Do you know the perfect ending: When raising a daughter, you need to teach her 4 abilities that will last a lifetime

\”Do You Know\” finally comes to an end. The last episode has no twists and turns, and it ends perfectly. Uncle Gu and his wife continue to live in harmony with each other, their brother is white and fat, the old grandmother is in good health, and the whole family is harmonious. Minglan said that this is the ordinary life she wants. As a woman, who doesn’t want a peaceful and ordinary life? But not everyone has the ability to live this kind of life. Minglan in the play can finally win the happiness she wants, mainly because she manages it herself. Raising a daughter like Minglan is what we strive to do as parents. The following four abilities are abilities that every girl should have in her life. The ability to learn. Learning can make people transparent, learning can make people sensible, learning can make people happy, and learning can make people independent. Sister Minglan is lucky to be able to study in school with her elder brother and younger brother since she was a child. Through reading and literacy, she gradually developed her own thinking and judgment. Minglan and her grandmother discussed whether it was useful for girls to study, and they came to the conclusion: Of course it is useful for girls to study. Otherwise, why would men have worked so hard to study since ancient times? When raising a daughter, you must cultivate the habit of loving reading and learning. The conclusion that marrying well is not as good as reading is outdated. If you are not good at reading, how can you meet a higher-level person? Minglan does not have the wisdom accumulated through reading. How could Uncle Gu fall in love with her? But the ability to read is not the same as the ability to learn. Minglan\’s fourth sister, Mo Lan, reads better than Minglan and writes more beautifully than Minglan, but she lives a miserable life. When Mo Lan studied, she only used knowledge as capital to show off and as a stepping stone for her to marry into a wealthy family, but did not apply the wisdom in the books to life. The ability to learn is a lifelong ability. It allows people to always maintain a high-spirited attitude and always have a confidence from the heart. It is precisely with this ability that Minglan can be mentally independent and have the confidence to live a good life without relying on anyone. These are all acquired through learning. Why should the ability of \”recognizing people\” be mentioned separately? Because this ability is so important for girls. Some people say that marriage is managed, but if you choose the wrong person from the beginning, no matter how you manage it after marriage, it will not be as good as if you choose the right person from the beginning. Looking at Minglan\’s ability to recognize people, there are three men who are attracted to her, the young father-in-law, the second uncle Gu, and the young master of the He family. All three of them are excellent. Whoever Minglan marries is likely to have a good life. But in the end, Minglan chose Uncle Gu. It was not that Minglan had no choice, but that he chose the best option after comprehensive consideration and chose the one that suited her best. Minglan once told Uncle Gu that when faced with a difficult problem, Mr. He chose to push me to the front and let me face it alone, while you stood in front of me and blocked everything for me. Minglan knew what kind of man was more suitable for her before she got married. Even though she fell in love with the young marquis at that time, she was very determined because she already knew the weakness of the young marquis and just wanted to fight for love. Fight. Relatively speaking, Mo Lan lacks this ability to recognize people. The sixth young master of the Liang family looks glamorous on the surface, but in reality he is a playboy. Even a normal woman would not treat him like this.Be the first choice. Mo Lan, on the other hand, disdained the poor scholar with good morals and academics that her father helped her choose. She only had a soft spot for Mr. Liang, not only because of his appearance, but also because of his family background. What she didn\’t understand was that it was this person who would spend her whole life with her, not his wealth, so her tragedy was chosen by herself. The ability to decide is to be able to make a judgment on a matter, make a choice, and be able to bear the corresponding consequences. Minglan decided to marry Uncle Gu despite her grandmother\’s objections. She knew that the relationship between the Gu family was complicated, but she never looked back because she anticipated the possible consequences and believed she could solve these problems. When her grandmother was worried about Minglan\’s marriage, Minglan said that if there was no suitable one, she would rather not marry. Of course she knew the consequences of not marrying, but she firmly believed that with the money she had saved and her abilities, no one would live too badly. When the young father-in-law couldn\’t let go of his feelings for Minglan and frequently made things difficult for his second uncle, Minglan found him and firmly told him that they had long been history and that she now loved his second uncle. Before doing anything, she would think carefully about everything, consider the consequences, and then make a choice. Once she made a choice, she would have no regrets. This is Minglan\’s ability to make decisions. This ability is lacking not only in women, but also in many men. For example, the young father-in-law and the young master of the He family are constantly acting incessantly. They seem to be kind and affectionate, but in fact they are selfish. Ability to Love Uncle Gu\’s stepmother, Xiao Qin, made things difficult for him and Minglan at every turn. But when she jumped into the sea of ​​fire and was determined to die, Minglan loudly dissuaded her. When the tragedy was irreversible, Minglan shed tears; Mo Lan and her mother Lin Xiaoniang treated Minglan like that, and in the end Minglan chose to forgive Mo Lan and invited her home as a family member; Minglan treated Uncle Gu\’s daughter Ronger as her own daughter, Ronger was finally moved and called her \”mother\”. No matter how many hardships she suffered, Minglan always had a great love in her heart. Only when her heart is filled with love can she not be occupied by hatred and her heart can be soft. Lin Xiaoniang and Xiao Qin lacked this ability to love. They spent all their time and energy scheming others and planning for themselves. They wore a mask all their lives and lived a miserable life. Not everyone has the ability to love. Only by being loved can you love. Minglan has the love of her grandmother, the love of her second uncle, the love of her brother, and the love of her female companion, so she does not lack the ability to love. . A woman who can love lives softly.