Sharing of parents’ parenting style and second-child education experience

Since the two-child policy was opened, many families have already had two babies, and some families have begun to prepare for a second child. Two-child families have gradually become the norm. There is no doubt that having one more child adds more happiness and warmth to the family, and it is undeniable that it also adds more responsibility to the parents. It has become a common phenomenon for two children in two-child families to \”love and kill each other\”. They live in the same family environment and enjoy the love and energy of the same parents. Two children from the same family have grown up together, but the lives of such brothers and sisters, whose blood is thicker than water, may be \”in the sky and on the earth\” a few years later. \”Rich Brother, Poor Brother\” is a British documentary that tells the completely different life experiences of a pair of brothers. The elder brother Isha is one year older than the younger brother David. Their father is a policeman and their mother works in a bank. They are considered a middle-class family. However, their development as adults was quite different. My brother is a wealthy and well-known man in the UK. His residence is a four-story townhouse with a luxurious holiday apartment and a 13th-century historic house. However, his younger brother David is living in embarrassment. He has no wife, no children, no regular job, and lives in an abandoned RV. There is such a big gap between the two brothers from the same family. If they didn\’t tell the director that they were brothers at the end of the show, it would be difficult for people to connect these two people with completely different classes. How to develop children\’s thinking? Whole-brain parenting method: 12 revolutionary strategies to expand children\’s thinking can help you live in the same environment since childhood, with no big difference in food and clothing expenses, and even go to the same school, there are big differences, and the parenting style and the Expectations for each child have a lot to do with it. Children who are not favored will feel lonely even if they succeed. When brothers Isha and David were young, their parents encouraged their elder brothers to be independent. When Isha was very young, Isha made money to support the family, delivering newspapers, mowing lawns for other people\’s homes, and walking dogs. , living a busy life every day. The younger brother David is doing nothing every day and is pampered as a treasure by his parents, fearing that they will not take good care of him. Perhaps because of his inner emptiness, David started smoking at a very young age. As he grew older, he became involved in drugs and had many bad habits. He did not study well and did not go to college. My brother experienced life\’s hardships since he was a child. In addition to working to make money every day, he also studied. He worked hard to get into college. After graduation, he worked part-time and became a rich man from starting a small business to investing in projects. He lives in a mansion and socializes with celebrities, but it can be seen in the show that although his career success and the wealth of life still cannot make up for the loneliness and loneliness in his heart. Isha is gay, and his wife and children are only fulfilling his nominal duty to support him. He admits that he has such a character because of his parents\’ partiality when he was a child. He gets up early every day and works hard to make money, but his younger brother is loved and cared for by his parents. He is jealous from the bottom of his heart, so he always wants to succeed through hard work and gain the attention and love of his parents. Isha said that the desire for a stable love is the driving force for his success. . Children who are not favored will feel lonely inside even if they succeed, because they lack stable love and lack inner security. A pampered child is ungrateful and has difficulty achieving anything. Compared with his brother, David\’s childhood was extremely happy. He didn\’t have to run around working to make money like his brother.He was carefully taken care of by his parents and lived a carefree life with food to eat and clothes to eat. I do nothing every day, vandalize public property everywhere, smoke and read pornographic books. I have never suffered hardship since I was a child, and I have no patience for work. I have no education and can\’t find a job, working odd jobs to make a living, and accomplishing nothing. As an adult, my younger brother has no peace of mind, and his elder brother has helped him many times, but what he received in return was not gratitude but criticism. Although he is over 40 years old, he is still unable to be independent, and he only takes things without knowing how to fight. Isha\’s achievement does not come from his parents\’ help or property, but from the fact that he was neglected since childhood and learned to rely on his own efforts to get the life and attention he wanted. His success boosted his self-confidence and made him work harder, eventually entering the upper class and living the life of a successful person with no worries about food and clothing. Looking at his younger brother David, he has been pampered by his parents since he was a child and has developed the habit of dependence and asking for things. He does not know how to work hard for what he wants and only expects to get it from others. Because he has been pampered all the time, he thinks that what others give him should be taken for granted, and he is ungrateful. Once others cannot meet his needs, he complains that his fate is unfair. I have never suffered hardship since I was a child, and I don\’t know how to work hard. Although I had a happy childhood, I entered the lower class society as an adult. Not favoring or doting is the best way to raise children. The world of difference between the two brothers in \”Rich Brother, Poor Brother\” has a lot to do with the way their parents raised them since childhood. This phenomenon also exists in many families in real life. Especially now that the second child policy has been introduced, parents originally want to have an even relationship, but it is inevitable that they will inadvertently favor one child over another, and there will be more or less preference for a certain child. As the eldest child in the family, he has enjoyed the love of his parents for many years. Suddenly, a younger brother or sister appears to share his parents\’ love and his own life. The eldest child has changed from being the focus of the family to being neglected and neglected by his parents who are busy taking care of the second child. There is resistance in his heart, and he is inevitably hostile to Erbao. As for the young second child\’s instinctive dependence on his parents, most parents have the idea that the older child should give way to the younger child, and pay more attention to the second child, which creates a gap in the heart of the older child. In a two-child family, parents should not favor or dote on each other. This is the best way to raise two babies. 1. Every child is irreplaceable. No matter the eldest child or the second child, parents should let their children understand that everyone is irreplaceable and unique in the hearts of parents. There is no comparison between the two. The love for the two children should also be balanced, not favoring the eldest child because they have been together for a few more years, nor doting on the second child because they are young. 2. Pay attention to children\’s emotions. Parents should pay more attention to the emotions of both children. Don\’t make one child feel neglected and insecure because of inadvertent behavior. If you notice emotional fluctuations, you should channel them in time to avoid greater harm. 3. Parents should often reflect on whether a certain thing or sentence has neglected a certain baby. Try to let the two children receive comprehensive care from their parents, so that they can feel loved and valued. Parenting message: When a child is a child, he can be the focus of the family. Once there are brothers and sisters in the family, the parents\’ love will definitely be balanced in each child. In a family with multiple children, brothers and sisters must be maintainedTo live in harmony and have a stable and happy family, parents should pay attention to their parenting methods from an early age. There is no absolute balance in love, and every child is an independent individual. The most successful way of raising children is for parents to not favor or dote on any one, so that they can feel a sense of security and know how to love and support each other.