The National People\’s Congress passed the \”Family Education Promotion Law\” on October 23, 2021. This is a milestone in China\’s family education and a new starting point in history. The \”Family Education Promotion Law\” is extremely important and rich in content. The fundamental point is to clarify the main responsibilities of parents or other guardians in family education, as well as the coordinated support of the state and society for family education. This is a legal obligation that parents need to understand and practice, and it is also a legal responsibility that the country and society need to implement. Download the complete collection of a real Yu Shiwei lecture: Preschool children’s family education story case selection, all 156 issues. There is no doubt that the new era not only gives parents sacred responsibilities, but also puts forward unprecedented high standards and requirements for parents’ educational literacy. Because the new era needs strong parents. Without strong parents, there will be no strong offspring, and there will be no strong nation and hope. In fact, in the face of the opportunities and challenges of the times, generations of parents have assumed the main responsibility for family education, and the healthy growth of generations of children is enough to prove that the vast majority of parents are competent and even powerful. However, there is an obvious misunderstanding in family education guidance work, that is, there is too much criticism and insufficient support for parents. Many parents have very embarrassing memories, such as being scolded or sarcastic by a teacher, as if any shortcomings in their children were the parents\’ fault. Just imagine, if parents collapse inside, what hope will there be for family education? It is true that the growth of adolescents and children is deeply influenced by their families, but exaggerating the responsibilities of parents is not conducive to solving the problem, and it is not conducive to strengthening the self-confidence of parents. The successful practice of family education tells us that we must unswervingly believe in our parents, believe that parents have strong abilities, and believe that children also have strong potential. Under such a premise, we must teach parents how to love their children rationally, including perseverance. Correct values, respecting children\’s rights, drawing clear boundaries between right and wrong, etc., and ultimately cultivating truly healthy people with the goal of happiness. The Family Education Promotion Law clearly stipulates the important content and responsibilities of family education in Article 2 of the General Provisions: “Family education as referred to in this Law refers to the implementation of family education by parents or other guardians in order to promote the comprehensive and healthy growth of minors. The cultivation, guidance and influence of moral character, physical quality, life skills, cultural accomplishment, behavioral habits and other aspects.\” Article 3 of the General Provisions also emphasizes: \”Family education has the fundamental task of cultivating moral character and cultivating people.\” Article 16 also stipulates six specific contents of family education. These legal principles show that family education has its own essence and characteristics. It is a rich and colorful life education. It is an education that teaches children how to behave through life practice, rather than chasing exam rankings and entering prestigious schools. compete. This is the original guidance, which has extremely practical significance for parents in the context of \”double reduction\”. Growth and education are orderly. What exactly is a strong parent? Or what are the most important characteristics of good parents? Perhaps, it can be basically summarized in 12 words, that is: companionship, role model, discovery, respect, support, and growth. Companionship is like a seedling that cannot live without sunshine and rainLu, minors, especially young children, are in great need of companionship, and they need the companionship of love and wisdom. The Family Education Promotion Law establishes the principle of \”personal nurturing and strengthening parent-child companionship.\” The psychological parenting theory of criminal psychologist Professor Li Meijin tells us that in the process of raising children, parents establish a close attachment relationship with their children, which is the key to family education. The cornerstone, without nurturing, there is no education. Therefore, the first duty of parents is to provide loving companionship. Please note that children do not need the company of their mother alone, they also need the company of their father. Companionship requires love, physical strength, and perseverance. During the 2008 Beijing Olympics, Li Hong, the chief representative of the International Olympic Committee in China, brought us a classic case. She grew up in Tianjin. Since the first grade of elementary school, her father took her running every day until she graduated from high school. With 12 years of companionship and 12 years of persistence, Li Hong kept running even when she entered university and later studied abroad. Li Hong developed a good habit of persisting in exercise and grew into a confident, self-reliant college student with excellent academic performance. The nine years of primary and secondary school can be said to be a critical period for growth. How many contradictions and ups and downs may it be accompanied by? The father insisted on running with him, allowing his daughter to enter the green channel of growth. This is the charm of companionship. The biggest gain from long-term companionship is to guide children to develop good habits and then form a healthy personality. As the saying goes, children grow up watching their parents’ backs, so teaching by example is more important than teaching by words. Family tradition has a huge impact on a person\’s growth, and the words and deeds of parents are the key factors in forming family tradition. As Dr. Hong Ming said, for a person, values occupy a core position in his or her personality structure and play a decisive role in his or her behavior, way of thinking, and moral quality. Family is the cradle for the formation of a person\’s values. The key to the formation of a person\’s values is determined by his or her family values (family tradition). Therefore, the role of parents as an example has become the most direct, effective and important form of family education. For example, you should do the things you ask your children to do first, and do not do the things you are not allowed to do. There are many examples of parents taking the lead in reading and influencing their children to fall in love with reading. Family education is mainly life education. As the educator Tao Xingzhi said, a good life is a good education, and a bad life is a bad education. As researcher Chu Zhaohui said, unlike old education which only repeatedly emphasized \”being a human being\” from the perspective of moral constraints, Tao Xingzhi greatly enriched the connotation of \”being a human being\” and regarded cultivating \”vitality\” as the basis of \”being a human being\” and creating an ideal society as a The goal of \”being a human being\”. Vitality includes \”a healthy body, the ability to work, a scientific mind, an interest in art, and a spirit to transform society.\” The \”Family Education Promotion Law\” stipulates: \”Help minors establish a correct concept of labor, participate in labor within their capabilities, improve their ability to take care of themselves and live independently, and develop good habits of enduring hardship and hard work and loving labor.\” For example. It is said that if parents love life and can cook delicious food, they have set a good example for their children. The children are likely to love life and even be willing to do housework. If parents hate doing housework and there is a lack of fireworks in the house, they are always used to calling in outsiders.Sell, family life is poor and boring, how can children like family life? It’s even less likely to like doing housework. On the eve of National Day, I went back to my hometown in Qingdao to celebrate my 97-year-old mother’s birthday. Because the old man was ill and bedridden, I proposed to reduce the number of meals at home, but the old mother insisted on \”leaving home to eat dumplings and returning home noodles.\” If you think about it carefully, I have been away from my hometown for 43 years, and I enjoy this tradition every time I return home. Not only that, the noodles and dumplings at home have \”mom\’s taste\”. Therefore, I feel that my old mother is truly the hero of life and a role model for our whole family. I found that I have a basic point of view, that is, the entire mission of children\’s education can be summarized in 12 words, that is, discovering children, liberating children, and developing children. The first is to discover that good parents will promptly discover the changes and needs of their children and provide them with the necessary understanding, help and support. Discovering children\’s potential advantages early is the special and sacred mission of powerful parents. No one cares more about and understands your children than you do. Who will discover it if you don\’t discover it? And a person\’s life depends on the development of advantages, and it can even be said that he lives by advantages. A life without discovering advantages may be a life of confusion. In terms of theoretical basis, Gardner\’s theory of multiple intelligences describes a framework for us. Everyone has more than 8 intelligences, but each person\’s intelligence combination or advantages are different. The Chinese proverb \”Three hundred and sixty practices will lead to the number one scholar\”, which also reveals the secret. The problem is that children’s potential advantages are not easy to discover. This requires not only care but also conditions, especially rich and colorful practice. Of course, there is a process for discovering children\’s advantages, from false advantages to real advantages, from small advantages to big advantages. Continuous discovery is growth. The earlier you discover, the more likely you are to take the initiative in education. At the same time, parents should communicate more with their children, paying special attention to their children\’s self-discovery. It was when I was 11 years old that I discovered the strong happiness of reading, and began a life-changing literary dream. This discovery was like a powerful engine inside my heart, giving me the motivation to grow, and like a torch lighting up my long life path. I can’t imagine myself without this discovery. Respect For many parents, the most difficult thing to do is to respect their children, and the distinctive feature of strong parents is precisely to respect their children. For example, many parents expect their children to enter prestigious schools and obtain high-paying, safe and decent careers. A survey by the China Youth Research Center found that parents most want their children to choose careers such as civil servants. However, what attitude will you adopt when your children make choices that are completely different from what their parents expect? A mother in Qingdao told me that her daughter’s college entrance examination scores were very good and she could have entered Tsinghua University and Peking University, but she chose to study at a university specializing in foreign-related police services because her dream was to be a modern police officer. The mother was very conflicted, but she still respected her daughter\’s choice. Parents today should note a change. As China gradually enters an era of affluence, the choices of children may change significantly, that is, they will no longer seek food and clothing as the goal, but focus more on the realization of personal interests and dreams. This is naturally the progress of civilization. Chinese Youth ResearchThe survey data provided by Xinxin in 2016 proves this: from 2005 to 2015, the main order of academic expectations for children is still a doctorate, followed by a master\’s degree and a bachelor\’s degree. However, the expectations of those born in the 2000s for a doctoral degree are 16.3% lower than those born in the 1990s. Parents’ expectations for their children’s academic qualifications also show the same downward trend, and they are gradually returning to a rational attitude. (3) Educator Montessori has a basic educational point of view, that is, parents should not be the molders of their children, but should be the facilitators of their children\’s growth. Using the legal principles of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child and China’s Minors Protection Law, we must respect the four basic rights of children or minors, namely the right to survival, the right to development, the right to protection and the right to participate. In short It is \”child-friendly\”, putting children first and maximizing children\’s interests. Of course, we must recognize the immaturity of minors. Respecting children does not mean only following their opinions, but listening carefully to their opinions, accepting reasonable opinions, and analyzing and guiding unreasonable opinions. For example, Shenzhen Cuibei Experimental Primary School and other schools have a good family education model, which is to hold family meetings frequently, which not only ensures children\’s right to participate in family life, but also solves many problems that trouble children. This is true respect. Support Children are the ones who need the most support, because children have colorful dreams but lack the ability and experience to realize them. They are most eager to get help from adults. There is no doubt that caring parents are most likely to be supportive and especially liberating to their children. Educator Tao Xingzhi has an important proposition: to liberate children\’s minds, hands, feet, space, and time, so that they can fully enjoy a free life and get real education from a free life. Practice has proved that the healthy growth of children requires rational love from parents. For example, they must have a positive explanation style and abandon the negative explanation style, because the explanation style of parents profoundly affects the child\’s personality. Explaining or judging children\’s behavior is almost the most common method used by parents to educate their children. It can be said to be commonplace. Childhood is not only the age when newborn calves are not afraid of tigers, but also the period when mistakes are most frequent. Parents\’ explanations may affect the direction of their children. Positive explanations lead to confidence and optimism, while negative explanations lead to pessimism and despair. Children\’s healthy growth particularly requires another support from their parents, which is to provide encouragement and guidance at critical moments of growth. Many times, children have discovered their potential advantages and made choices that suit them, but they may not be able to persist because any aspect of learning is inseparable from overcoming difficulties. When a girl from Peking University answered the question \”What is a good father?\” she said: \”A good father is 90% gentle and 10% cold.\” This shows that the growth of children requires the love and rationality of parents. Growth is one of the six characteristics of strong parents. It is by no means insignificant at the end, but it is particularly important and of great value. It is even said to be the most essential characteristic of strong parents in the new era. Why do you say this way? Because we are facing the informationized world, the great changes unseen in thousands of years, and even more so the children who have grown up in the Internet era.As a child, no matter how thick the family wall is, it cannot withstand the influence of society. No parent can deal with it easily. The only way out for parents in the new era is to grow up with their children, learn and learn again, grow and grow again. The information society has many characteristics of \”post-figurative culture\”, that is, in some aspects, older generations need to learn from younger generations. Therefore, learning the advantages of children has become a new characteristic of strong parents. When we talk about family education as mainly life education, it is completely understandable that not all life is a good life, and not all life is conducive to the growth of children. As powerful parents, we have so much knowledge and abilities that we need to learn. Let us first use a fact to illustrate how many families are troubled by mobile phones and online games. What does it look like to be a family together? Each person is holding a mobile phone, family members rarely communicate, and it is difficult for parents and children to talk. It can be said that people are close at hand, but hearts are far away. What’s your magic bullet as a parent? Zhu Ziwei, a fourth-grade student at Beijing Shijia Primary School, initiated the initiative: \”Put down your mobile phones and let us really be together.\” This is a beautiful practice for children to participate in changing lives. In the past six months, parents in more than a thousand families responded to their children\’s suggestions and put down their mobile phones for a total of 54,000 hours, that is, they did not play with their mobile phones for more than two hours after dinner every day, and they chatted, played or studied with their children, which effectively promoted the parent-child relationship. Harmonious and achieved good results. It can be seen how important it is to respect children\’s right to participate. Parents and children create a better life together, which is truly vital family education. Family Education Instructor’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Chinese version e-book + English version pdf + mobi + azw3 Conclusion In short, in family education, as long as you accompany, set an example, discover, respect, support and grow, you will be a good parent and a strong parent. . The new era requires parents to be strong, and children need parents to be strong. Strong parents are the hope for revitalizing family education and the hope for the great rejuvenation of the Chinese nation!
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