3 years old, 7 years old, and 10 years old, three transitional periods in a child’s life! The most promising thing is to take care of your children like this

Studies have shown that children’s brains are nearly mature during their teenage years. This means that teenage children’s behavioral habits, ways of thinking and personality traits have gradually stabilized and are unlikely to change easily. But before that, children will go through three transition periods in behavioral habits and personality traits, which are caused by the rapid development of the brain and body. These three transition periods generally occur around the ages of 3, 7, and 10 years old. Children in these three age groups can easily make parents feel \”bad\” or \”naughty\”, but in fact, this is just a \”side effect\” of the child\’s growth. If parents can understand the psychological needs and desires hidden behind their children\’s \”misbehavior\” and \”naughty\” and respect their children\’s growth, they can avoid a lot of troubles. Therefore, you must take care of yourself in this way during the three most important transitional periods in your child’s life! 3 years old, the stubborn and anxious \”little devil\” is born. When he is one or two years old, it may be the most well-behaved and cutest time in a child\’s life. He is ignorant and ignorant. As long as there are delicious and fun things, there are usually very few. Losing his temper. However, as the child\’s brain and body develop, he will become more and more aware of external things, his self-awareness will become stronger and stronger, and he will do whatever he wants. Therefore, during the period from about 2 to 4 years old, the child\’s emotions will enter the first unstable period, which can also be said to be the first rebellious period. Children at this stage are sometimes very \”greedy\”. As long as they see a toy they like, whether it is their own or not, they will cry and make a fuss to take it home. Sometimes, children are also very \”independent\” and do not like others to touch it. He opened his mouth and said \”leave me alone\”, \”get out\” and \”don\’t sleep\”. It was so embarrassing… Why is this happening? Children around the age of 3 begin to have a strong sense of autonomy and become very competitive. Children at this time feel that they are great from the bottom of their hearts and always want everything around them to go according to their own wishes. A child around 3 years old still doesn\’t know how to express his emotions. For example, he really wants to eat beans with a fork, but his mother has to give him a different spoon. He is very unhappy, but he doesn\’t know how to express his unhappiness. So I simply expressed it in the most instinctive way – crying and rolling. So how should we treat children around 3 years old? Take advantage of your child\’s sense of competition. If you say to your child: \”Look at the toys you are throwing around here, quickly pick them up for me!\” I estimate that the child may be indifferent, and even if you pick them up, they will be slow and reluctant. However, if you put it another way: \”These toys are not played with anymore, right? Come, let\’s compete to see who can throw them into the box faster!\” At this time, the child will usually be very interested. Because at this stage, children love to compete and interact with their parents. Why do you greet your child in advance when it’s time to eat, but your child still cries and doesn’t want to leave in front of the TV? Because it feels terrible to suddenly pull your child out of something they are immersed in. A better way is to greet the child in advance so that the child can be mentally prepared, so that his inner resistance will be smaller: \”Baby, when the long hand of the clock reaches 5, we have to go out. You Pay attention!\” 7 years old, loves to talk back and play devil\’s advocate\”After the first rebellious period of about 3 years old, the children will usher in a stable period of about two or three years, in which they are relatively well-behaved, lively, and sensible. However, starting from about the age of 7, many children begin to enter elementary school. , the new environment, new life circle, and new knowledge allow the child\’s brain and body to start a new round of growth. So at this stage, the child begins to enter the second rebellious period, and some children will continue until Around 9 years old. Children in this period always feel that they have grown up and want to make decisions on many things by themselves, so they often conflict with their mother. For example, whether doing homework or doing other things, children always have bad habits of dawdling and procrastination. Habits cannot be changed no matter how many times you talk about them. Children in this period love to join \”cliques\”. They are always running around with their friends, playing and making noises. Sometimes they even forget to do their homework and eat… which makes them even more troublesome. Yes, you say something to him, but he still talks back to you. How to deal with a child around 7 years old? Accept the child\’s playful nature. Why do children talk back and rebel? A big reason is that he feels that he is not Freedom, it feels like parents always force themselves as adults. Children aged 7 or 8 are naturally active and noisy, and are particularly energetic. They definitely need to play with their friends to vent their excess energy and learn. Dealing with interpersonal relationships and establishing a small circle of one\’s own. If parents often use \”unbehaved\” or \”naughty\” as excuses to suppress and suppress their children, the children will have a great sense of depression and parent-child conflicts will definitely occur. In fact, as long as the children Once the homework that needs to be done is completed and no danger occurs, we should not interfere too much with the children\’s play and fuss. After all, it is not a good thing to turn a 7 or 8-year-old child into a boring gourd who likes to stay at home. Establish \” An example of \”playing well\” and \”learning well\” When a child enters elementary school, the most worrying thing for parents should be their child\’s study. And in order to motivate the child, the most common thing to say is: Look at XXX , you study at home honestly after school, unlike you, like a homeless little lunatic… But in fact, this kind of \”motivation\” method emphasizes how much time is spent on homework, not on homework. Over time, it is easy for children to develop the habit of dilly-dallying and procrastinating. Therefore, we can put it another way: \”Child, your classmates have finished their homework and went out to play. You should also write well. After you finish your homework, go out and have fun!\” \”Protect children\’s self-esteem and eliminate negative emotions caused by poor grades. For example, when a child does not do well in math, he is already feeling very uncomfortable. If parents continue to blame them blindly, the child may become more resistant to math and become more aggressive. I have no confidence. A better way is to use examples from parents’ childhood as an introduction to guide the children step by step. My child, there is something I have never told others. In fact, when my mother was in elementary school, she scored 25 points in the math test! Haha, Not as good as you! But later, with the help of the teacher, I caught up again! Do you want to know how I caught up? In this way, the follow-up work will be very easy to start. 10~12 years old, the uneasiness and beauty before maturity Puberty is actually very beautiful. Children’s bodies developThere have been earth-shaking changes, and my thinking and understanding have become increasingly mature and independent. But why do many parents always think of “rebellious” and “disobedient” when they mention adolescent children? The reason is also very simple. Parents will know if they think about it: Do the elderly at home sometimes nag you? I think you don’t know how to live your life, you think you play with mobile phones, you think you don’t know how to take care of children… At this time, you must be upset, and you blurt out: \”Mom, I am such an adult, I don’t know what to do.\” , Don’t worry about it! Go dance in the square quickly, don’t worry about it here!” In fact, the mood of an adolescent child when you are nagging you is exactly the same as the mood when you are being nagged by an old man! Adolescent children have begun to change in the direction of adults. They need respect, a little space and secrets of their own, and democratic treatment by parents. At this time, if parents continue to use the same methods to control children, they will definitely resist, resist, and develop a rebellious mentality. When children begin to enter adolescence, one of the most important things parents need to do is to win their children\’s approval through understanding and respect. Once the child feels your understanding and respect, the problems in study and life will be easy to solve, otherwise you will have to make trouble with the child. When a child is misbehaving or naughty, think about it, this is a \”side effect\” of growth, and you will feel relieved; think about it again, has the child entered a certain growth transition period? This will make it easier for you to deal with it!