If your child has these 6 behaviors, it means you are educating him well

When raising children, \”anxiety\” almost always follows parents. No matter whether the children make progress or not, they cannot escape. Parents of children who have made progress will be anxious about whether they can make more progress. Parents who have not made progress will be anxious about the gap between their children and other children. This is the fragility of parents, and it is also human nature to always feel that there can be better. Nader van der Linden said: Parents should stop looking for external affirmation and comparison, and judge whether they are doing the right thing from their children\’s physical, mental and emotional aspects. Yes, the standard to test whether you are successful in educating your children is their performance, and this is not just grades, but should be comprehensive. If you find that your child has the following 6 behaviors, it means that you have educated your child very well. Keep it up and don\’t be anxious. On the contrary, if parents fail to do so, they should reflect on their own shortcomings and adjust their education methods accordingly to allow their children to develop in an all-round way. Children who can observe people\’s emotions, have strong empathy, and can coax others usually have high emotional intelligence, are kind-hearted, and have a relatively complete personality. Some parents in the group share their children\’s childhood, and they always say happily: \”As long as the children see me lowering my head and not speaking, they will come over, hold my face, and ask aggrievedly: \’Mom, are you unhappy? Are you not? Do you love me?\’\” Every time, no matter how unhappy I am, I will be warmed up by my child and immediately become a Buddha. Children can coax, adapt to changes in the emotions of those around them, and express confusion and comfort when necessary. In the future, you will have great advantages in social interaction, it will be easier to win the respect of others, and you will adapt to new environments faster. Willing to talk to parents. The fifth issue of \”Talk Club\” invited Wang Ziwen, and she talked about her family of origin. In the theater, Wang Ziwen is \”Qu Xiaoxiao\” who is not afraid of anything. She is extremely strong both in appearance and heart. However, outside the theater, she is a lonely girl. This is what her growth experience has given her. Wang Ziwen wrote in his blog \”He, She\”: A small single room was extremely messy, with only a single bed as furniture. My parents put me next to the bed. I didn\’t know what my father wanted to do. I only knew that I was scared. My father kept talking and I couldn\’t listen. She has always lacked communication with her parents and dared not open her heart because she knew that even if she did, her parents would ignore and not understand her. If your child is willing to find you and talk to you endlessly, please cherish it and record the key points. This is also a beautiful memory. Children who can communicate their inner thoughts with you are full of trust in you, which also shows that they have a strong sense of security. Only when children who can afford to lose experience failure will they know where they should strengthen their practice, and experience the feeling of needing to work harder, and constantly stimulate their potential. During a group activity in \”Where Are We Going, Dad\”, Jordan Chan\’s child Jasper kept asking Cai\’er Ying if he won? Ying Cai\’er said: \”No, Uncle Wu Zun won.\” At that moment, Xiao Xiaochun burst into tears. Ying Cai\’er comforted him that it was just a matter of luck, and he gradually calmed down. Just let your children experience it as they grow up. \”Losing\” is not necessarily bad, but another kind of gift. Let your children understand this. Asking parents for help as soon as possible when encountering difficulties will seek help from others, which is to be kind.Use the resources around you. I heard a story before. The father asked his child to move a huge stone. The child tried his best but failed. He complained for a long time and left angrily. Later, his parents asked him: \”We are here with you, why don\’t you ask for help?\” Parents should be happy that the child makes good use of the resources around him, which means that he has a strong ability to deal with problems. From this perspective, Wang Ziwen is unfortunate, but also lucky, because she did not encounter school bullying. Many children who are bullied but dare not tell their parents end up suffering serious psychological or physical injuries, or even lose their lives. It is sad that children do not trust their parents and do not ask their parents for help when they are in danger. Since when has home ceased to be the safest \”haven\”? Children who take the initiative to do housework and are willing to do housework have strong self-care abilities and are usually responsible. It is understandable that parents feel sorry for their children, but he will always have to go out on his own in the future, and your arrangement will only prevent him from using his abilities. I believe that the child can find patterns through constant exploration, and this trust will be the beginning of his independent life. Give your children a space when doing housework. While ensuring safety, demonstrate to them and let them try it. This will satisfy their curiosity while also cultivating various abilities, killing two birds with one stone. Children who like reading can calm down and read, which means that they can be at peace inside, not disturbed by external disturbances, and immersed in the spiritual world. Such children have a stronger sense of logic and order, and reading appropriate books will give them more motivation to grow. Simply design a bookshelf at home and put books that your children are interested in. When purchasing, take your children to the bookstore to select them. Reading is a good habit, so that when you grow up, you will become a person with a \”bookish spirit in your belly\”. Instead of being needlessly anxious, it is better to carefully observe every move of your child, reflect more on your own education methods, and don\’t love too blindly. Let’s encourage everyone.