4 sentences from Yang Zi’s father reveal the cruelty of the meaning and role of family education

\”I am Xia Yu, I am Xia Xue, I am Hailibei.\” This classic line from \”Family with Children\” runs through the precious memories of countless people growing up. Two reorganized families and three children with different personalities interpret the daily trivial matters of every ordinary family. After 14 years, this family comedy is on the hot search again. We used to laugh when we watched it, but now we understand it when we watch it. Revisiting \”Family with Children\”, the educational concepts of father Xia Donghai still seem to be outdated and worthy of learning and reference by all us parents. 1. Making friends and communicating with children is the first hurdle for parents to educate their children. Good communication is the foundation of education and the first prerequisite for reasoning with children. Liu Mei, played by Song Dandan in \”Family with Children\”, is probably a true portrayal of millions of our parents. Even those \”Huang Xiaoming-style\” domineering lines seem familiar. They often completely deny the children in one sentence: \”You, what are you? , what do you know?\” \”What\’s the use of doing this!\” Because of this, his son Liu Xing has always been resistant to his mother, and he is unwilling to speak his true feelings to his mother. On the contrary, facing the rebellious Liu Xing, his father Xia Donghai\’s treatment The approach is completely different. He used a \”buddy\” attitude to communicate with Liu Xing, which really opened up the children\’s hearts. He not only solved many problems, but also made them good friends who talked about everything. When we always face our children with a posture of \”I have walked a road with more salt than you eat\”, we have erected an insurmountable high wall between each other. Not only will the children become more rebellious and difficult to restrain, There may also be an inferiority complex and an extreme personality. In fact, many times we can lower our profile, be friends with our children, treat our children as equal and independent individuals, and encourage our children to express their desires. This not only allows you to understand the child\’s inner world, but also enhances the parent-child relationship. Respecting children\’s privacy rights. Xia Donghai, a father of three children in the play, interpreted the issue of children\’s privacy rights this way: \”In a large sense, it is a sign of the progress of social civilization. In a small way, a child cannot get How can you learn to respect others by respecting her?\” A child who is not respected for his privacy will naturally not know how to respect others, and a child who is constantly under surveillance cannot see the world clearly. In a movie called \”Angel of the Ark\”, in order to keep track of her child\’s activities, a mother implanted a chip in her brain and used a parent monitor to monitor her child\’s every move. After the daughter, who could not bear the torture, protested by mutilating herself, the psychiatrist only gave her mother a solution – \”throw away the parental monitors.\” The children under surveillance have no privacy, just like the king in new clothes, like Truman being deceived, ridiculous and sad. There is no future without self. I remember reading this sentence: \”As a mother, I know how difficult and important it is to let go appropriately.\” Every child is the darling of his parents, and we don\’t want to see them get hurt even a little bit. But at the same time, children are also independent individuals, and we cannot impose our own ideas on them. Letting go appropriately and respecting the privacy of our children is an important lesson for us as parents. Teach children optimismWhat to do when you see setbacks? Xia Donghai encouraged Xiaoxue when she was frowning, \”First, be calm, second, be strong, third, be united, and the most important thing is optimism!\” Darwin said: \”Optimism is the beacon of hope, it guides you to step out of the dangerous canyon. Towards a smooth road gives you new life and new hope, and supports your ideals never to be extinguished.\” Life is not always smooth sailing, and people will encounter many setbacks. Some people are unable to recover when they encounter setbacks, while others can find new ways to overcome difficulties. This all depends on a spirit called \”optimism\”. Failure is not terrible, what is terrible is despair. In recent years, there has been constant news about children jumping off buildings, committing suicide, and taking poison. The parents who have worked so hard to raise them are heartbroken, and those who know the news are even more sad. We taught them patience, taught them manners, taught them how to read, but we forgot to tell them optimism. I hope that a hundred years from now, the most valuable asset we can leave to our children is our courage, perseverance and optimism in the face of setbacks. Because it is every parent’s simplest and most sincere wish for their children to be safe and happy. Parents should set an example at all times. Parents are their children\’s best teachers and first teachers. Take Huang Lei for example. He himself is an excellent teacher and actor, and his daughter Duoduo is the idol in the hearts of many children. She can be regarded as \”someone else\’s child.\” On his and Sun Li\’s social platforms, we can often see them reading together, doing housework together, and going out together. Some time ago, Huang Lei also uploaded a photo of Duoduo accompanying him to read at night. He was pleased to express that Duoduo has now developed the habit of sleeping together. Good habit of reading beforehand. When children grow up, it is easiest for them to imitate their familiar parents. Just like a newborn imitates the speech of his parents, the influence of his parents\’ style will directly affect the development of the child\’s personality and habits. For example, it is difficult for a father who likes to watch TV to raise a child who loves to read, and a mother with a bad temper cannot raise a child who is patient; a parent who likes to run red lights rarely follows the rules… On the contrary, if parents lead by example, their children will learn from nature while watching. Sensible and well-behaved, teaching is effortless. Just like Xia Donghai rejects dishonest producers in the play, whatever qualities you want your children to have, you must first possess them yourself. Children\’s education is always a lesson that parents can never finish. It cannot be repeated and failure is not allowed. Many parents are like soldiers who are about to go to war after picking up a gun for the first time. They are always in a hurry and are afraid of making mistakes and even more afraid of saying something wrong and delaying their children\’s life. In fact, parents don’t need to be nervous. It’s okay to learn and grow together with your children. Just be yourself, and your children will be just like you. If you calm down, your children will also be able to thrive. Just like the mother Liu Mei in \”Family with Children\” often gets angry when her children are naughty, and the father Xia Donghai also makes mistakes when educating his children, parents are not perfect, and there is no standard answer for education. The most important education is always the education of love. No matter how much theoretical knowledge you have, it cannot compare to your love for your children!