How to raise children? The best parents grow up with their children

Avoid common misunderstandings and discipline your children correctly Regarding how to raise children, all parents have good intentions, but children will still have problems. At this time, parents should calmly reflect on whether there is something wrong with the educational methods they adopt. If parents adopt an emotionally guided parenting style, they can prevent their children from encountering difficulties in social interactions and career development when they grow up. Emotionally nurturing children from the moment they are born can help parents and children build a good intimate relationship. The author warns us that we must pay attention to avoid some common misunderstandings during implementation. Parents should not become controlling and indulgent parents, and should not often despise, underestimate, or deny their children\’s feelings. Parents should also not frequently use external incentives and rewards. Parents have a responsibility to let their children know that they should do the right thing even if there is no reward. Parents should not use negative consequences as punishment. Punishing children in order to teach them a lesson will not make them understand where they went wrong. So how do parents specifically implement emotional guidance for their children? Before launching emotional guidance, parents must first understand their children\’s personality and their daily performance. Parents should adjust the way of emotional guidance according to the characteristics of their children, and also choose different parenting methods according to their children\’s age. The author mentioned her two sons in the book. The eldest son has always been very obedient. When there are differences of opinion on some matters, he will discuss them with his mother and resolve them. The younger son is very disobedient and often runs around the house when it\’s time to eat or take a bath. When dealing with the eldest son, the author will discuss some matters with him directly. When dealing with his younger son, no matter how irritating his behavior is at the time, the author will calm down first, then go over and give him a warning, and then let him choose what to do next. This kind of emotional guidance method that respects children is very effective. When children are given the choice, their naughty behavior will be restrained. Parents should also learn to follow the education method where habits become natural. Emotional guidance also has key steps, which we must complete step by step. Before doing things, plant seeds in the children\’s minds in advance, then make observations and judgments, and finally listen more to the children\’s voices. The author brings up this topic in the morning when he plans to take his children out for dinner. You will be reminded on the way to the bus and again before entering the hotel. Because the seeds of cooperation are planted in children’s minds in advance, they tend to abide by the rules. When parents achieve the above correct methods of emotional guidance, they must pay attention to maintaining harmony and unity in their words and deeds in order to effectively guide their children. Children should be raised in this way during infancy. At different stages of growth, each period will be an educational opportunity. To provide emotional guidance to children, we should start working with them from infancy to plant the gene of intimacy. As parents we should do the following. First of all, we must carefully observe the children. Parents should pay more attention to their children, carefully observe their body language, and pay attention to every reaction of the baby at any time. Hug and comfort them often. Have more positive communication with your baby and do more activities to deepen your relationship. Can imitate the sounds made by the baby,Touch objects to your child\’s skin to let them feel the touch. Listen to some soothing and brisk music appropriately and do exercises with your children. Secondly, we must learn to guide and divert children\’s attention. When infants and young children come into contact with dangerous things, parents should guide them in time and divert their children\’s attention. Soothe your child when he cries. Finally, you must ensure a regular schedule and take your children out frequently. Adhering to a fixed sleep time can give children a sense of security and develop a good habit of sleeping on time. Take your children out frequently to create more opportunities for them to like interacting with other people. How to Raise Children of Two or Three Years Old After talking about the emotional guidance of infants and young children, let’s take a look at how to raise children of two or three years old. The author gives a clear answer in the book on how to do it specifically. First of all, you must not use violence and take good care of your children. Hitting children is not conducive to their mental development and can also cause physical harm. Spanking children will only teach them to use violence in disguise. Secondly, give your children a chance to think calmly. The author wrote in the book that a father posted a video of his child being punished online. In the video, you can see a two-year-old child standing in the corner for punishment. His mother repeatedly asked him if he was still making trouble. The child cried and shook his head and said he would stop making trouble. In fact, what he said in his heart was that I don\’t like being punished. For children aged two or three, parents cannot use such punishment to stop their wrong behavior. Correct communication and guidance should be provided to train the child to learn to think, and then ask him whether he thinks he is doing the right thing. More often than not, parents should recognize their children\’s efforts rather than blindly reward them. Cultivate children\’s inner sense of accomplishment and help them evaluate themselves. Finally, parents must also teach their children to share. Diverting children\’s attention, parents sharing things in front of children, allowing children to give toys to children, and playing alone for a while before playing can all guide children to learn to share. Correctly cope with the growth challenges of children aged four to seven When children grow up day by day, they will soon reach school age. Children during this period have reached a sufficient level of intelligence and can make some decisions based on their own thoughts and feelings. When conducting emotional guidance with children, the author mentioned in the book that parents need to pay attention to the following things: Parents should carefully understand their children\’s personality. Give them the opportunity to express their emotions. Through continued cooperation with children, their sense of responsibility is slowly developed. Teach your children good manners and social etiquette. Teach your children to speak and behave appropriately in public places and teach them to respect other people’s privacy. We must also correctly deal with children\’s habit of complaining. Find out why your children are complaining and let them learn to express their opinions correctly. At the same time, parents should also set an example for their children, store items in fixed locations, and slowly let their children regard organizing things as a daily habit. Childcare is the only job in the world that cannot be quit. Many parents feel this way. The work is stressful and there are elderly parents waiting to take care of them, but their children are not well-behaved and sensible. When the child is disobedient, I really feel that I am too tired. But we can\’t give up our children,As a parent, childcare is the only job in this world that you cannot quit. We cannot allow this bad situation to continue and we must get out of inappropriate educational methods immediately. The author mentioned in the book that as long as we do the following points, we can be competent in the job of raising children. First of all, parents must face up to the past and recognize their own weaknesses. We must first get rid of the negative influences caused by our own childhood and not let the legacy of the past affect our current concepts and behaviors. Recognize your own weaknesses and try to control your emotions when facing your children. While understanding your own weaknesses, you must also understand and respect your child\’s personality. Allow children to be themselves, encourage them to develop their own personalities, and give them the opportunity to make free choices. Secondly, we must not let adult troubles erode the child\’s world. Deepening the relationship between husband and wife is beneficial to the entire family and the education of children. If the child is divorced and reorganized or is a single family, emotional guidance should be used to help the children deal with the real situation correctly. Don\’t cause your children to have serious psychological problems because of their family situation. The last and most critical point is to leave some time for yourself. Parents who are under great pressure cannot take good care of their children. We must learn to adjust our lifestyle and create some relaxed and happy atmosphere for ourselves. You can\’t just put raising children and maintaining family harmony first, you must know how to love yourself and enjoy the good times. The above is the essence of this book. Children with the same qualifications will have different results if they meet different parents. Therefore, on the road to raising children, educational methods are really important, and it is also important to improve parents\’ own abilities. In the process of raising children, we must first learn to discover our own problems. Because under the influence of any problematic parent, a problematic child will always be created. There are no people in this world who are born to be parents. We don’t need to criticize ourselves harshly, but education is a way to awaken ourselves. We still need to persuade our children outwardly and ourselves inwardly. Children need the help of their parents on their way to growth. Only our effective support today will create a bright future for our children tomorrow.