After 11 years of teaching, I observed nearly a thousand pairs of mothers and daughters and came up with the most advanced education methods.

Before giving birth to a daughter, I always heard others say that girls are easy to raise, but it was not until I raised a little witch that I realized that raising a daughter is really not easy. I have peace of mind, because her present was once my past. As long as I lean over her perspective, I can understand what she is thinking. There is also anxiety, because the growing environment of girls now is so different from ours back then, and they have to face more pressure and challenges than we did. But fortunately, mother and daughter are connected and have a natural similarity with her, which gives me many advantages in the parenting process. 15 recommended high-scoring baby education books, which can be called life textbooks. What’s more, in many cases, daughters are natural followers of their mothers. Therefore, instead of worrying about raising your daughter, it is better to live the way you want her to be. Because the way mother looks now is the latest template for her daughter to understand life. Most outstanding girls have a lighthouse called \”Mom\” in front of them. I have watched an Indian movie \”The New Classmate\”. The daughter Apushi in the play, after experiencing her father\’s death and her mother running around all day but still being crowded in the slums, her mediocre grades and hopeless life completely destroyed the girl, and she finally chose to accept her fate and lie down. Seeing her daughter giving up on herself, her mother Chanda went crazy with worry. I work hard to earn money just because I hope my daughter can study well and change her destiny. But no matter how much I tried to persuade her, my daughter remained unmoved. In desperation, Qian Da turned to his employer for help, and at her suggestion, he ruthlessly \”study with him\”. He entered his daughter\’s class as a \”new classmate\” and became classmates with her. During this period, Chanda struggled between studies and work, but was still laughed at by others and misunderstood by his daughter. Fortunately, in the end, after seeing her mother\’s hard work, her daughter finally understood her good intentions and rekindled her hope in learning. In the end, both mother and daughter passed the exam. The mother in the play used her \”cruel heart\” on herself and used her own personal efforts to tell this girl who bowed her head to suffering that as long as she holds on to her dreams, nothing can be changed. Her dedication is what many mothers in reality also do. The methods are different, but the love for their children reaches the same goal through different paths. Many parents have the same confusion: \”Why don\’t children listen after talking so much?\” Because the essence of education is not indoctrination, but influence. The big principles in long documents will never be as powerful as the subtle and subtle subtleties that moisturize things. Comedian Jia Ling, when she was at her lowest, couldn\’t even pay 400 yuan in rent. But many years later, he performed on the Spring Festival Gala and brought joy to countless audiences. In an interview, Jia Ling talked about her mother who died unexpectedly. When we talked about it, what impressed me most about my mother was her smiling face and optimistic attitude all the time. This also made Jia Ling, who was still young at the time, interested in things that can bring joy to people from an early age. It can be said that the influence of Jia Ling\’s mother on her has long been rooted in her destiny. In most girls\’ lives, starting in childhood, their mother is usually her first impression of the world. The mother\’s appearance will form a \”memory ability\” for her daughter. When her daughter grows up, her mother\’s behavior will become her first reaction when she encounters a problem. And the mother’s attitude towards life will also become her daughter’s future struggle against falling into the abyss.The power of time. The greatest misfortune for many girls is to live like a nasty mother. When our daughter was very young, we experienced a \”dark time\” together. To sum up who I was at that time in one sentence: I am a loving mother when I am quiet, and I am a devil when I collapse. Maybe it was because my body and mind had reached the stress threshold during that time. After my daughter was \”disobedient\”, I completely exploded. I screamed at her over and over again to vent my grievances and despair, and scolded her for ruining my life. Seeing me going crazy, my daughter was very quiet. She didn\’t cry as much as usual. She just stood there as if she was stunned, her fingers were picking in panic, and her eyes were full of confusion. At that moment, through her body, memories flowed back, and I seemed to see the little me huddled in the corner many years ago, enduring my mother\’s anger, not daring to cry, not to move, not to run away. How to Improve Emotional Intelligence Education Piglet and Elephant Picture Book Elephant and Piggie, 25 volumes in PDF + click-to-read package + video + audio. I pride myself on teaching for many years, and I have long cultivated the ability to be kind-hearted and kind-hearted. However, I didn’t expect that when I lose control of my emotions, I will be like the white-bone spirit under the stick of Sun Wukong. Was beaten back to the prototype. Until now, I have always been full of guilt for my daughter because of that loss of control. I don’t know if the ferocious look on my face at the time would permanently pierce a thorn in her heart. American psychologist Selma Freberg once talked about \”ghosts in the nursery,\” describing how when parents raise their children, they unconsciously let their children relive the trauma they experienced in their own childhood. Family education is a cycle, no matter good or bad. There is a question on Zhihu: \”I hate my mother\’s personality, and I hate myself more and more like my mother. What should I do?\” Many netizens shared their helplessness: There is a saying: \”The most tragic thing about a girl is when she grows up. I found myself living like the most annoying mother.\” Mother is the fate of her daughter. Most of those girls who need to spend their whole lives healing have a family of origin who wants to escape. Sadly, the more you try to escape from childhood imprints, the more they will be reinforced. The most advanced way to raise a girl is to live the way you want her to be. 1. \”Deliberately\” show your behavior. I once heard a teacher share: My daughter is timid and always hides behind her when meeting strangers. Later, I accidentally discovered that for a while, she took the initiative to say hello to others more frequently, and my daughter gradually began to take the initiative to say hello to strangers. After that, she began to deliberately behave more confidently and boldly in front of her daughter. She would raise her voice when meeting people from a distance, say hello with a smile on her face, and sometimes create opportunities to chat for a while. Sure enough, soon after, my daughter gradually became bolder, and would even take the initiative to walk up to the children when playing in the community and ask if they could play together. Education begins with imitation. What you want your children to do is what you want them to do first. 2. Live as a role model for your daughter. Do you still remember Zhou Yasong, the 52-year-old hard-core mother who accompanied her daughter to take the postgraduate entrance examination a few years ago? At the age of 56, she received another admission notice for a doctoral degree in music from a Korean university. During her daughter\’s postgraduate entrance examination, she memorized and read questions with her and practiced singing and piano. In order to set an example for her daughter, she decided to join her.Take graduate exams. After that, Zhou Yasong preceded his daughter by one year and was admitted to the graduate school of Central China Normal University. Facing his daughter who was a little frustrated because she didn\’t pass the exam, Zhou Yasong not only used his actions to tell her daughter that she could do it, but also said only one sentence: \”I\’ll wait for you at school.\” Sure enough, her daughter followed her mother\’s example and worked hard. Years later, she became her mother’s school girl. The so-called education actually means that if the mother stands in her own position and is herself, her daughter will have a direction for her growth. 3. Education requires a sense of ritual. After their children go to school, many mothers will discover how important it is to develop good reading habits for their children from an early age. Because I am a teacher, I started to develop my daughter\’s reading ability when she was very young. From the time she could read pictures, we fixed a time every day for each of us to pick a few books and be quiet without disturbing each other. Slowly, my daughter could only sit for a minute or two at a time, but now she can read a book over and over again for a long time. No child is born the way he is, it’s just because his mother is guiding him day after day. Education is perseverance. The upbringing of girls is even more ritualistic and persistent. Some time ago, I reread \”Raising Girls\” and noticed a very interesting question: Try to imagine – when you are old and your hair is gray, leaning against the window, looking at your daughter approaching you with a smile outside, you What do you think she looks like? What do you expect her to be like? After careful consideration, I found that every hypothesis was unsatisfactory. The author of the first safety education lesson of school, Lebi Yoyo’s complete collection of 52 episodes of popular science knowledge, gives the answer: “You can see the connection between the childhood you gave her and the strength and quality she possesses today. When you leave, an excellent woman will continue to live, and she will teach everything you taught her to her descendants.\” The meaning of a mother to her daughter should be this answer. You are her future, and she is you past. What you teach her, she will also teach her children… Raising a girl is actually very simple. It is the mother who grows into a towering tree in front of her. As the \”big tree\” grows, the \”seed\” is integrated into the daughter\’s flesh and blood. When the \”seed\” grows up, it will move in the direction of the \”big tree\”, rivaling or even surpassing it. If we say, being a parent is a practice. Then, the process of raising a girl is also the process of mother’s self-cultivation…