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Someone once conducted a survey among Millennials and asked them what is the most important purpose of life? More than 80% of people said that their biggest life goal is to be rich, and 50% of people admitted that another important life goal is to be famous. How to become a rich and famous person has become the pursuit of most people, but how to become those people, we don\’t know where to start working hard. As the first billionaire on earth, the earliest oil tycoon in the world, and the richest American in history, in 38 letters to his son, Rockefeller shared bits and pieces of his struggles over the years, and also told us the true story of Success is the wealth of the soul. This is why we share this book \”38 Letters from Rockefeller to His Son\” with you today! Rockefeller started with the things his son encountered in his life in the most ordinary tone, sometimes praising and affirming, sometimes analyzing and encouraging, sometimes extending his own experience to give suggestions, or falling into memories and reflecting with emotion to make a summary, without dogmatic reasoning. , only the warmth from the eloquent words makes people feel encouraged and full of strength when reading it. \”38 Letters from Rockefeller to His Sons\” has been rated by the public as the most authoritative reading of Rockefeller\’s family letters, and a parenting guide passed down from generation to generation by the richest family in the United States. We extracted 6 key points from 38 letters and shared them with you in the third person. We hope that we can all learn from Rockefeller’s life wisdom. Next, let’s dive into this book together. Self-concept determines the direction of life. As a business giant, Rockefeller was often asked about the rules of success. Once when he went to the University of Chicago, several boys caught up with him and hoped that he would provide some good advice for their future development. After thinking for a long time, he shared the importance of self-concept. He said: \”The ultimate determinant of success is the \’size\’ of one\’s thoughts, and definitely not a person\’s family background, academic qualifications and other conditions. The size of one\’s thoughts determines how far we can go.\” How far, the most important thing is that we abandon the weakness of human self-deprecation, do not underestimate ourselves, and do not limit our own thoughts.\” A person\’s self-concept is the core element of personality. What kind of person you think you are will most likely What kind of person to become. Everyone wants to be important, so why don\’t most people achieve this goal? Rockefeller believed that it was a matter of attitude. Attitude is a self-concept and a materialized expression of a person\’s thoughts and spiritual elements, which has a decisive influence on our final choices and behaviors. When your attitude is one that recognizes yourself, the destructive words like ‘I’m useless’ and ‘Who am I?’ will disappear and become ‘I can, and I will! ’ This is a prerequisite for success. Rockefeller did not feel grateful for the extremely high starting point provided for his children, and even felt worried. He said that he did not reveal that he was rich when his children were young, and hoped to help them establish the value of personal struggle. Because there are too many examples of successful families but unsuccessful descendants, and rich people lack the strong desire to save themselves. Most of them will rest on the family\’s merit list without achieving much. So don’t have self-doubt because of some objective factors. Creation brings happiness. The starting point cannot determine the result. Personality and attitudeNegatives, attitudes, etc., it is a person\’s self-concept that has a major impact on the height that one may reach in life and career. Love will make life shine. No one knows what he will do in the future when he is born. When Rockefeller first started working, he was just an ordinary employee of a company. What makes him special, he attributes to his passion for his work. When he first started working, he worked as a bookkeeper. He went to work at dawn and was full of enthusiasm. As a result, his boss gave him several salary increases in a short period of time. Bosses like hard-working and motivated employees and will leave promotion opportunities to those who work hard, are loyal to their work, and are willing to spend more time at work. When Rockefeller regarded his love for work as an unquestionable belief, he was repeatedly reused, which directly led to the great direction of his subsequent career. In the letter, Rockefeller also shared an interesting fable: a boss pretended to be a passerby and went to inspect his company, with three employees distributed in three areas. The boss asked each of the three people what they were doing. The first employee said that he was chiseling stones and he could go home earlier if he finished the work. The second employee said that he was making statues. Although it was hard and tiring, he had to do it because his wife and children were still waiting for him to support him. ’ The third employee said that he was making a piece of art. After returning home, the boss promoted the third employee. He analyzed that \”the first employee regarded work as a punishment; the second employee regarded work as a tool for survival and a heavy burden; only the third employee felt deeply I love my job and find endless fun in it. Rockefeller lamented that many people think that success requires sacrifice. In fact, in the eyes of successful people, it is not considered a kind of sacrifice at all. The reason why they work hard is because they deeply love their work. This is true for work, and so is life. Only when you love it from the bottom of your heart will your life shine. It is better to act immediately than to wait for the best time. Rockefeller lamented in his letter that young people like to wait, wait for the best time, wait for everything to be ready, and basically forget it until the end. He said: \”Stop all fantasies and take action immediately from now on, because the words \’tomorrow\’, \’next week\’, and \’in the future\’ have the same meaning as what can never be done.\” Because you can wait. The longer it goes on, the more worries you will have, and if you struggle for a long time, even the initial passion will be exhausted. When you have an idea, you are the ultimate master of the idea, such as a business. The more we know that we will benefit more from it, the more proactive we will be, because whether the business succeeds or not has little to do with others. , but it is related to one\’s own interests. The same goes for if you want to get things done, don\’t wait, and don\’t care too much about other people\’s opinions. If you don\’t take action, even the most beautiful and practical philosophy in the world won\’t be able to be practiced by you. In his letter, Rockefeller shared a story about an old man catching wild boars: A few pigs from a farmer\’s family escaped and turned into wild boars, which began to attack pedestrians. The most powerful hunters in the village came, and everyone discussed the best solution day and night. , but the pigs have lived outside for too long and become strong and smart. It is difficult to find a comprehensive plan. As the days passed, everyone was still discussing countermeasures.The old man drove a donkey carrying a lot of wood and grain up the mountain to catch the pigs. When they learned that the old man was going to catch the pigs by himself, everyone was not optimistic. As a result, a month later, when everyone was preparing to go up the mountain carrying various sharp weapons, the wild boar had been caught by the old man. The old man said that his idea was very simple. If he wanted to gather pigs, he would put bait in the places where they often feed. He wanted to catch them together. But he didn’t have that much strength, so he wanted to build a fence. Once the fence was built, they would not enter, so he would feed them every time. One more tree stump was placed one at a time, and the tree stumps became more and more fences day by day, and the wild boar could no longer leave. No matter if you have no experience, you can still get good results by taking action immediately and making breakthroughs one by one. Rather than not having wisdom and good ideas, what is more frustrating is having knowledge and wisdom but not taking action. As long as action is taken, an ordinary plan, implemented and gradually developed, will be much better than a good plan that is abandoned halfway. As long as you act, even if the final result is not satisfactory, when you look back many years later, you will not forget it and applaud your actions. If you have the courage to try, difficulties will turn around. There is no smooth sailing in life. When encountering difficulties, some people like to accept fate, thinking that the general environment dictates that we should resign ourselves to fate. Rockefeller also encountered very serious situations. He shared his previous bold purchase of the Laima oil area. At that time, the oil industry was always afraid of the disaster caused by the depletion of crude oil, and even his assistants began to quietly sell the company\’s stocks. Until he discovered oil in the town of Laima, but the oil here had a smell that he couldn\’t get rid of with his ability at the time. The company\’s directors expressed opposition one after another, and some suggested that the company switch to a more stable industry. Only Rockefeller was extremely determined and felt that this was an opportunity given by God. He realized that as long as he monopolized Lema, he would have the opportunity to control the entire oil market. Finally, he waited for the only turning point. The global-scale oil refinery they created at that time required a large amount of crude oil, and the original oil fields were declining. In this case, sooner or later, they would withdraw from the European market and become losers. It was a long process to convince the directors, the waiting time was very long, and there was no result. Just when everyone thought Rockefeller was going to give up, he made a decision: invest his own money. He said: \”If I succeed in two years, the company will return the money to me. If I fail, I will bear the losses alone.\” The fact is that he succeeded. He did not resign himself to fate, but used his courage and determination to Created an irreplaceable future. There is a saying that is widely circulated: \”Success is part talent, part hard work, and indispensable luck.\” When working in Laima Town Petroleum, outsiders may think that he was lucky and God was helping him. , no one knows that even if the opportunity is in front of them, not everyone can win it. There is a saying I like very much: \”Luck is the humble word of the strong, and fate is the excuse of the weak.\” Don\’t trust fate in the face of difficulties, man can defeat God. Those who are confident, brave and proactive in meeting challenges will be particularly favored by God. In other words, when they are really determined, even if there are no more opportunities, no matter how small the possibility is in their hands, it will shine with a different brilliance. Accept unfairness and use your strengthBehind the great achievements of Jedi Strikes Back, there are countless setbacks and failures, as well as many injustices and insults. Rockefeller had only one solution: remember and then fight back with strength. Rockefeller was very poor when he was a child. When he was in middle school, he was not the only one in the group photo of his classmates because the others were all children from wealthy families. But he has always kept this photo, just to preserve all the memories and emotions when he took this photo. That day, the teacher told the students that a photographer was coming to take photos of the students in class. Rockefeller was a poor kid and taking photos was very luxurious, so when the photographer showed up, he thought of all the possible photo poses. As a result, the photographer used his finger to Pointing at him, he said to the teacher: \”Teacher, can you please stop taking pictures of that student? He is too shabbily dressed.\” While he stood obediently in the corner, he secretly swore: \”One day, I will become the best student in the world. Rich people, it doesn\’t matter what photographers take pictures. I want the most famous painter in the world to paint my portrait, just wait and see.\” When he encountered a blow, he did not acknowledge the blow, felt ashamed, lost his temper, complained about his parents, and It is to turn grief and anger into strength and then break the injustice. When he first started his business, he was short of funds, and a wealthy businessman happened to want to take a stake. He was very happy. As a result, when the wealthy businessman brought funds for their cooperation, he deleted Rockefeller\’s surname from the company\’s name. The reasoning was that Gardner was a wealthy man and using his last name would bring in more business. He felt deeply humiliated. Logically speaking, he was the real partner, and Gardner just invested a sum of money. However, he did not express his position immediately, but kept it firmly in his heart. Many years later, he used his strength to kick out the wealthy businessman and changed his surname back to his own. Insult is not a sharp blade that destroys every bit of dignity, but a more powerful motivation that urges you to work hard and persevere to realize your dreams. Everyone will be insulted sometimes, unless someone does it intentionally, otherwise, in his opinion, being insulted is because his ability is not enough to achieve the level of respect and admiration. There are too many unfairnesses in life, and it is a person\’s ability to accept and digest them, including failure after every attempt. Don\’t worry about those unpleasant experiences. After learning the lesson, hold on to the belief that it will be done, and spare no effort to work hard and struggle, and good results will come. Confusion is the norm in life. Rockefeller said that many people around him didn\’t know what they wanted to do, and many people asked him how to start a business without capital. It seems that everyone is full of confusion about their future, anxious and panicked. It seems that if they are not nervous, the turning point in life will be missed. He said that whether you are operating real estate, petroleum, steel or processing manufacturing, or being a vice president, you are dealing with people in a specific industry. The same goes for negotiations. What you compete with is not the business, but the person doing the business. You just need to know yourself and your enemy, be sincere to others, and master your own rhythm. In his letter, he shared an Arab story: A Persian named Hafed was very rich and very satisfied with his life. Suddenly one day, a monk chatted with him and made a hypothesis. If he owned adiamond mines, and his children might become kings. After hearing this hypothesis, Hafed couldn\’t sleep that night. After thinking about it all night, he began to feel unhappy. He felt that he was supposed to have a diamond mine, but now he only had hundreds of acres of fertile land and gardens, so he went there the next day. He sold all his fields and gardens and set out to find diamonds. He searched year after year, and his savings were depleted little by little. In the process of searching without a clue, he became passive and desperate, and finally ended his life. As a result, in the second year after his death, his heirs discovered diamonds in the garden originally owned by Hafed. The diamond mine Hafed was searching for was always close by. Everyone wants to get better, but no one knows what kind of results are good. Opportunities may always be around you, and you may already have the happiest life. Don’t forget to look back and stay when you move forward. Whose life is not confused? Rockefeller lamented that the road from poverty to wealth is always smooth. The most important thing is that you must believe that you are your greatest capital. When you don’t know what to do, find the hardest thing to do. When you don’t know whether the path is right, just do it to the extreme and the best. Gradually you will find that many achievements are not made because of hope, but often because of persistence. Only then did I see hope. The above is the essence of this book. There is a topic on Zhihu: Why can’t I live a good life even though I understand all the principles? There is a very heart-wrenching answer: \”Because the principles are summarized by other people\’s experiences. Chicken soup sounds good, but if you don\’t make a decision and don\’t have the perseverance to change, chicken soup will always be chicken soup.\” There are so many reasons to want to read about the success learning of great people. , it is snooping, curiosity, with desire, trying to find a way to live a peaceful life, and even mixed with the little fantasy of being able to make a comeback after watching it. When I finished reading it, my heart was burning and moved, but apart from being moved, we are still ourselves. We deeply know that if we don’t act and change, whether we read this book or not will not affect our future at all. to effect. I really like a little poem I saw accidentally: \”New York time is three hours ahead of California time, but California time does not slow down. Some people graduated at the age of 22, but waited for five years to find a good job. Some people He became a CEO at the age of 25, but died at the age of 50. Obama retired at the age of 55, and Trump only became president at the age of 70. Everyone in the world has their own development time zone. Some people around you seem to be ahead of you, but others People seem to be walking behind you. But in fact, everyone has their own pace in their own time zone. Don’t be jealous or laugh at them. They are all in their own time zone, and so are you! Life is about waiting for the right time to act.\” Everyone Everyone is afraid of missing the best opportunity. Everyone is trying to find the secret to success. What is the result? Everything actually happens in a hurry, and the quality of all results has yet to be considered. You are neither behind nor ahead, because you are at your own pace! Finally, I just want to say that the rest of my life is long, just find your own rhythm of life, be steady and present, and what you want will eventually come.