Children who don’t know how to say this will suffer a big loss in the future!

There will be many forced compromises in a person\’s life, but successful people know how to fulfill themselves rather than be humble to others. ——Judy’s mother “This is mine! You can’t take it away!” What is your first reaction when you hear your child say this? Should you stop it immediately and force the child to give the toys to others, or should you severely criticize and hope that the child will learn the principle of \”Kong Rong gives up the pear\”? Big mistake! When children say this, it is a sign of territorial awareness. Parents, please do not brush it off! What is territoriality? Animals have the consciousness of enclosure and occupation. They occupy territories within a specific range and do not infringe on each other. They have a sense of responsibility for their own territory. So what is territorial awareness for children? It is the right to own your own items, the right to control your own time, the right to privacy in your room, and the right to mental independence. Children with these four rights have a complete sense of territory. Why should we cultivate territorial awareness in children? Two days ago, I saw a highly praised answer on Zhihu regarding \”What happened to have the deepest impact on you when you were a child?\”: When I was a child, my cousin came to my house to play, and I kindly took out a picture book that I had not finished reading to share with her, but When it was time to leave, she had no intention of returning it. I reminded her to return the book to me, but my mother scolded her, \”Isn\’t it just a book? I decided to give it to my sister. It\’s yours and mine. Nothing in this house is yours!\” Later, my cousin took it. Writing a book and walking out to boss around has become a lifelong nightmare for me. After I went to college, I was bullied by my roommates in the same dormitory. I didn’t dare to speak out when my new skin care products were taken away within two days. I didn’t dare to argue when I took the blame for someone else. Seeing her child\’s self-report like this, Judy\’s mother felt sad. If she had taught her child to be humble to others when he was young, would she have always wronged herself and accomplished others? Moreover, children who do not have a sense of territory may not be able to guard a toy when they are young, and may not be able to guard the bottom line when they grow up. Therefore, cultivating children\’s territorial awareness from an early age is also promising them a bright future of their own! Cultivate children\’s territorial awareness So how to cultivate children\’s territorial awareness? Parents should start from these 4 aspects! Ownership of items Every child should have the absolute right to own and dispose of his own items. Only children who can manage their own items well can manage their own lives well. Letting children clean their own rooms and sorting out toys and items is the first step, and then comes the right to dispose of items, whether to throw them away, whether to buy new ones, or whether to give them away. All these should be decided by the children themselves! Time control teaches children to take control of their own time, instead of blindly restricting children, which is what parents should do. First guide the child\’s understanding of time, then teach the child reasonable time arrangements and make them a habit, and then make a time schedule with the child to let the child arrange his own time. At this time, parents can only guide but not interfere too much. , a big package. Room privacy For children, the room is their own territory and they need absolute privacy. When entering a room, knocking on the door, not turning over children\’s belongings at will, and making children feel that they are absolutely safe in their own territory is what parents should do.Things that should be done. Only children who can protect their own territory can better protect themselves. The right to mental independence: Only mentally independent children can have a better life. This sentence is not groundless. Stop telling your children \”What should you do?\” Instead, you should ask \”What do you want to do?\” Not dependent, not extreme, not weak, not evasive. Only such children are mentally independent and can handle things safely and even escape wisely when faced with danger. Every child is a young eagle. Parents should let their children fly so that they can have a better sky! Children with a complete sense of territory can better protect themselves and have a better future!