The difference between raising a son and raising a daughter is too real…

I have three children, two sons and a daughter. My daughter is the youngest in the family. People often ask me, how does it feel to have a daughter after having three children? My answer: A feeling of knowing everything about the world! Really, having a son is confusing, having a daughter is confusing. If you don’t have a son, you don’t know the lower limit of parenting; if you don’t have a daughter, you don’t know your upper limit. How big the difference is between a son and a daughter. Old mothers who have both sons and daughters know best! The biggest advantage of having both children is not to put together the word \”good\”, but to correct an old mother\’s outlook on life so that she can have a more comprehensive understanding of the world and herself. Sons are a test, daughters are gifts. Before I had daughters, I only had five requirements for my two sons: morality, intelligence, physical education, beauty and labor, food, drink, diarrhea and sleep. Because just living an ordinary day consumes all my energy. Every day I have to ask myself: Cooperative Parenting: The Importance of Parent-Child Communication and Parent-Child Education PDF Download Why do I always have to run behind them when I go out? Why do I always have to yell to get their cooperation? Why are the fronts of their clothes always dirty and the knees of their pants always torn? Why do toys bought for them break down within a week? Why do you always have one sock? Where did the other one go? Is my parallel universe filled with all kinds of socks? Why why why, I have to ask myself every day. After facing my two sons making trouble for a day, I often go to Weibo to watch some cute pet videos to rejuvenate myself. Then I left a sad comment: Every animal I see on Weibo seems to be smarter/better/easier to take care of than my son. This must be a test given to me by God. I have a very low self-esteem about my motherhood. I must be a bad mother to live like a wolf running around every day. It wasn’t until I had a daughter that my 100,000 whys were answered—because I gave birth to a son. Having a daughter makes life completely different. When you\’re cutting her nails, you don\’t need to use a combination of punches to capture her. She will obediently stretch out her soft little palms and cut them for you motionless. When you wake her up, you don\’t need to use a combination of punches to capture her. , shouted softly, she got up, dressed herself and folded the quilt. When I take her to the mall, I don’t need to use a combination of punches to capture her. She will hold my hand and walk without running around for a moment. When I go shopping with my daughter, I can wear high heels and grab a cup of coffee. I feel like Victoria Beckham who was photographed on the street 10 years ago. When shopping with my son, I will never be so cool. I will just look like a man + a nanny. Although raising a son or a daughter is equally hard work, the feelings are completely different! Raising a son is like working for someone; raising a daughter is like collecting blessings! Raising sons will make them smarter, and raising daughters will make them more beautiful. It is said that children are a blank sheet of paper, and parents give them color. In fact, life is interactive. How can children not influence their parents? For example, raising a son has made me, a once beautiful girl, completely careless about beauty. Because a boy treats his mother like a pair of pliers, or any tool – just use it. Gradually, I became a gameAn old mother who has superb skills but poor make-up skills, is proficient in toy transformation but neglects clothing matching, has many skills but is very underweight. I didn\’t think these were issues until I had my daughter. Once she told me that her white shoes were a little dirty and needed to be cleaned. I have to be honest, the first time I heard a child tell me that something was dirty, we were completely shocked! Why am I messier than my kids? I looked at her shoes and there were indeed a few small specks of mud. When I looked at my shoes, they were much dirtier than hers, but I didn\’t feel that this was a problem at all. It turns out that in the past few years living with big men, my tolerance for dirt has reached such an extent! I was frightened for a while and thought: Fortunately, I gave birth to a daughter. She would also often remind me that the car is dirty and I need to wash it; there are too many things on the table and I need to tidy them up; my nails are long and I need to trim them. With my daughter\’s constant supervision, my hygiene level finally returned to what it was before marriage. Raising a daughter not only makes a person clean and hygienic, but also makes her beautiful. One day when she came back from kindergarten, she said to me: \”Mom, I think Poppy\’s mother and Kaixin\’s mother are much younger than you.\” I said: \”Ah, they are younger than me, you see, you are the third mother.\” Children, Poppy and Kaixin are both the first children in their family.\” My daughter whispered: \”I also think I am the first child in the family.\” \”Why?\” I asked her. \”That way I have a beautiful mother to pick me up!\” she replied. Nani? Am I no longer your most beautiful mother? But I was only sad for a second and then figured it out. I am grateful to my daughter for her objective evaluation of me, which made me pursue the return of my appearance. In order to wear mother-daughter clothes with my daughter, I also bought dresses, leather shoes and beautiful socks for the first time. I thought I would be a little uncomfortable after not wearing a dress for so long, but actually when I looked in the mirror, I felt very good. Dressing up has nothing to do with whether you can become a \”hot mom\”, but to give life a different flavor. They say a daughter is like a little cotton-padded jacket, but sometimes she is also a little match. She rekindles the old mother\’s passion for life. Raising a son is like a chicken, raising a daughter is like a duck. Before I had a daughter, my world was obviously incomplete. Because there were only Ultraman, Dinosaur, Policeman Purley, and Sun Wukong… During the process of playing with them, my dubbing voice was louder, my movements were larger, and my male hormones began to become stronger. Playing with others is just playing along, but playing with me is like being on the set of an action movie. And the perspective from which I need to think about things will be very clear. For example, when I go outdoors, others bring mosquito repellent and sunscreen, but I have to bring iodine, Bactoban, and Band-Aids; when others bring bibs to meals, I need to wear them inside out, and they should be long-sleeved; when on holiday, others bring bibs. When others arrange entertainment for a family reunion, I have to arrange entertainment for my children first. Otherwise, the so-called vacation is just a life-and-death tug-of-war. Gradually, I began to gain masculinity. The fluttering and affectionate eyes become \”eyes as wide as copper bells, shooting out lightning-like intelligence\”; the carefully trimmed wild eyebrows have the aura of horizontal eyebrows, vertical eyes, and a straight sword. Even following the trend of watching variety shows and calling me brother is like this: until I had a daughter, my worldHe and Moubao\’s \”Guess You Like It\” slowly began to reveal another side. Because she likes handicrafts and painting as much as I do, so we can do these things together; because she is afraid of getting lost just like me, so when we go out to play, we don’t have to worry that she will disappear accidentally; because she feels the same as me. The toilet outside is dirty, so she goes to the toilet before going out. She even pays more attention to the clock-in homework assigned by the teacher than me because she has requirements for herself. I discovered that children and adults can be on the same frequency, and this feeling is really great. There is a saying that men are from Venus and women are from Mars. I feel so right! Children\’s emotional intelligence training + explosive learning ability + the power of good habits + thinking ability training series of parenting courses My two sons and his dad, no matter how long we are together, to me, it will always be like being with an alien Same. When my daughter was only 3 years old, I was sure that we were from the same planet. One birthday, she gave me a \”homework card\” as a gift. As long as I take out this card, I can get her to do her homework immediately without any conditions. I\’m so touched! I have to say that in my life, this is the first time someone has truly understood my needs and given me a gift. On this homework card, my daughter drew a portrait of the two of us, cheek to cheek and close together. At that moment, I thought, if I were to compete with someone to love someone more, I would always be the loser. Raising sons and daughters are very different, but they have one thing in common: raising children is a process in which we re-understand the world. Raising a son is very tiring and frustrating, but I can observe how men think and make decisions. He has given me a lot more understanding of the other half of the world. Raising a daughter is easier and more enjoyable. I can often see my own reflection in her and understand myself better. Accompanying children to grow up gives us an opportunity to redeem ourselves: Raising Girls e-book PDF download [on the bestseller list for 15 consecutive years] Those regrets that I encountered in childhood, I will not let them endure again; and those regrets that I encountered in childhood I can relive the trivial happiness I experienced in my childhood with them. On the surface, I am raising the children, but in fact, their arrival has given me the opportunity to re-embrace my childhood self, make up for my regrets, and grow up for the second time. And this is the biggest gain and advantage of having children.