it personally, but also often told his family members to be filial in his letters at home. In a letter to his family, he explained: \”Every elderly person in the hall must talk to each other one by one, taking care of the trouble.\” Taking care of the elderly must be careful and thoughtful, so that the elderly can feel comfortable. He also told his son: \”You should respect my wishes. Show some love and respect in front of your uncles and uncles\’ parents, always have the thought of solidarity and unity, and have no intention of discriminating against each other.\” Being yourself is the foundation for parents to educate their children well. Nowadays, many parents play with their mobile phones while working, and things at work are either delayed or not completed well. When they get home, they are immersed in computer games, and they leave the shopping, cooking and housework to each other. ; He ignores his parents, and only thinks of his parents when he has trouble having enough money to spend… The education of his children is as simple as shouting: You have to study hard, otherwise you will be useless! The education of children depends on parents. The first thing to focus on is the parents’ character, knowledge, words, deeds, and habits…the results and influence they bring to their children. As parents, you should do your job well, fulfill your responsibilities to yourself and others, continue to grow and improve yourself, and have a steady stream of love and positive energy. The input to your children will naturally be an upward force. As parents, we must be good and perfect ourselves so that we can teach our children by words and deeds, and only then can we educate and pass on the results we hope to see.