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The book \”How to Make Children Adults Again\” is written by Julie Lithcott-Haims, who received her BA from Stanford University, her MA from California Institute of the Arts, and her PhD from Harvard Law School. In previous morning readings, we have introduced some content in the book. This time, we explain what life skills children of different ages should master. 001 Four-step strategy. In fact, many parents don’t know what skills children of different ages should acquire. Even though he knew it was time for him to go to the toilet, sleep, and take a bath independently, he was still confused about how to do it. To this end, the author summarized a four-step strategy: the first step, we do it for you; the second step, we do it with you; the third step, we watch you do it; the fourth step, you complete it independently. This teaching philosophy neatly summarizes the intrinsic purpose of raising children. It also summarizes the practical path for children to become independent and avoid over-parenting. The goal of this method is to complete it independently, because the requirement of the real world is that children can perform the fourth step. 002 Skill list for 2 to 3 year olds. \”A 3-year-old child can make soy sauce.\” This is not a joke, but a fact. Although children at this age are young, they can begin to learn some basic life skills. Generally speaking, simple and easy housework and basic dressing and cleaning are not a problem for them. For example, helping to put away toys, getting dressed with the help of parents, putting taken off clothes into the dirty clothes basket, putting away one\’s own dishes after meals, brushing teeth and washing face with the help of adults, these are all good skills Development plan. But because they can\’t understand logic yet, the tasks you give them should be as clear and simple as possible. 003 Skill list for 4 to 5 year olds. Based on the previous skill training, children of this age gradually develop a sense of safety and need to be guided to remember important names and numbers. For example, knowing your full name, home address and phone number, knowing the names of your parents, and knowing how to make emergency calls. In addition to unlocking safety skills, they can complete simple cleaning tasks independently, such as feeding pets; recognizing currency denominations and how to use money; brushing teeth, combing hair, and washing faces alone; helping parents sort dirty clothes, etc. Skills like slight logic should be tried to be acquired. 004 Skill list for 6-7 year olds. Previously they mastered information security, now they can learn physical security. For example, they need to understand the different hazards of knives, fire, water and electricity; what are the different safety hazards on the road, in elevators and in vehicles. Based on an understanding of physical security, they are exposed to simple cooking techniques such as how to sort and store food, how to wash dishes, the correct way to use household cleaners and bathing safely alone. The most common mistake parents make at this age is: taking over everything. Just scolding them for being dangerous without explaining the reasons is why children will make the same mistakes again and again. 005 Skill list for 8-9 years old. \”This toy is mine.\” \”That is my clothes.\” Eight or nine years oldChildren\’s self-awareness gradually emerges, and they will be proud of their personal belongings. Therefore, it is a very good education method for parents to start from managing their own belongings. Including: folding your own clothes; doing simple sewing on stuffed toys; categorizing and storing your own toys; paying attention to personal hygiene without being reminded by others; using brooms and dustpans correctly, and classifying garbage; managing your own Change etc. By doing this, they can establish the mentality of being responsible for their own things and learn good storage habits. 006 Skill list for 10 to 13 years old. After primary school education, their thoughts began to become independent. Giving them the opportunity to handle things independently at this time is very beneficial to shaping their thinking. For example, a person can arrange his own time at home, go to the store to buy what he needs, regularly change the sheets for his bed, arrange and prepare a dinner that he likes to eat, iron and manage his own clothes, and learn to use basic tools. wait. Basically, parents need to let them handle a thing from start to finish so that they can see the gap between reality and their own thinking. Otherwise, it is difficult for them to realize the complexity of things until they find that the laundry detergent is gone when doing laundry, the salt is gone when cooking, or the keys are lost when they come home. 007 Skill list for 14 to 18 years old. Affected by their studies, it was difficult for children to have the opportunity to interact with outsiders before this. Therefore, after the age of 14, they have to learn the skills to deal with outsiders. For example, contact various stores to compare purchases of a household appliance; communicate with maintenance companies to clear drain pipes, change locks, or repair toilets; discuss matters related to homework tutoring with the institution and agree on class times; consult with doctors about drug labels and dosages; Try to attend a job interview and find a job; arrange a dinner table for your family and order food at various restaurants. Society is a large collaborative community. Learning this lesson will be of great help to them in dealing with various complex problems in the future. To sum up, for parents, the things in this list are all small things, but if everything is done for them, the children will be more than ten years old in a flash, and the lack of life skills will create obstacles for them throughout their lives. Use this list to check for gaps and help your children prepare for the future.