The greatest blessing for a family is to raise excellent children

There is a question on Zhihu: What is the greatest blessing for a person? The highest praise answer is: \”The greatest blessing for a person is to raise excellent children.\” Zeng Guofan also said: \”I do not hope that every generation will be rich, but I hope that every generation will have talents. Scholars are the seeds of reading and the seeds of aristocratic families. It is a signboard and a banner of ethics and education.\” Smart people all know how to cultivate their children with care. Because excellent children are the greatest blessing for a family. Last week, my cousin told me that her son Xiaoyuan got an offer from a well-known company. My cousin was very happy and emphasized that it was worth all the effort spent cultivating him over the years. I know how much my cousin cares about her children. In the past few years, in order to accompany their children to study, my cousin and cousin-in-law never went out to socialize, and they took their children to class in wind or rain. My cousin once said that they made detailed and careful plans for their children and stayed with them all year round to abide by these rules. She also bought various teaching aids and listened to her children’s tutoring classes in order to answer their questions. Usually, I always study and discuss with my children. In this way, Xiaoyuan always had good grades and later entered a well-known university in Beijing. Seeing Xiaoyuan\’s excellence reminded me of my second aunt\’s son. The second aunt and her husband have been doing business outside for many years, and their children have been left behind in their hometown since they were young. My cousin is two years younger than me. He goes to the same junior high school as ours. I often hear that he skips class and goes out to play games. He often falls asleep even in the classroom. I told him that he had to work hard to study, but he told me that my parents didn\’t care, and that was all I had to do anyway. Later, after my cousin finished junior high school, he went into business with his second aunt. But over the years, I heard that he was just messing around in business and lost a lot of money to his second aunt. During the Chinese New Year, the second aunt was angry and sad when she mentioned her cousin, and felt that she owed her child a lot. Many people always think that success in career is happiness when they are young, but when they get older, they realize that true happiness is when their children are outstanding. In this year\’s \”The First Lesson of School\”, Dong Qing said: \”When educating children, you choose to discipline and accompany them. When the children grow up, the money you have never earned in your life will be earned in one year! If your children are excellent, you will keep them. What are you doing with money? If your child is no longer useful, what are you going to do with the money?\” He agreed. Raising excellent children is the most important thing for parents in the first half of their lives. Parents love their children and have far-reaching plans. Loving your children deeply and raising them to be better is the best love parents can give their children. There are many ways for a person to succeed, but as a parent, the best success is to educate excellent children. An excellent child not only means that he will have a broader future, but also represents the foresight and wisdom of his parents. Only when parents support their children unconditionally can children build a strong foundation and become better bit by bit. Not long ago, the documentary \”Post Zero\” became popular among friends. The boy Chi Yiyang touched people the most. He was very naughty in kindergarten, leading a group of children to fight with sticks, climb trees, dig tunnels, etc. After entering elementary school, Chi Yiyang had poor grades and was criticized every day. He was also very confused. Later, Chi Yiyang\’s parents found another way for him. Since entering middle school, Chi Yiyang has been learning rugby, and his previous self-confidence and explosiveness have returned. In an international rugby youth competition, he was selected into the national team and won the honorary title on behalf of the national team.Got the victory. In Chi Yiyang, we can clearly see the efforts parents make for their children to excel. No matter what the child is like, parents should try their best to find the advantages in him and cultivate them carefully. Because whether a child is excellent or not, to some extent, represents whether the parents have the ability to discover and cultivate. I once saw a painter’s sharing. His son likes to keep diaries, but the words written in each day\’s diary are messy and the language is unclear. Reading it makes people laugh. But the artist was very proud to take pictures of his son\’s diary for everyone to see, and he was very happy to point out a certain sentence. This imaginative sentence proved the child\’s power. Sure enough, his son\’s compositions became better and better. The ability of parents is not only reflected in whether they can educate their children well, but also in whether they can see their children\’s shining points and work hard to cultivate their children\’s bright spots. Socrates said: \”Education is not indoctrination, but igniting the fire in the heart.\” When parents grasp the shining points of their children, cultivate them with loving hearts and actions based on their personal strengths, the children will inevitably reveal their best qualities. Awesome side. As the educator Tao Xingzhi said: \”The whole secret of education is to believe in children and liberate them.\” The key to children\’s excellence is that parents are good at discovering it. Plato said: \”Education is not about him, but the turning of the soul.\” Every word and deed of parents to their children will be an important force in guiding the direction of their children\’s souls. Anyone who has watched \”Qi Pa Shuo\” will remember the girl Zhan Qingyun. During the show, she won the admiration of many people as soon as she opened her mouth. Many people said, \”Adopting a daughter should be like Zhan Qingyun.\” Zhan Qingyun is indeed very powerful. He graduated with a doctorate in law from Harvard University. He was the overall winner of \”Wonderful China\” in 2015 and so on. Behind such an excellent Zhan Qingyun, there are the good intentions of her parents hidden behind her. In order to give Zhan Qingyun a better learning environment, her parents took her to transfer schools 6 times. Before high school, Zhan Qingyun had always had poor grades and was laughed at by her teachers and classmates at school, but her parents always believed in her. When even Zhan Qingyun doubted herself, her mother said to her with certainty: \”Don\’t worry, I believe your grades will be good in high school.\” In order to cultivate her, her parents gave her full freedom and affirmation. Encouragement in learning and strong support in hobbies. These have allowed Zhan Qingyun to develop good habits of optimism, confidence, and rigorous self-discipline. Parents’ dedication and love are the source of spiritual nourishment for their children. Likewise, there are the parents of the twin PhDs this summer. When the brothers were three years old, the couple was laid off from their jobs. In order to raise his children, his father drove a taxi, and his mother stayed with the brothers when they were young. Later, the expenses for the two\’s schooling became more and more expensive, and their mother started working odd jobs here and there. The family has lived in a 30-square-meter single dormitory for more than ten years, and all the money they have saved is used to provide nutrition for their children. The couple admitted frankly that since the birth of their child, they decided to nurture them well no matter how hard or tiring they were. More than ten years have passed. The two brothers are successful in their studies. They also help their mother with work and give her mother massages in between work, which makes others envious. When parents\’ love turns into support bit by bit, children will understand the meaning and responsibility of hard work and be more energetic. British psychology professor Wiseman said: \”There is huge righteousness hidden in everyone\’s heart.Energy, when used correctly, can accomplish great things. \”When children get enough love, this emotional richness makes them more and more powerful, and they can grow into very powerful people. I remember reading a sentence: \”Everything you encounter is because of you. Come. \”For children, excellence is because they feel enough love from their parents and grow up under their careful cultivation. For parents, the best inner comfort and happiness are the blessings brought by their children\’s excellence. Lin Yutang once said: \”Blessings do not come from outside, but arise from within. \”To raise excellent children, all the hard work and hardships of parents will be a happy contribution. And this will also be best interpreted: this contribution is worthwhile and beautiful. The so-called blessing is nothing but our If you save enough good things, you will get the best rewards. The best savings is to save on your children. Let your children become the person they want to be and be a comfortable and confident person. As parents, we are willing to give everything for our children. But We should devote more energy to exploring the potential of our children. Only by cultivating children can parents have a happy old age. This is also the greatest blessing for a family. May we all remember: do our best to find the best in our children. The bright spots are then slowly cultivated so that every child can have a bright future.