Maupassant’s Life: The “Three Knives” of Family Education, Don’t Cut Your Children

The famous French writer Maupassant\’s novel \”Life\” tells the story of the noble lady Yana\’s transformation from a young and energetic girl to an insensitive and weak old woman. What happened to her? Her husband\’s betrayal, the death of her relatives, and her son\’s ignorance. Facing the cruel reality, she was helpless and attributed her painful life to the injustice of fate. But is this really the case? In fact, her father\’s family education had already laid the foundation for her tragic life. Special teacher Wei Shusheng once mentioned that many parents hide ten knives and use them unknowingly to give their children wrong guidance in the name of love. The patriarch in the novel \”Life\” only used three knives to destroy an aristocratic family, let alone an ordinary family? Cut off the ability to see and sow mediocrity. Yana was born into a wealthy aristocratic family and was the apple of her parents\’ eye. Sadly, she has never experienced or chosen her own life. Her father has already chosen the path of growth for her. At the age of 12, Yana was sent to a monastery by her father and lived a life of strict confinement. After returning home at the age of 17, her father not only prevented her from contacting society, but also continued to brainwash her. Innocence and gentleness are the qualities a girl should possess. He prepared a generous dowry for Yana and matched her with the best housekeepers and servants. He hoped that his daughter would have food and clothing and a happy life. But he did not teach her how to survive or how to manage wealth. He only hoped that she would find a husband and be a good wife and mother. The innocent Yana soon met her favorite Prince Charming, Julien, and got married without knowing each other. After returning from their honeymoon, Julien immediately took away the power of the manor and imposed strict restrictions on Yana\’s spending. If he was not satisfied at all, he would yell at his father-in-law and mother-in-law, showing his despicable, greedy, and unsympathetic nature at a glance. Yana, who has no ability to manage the manor, is like a flower in a greenhouse, unable to withstand the severe cold and heat. Faced with the cruel reality and the repeated injuries from her husband, she had no choice but to endure. When she first learned that her husband had an affair with his maid Rosalie and had an illegitimate child, she wanted to commit suicide. But at this time, she discovered that she was pregnant and had to continue living. Later, the maid was driven away, and the husband, whose bad habits were hard to change, got involved with the countess. When the count found out, he pushed their tryst car down the valley in a rage, killing both of them. Then, her mother who loved her also passed away. Only then did Yana see the truth of life clearly, her faith collapsed, and she fell into endless confusion and pain. In reality, there is more than one such parent who, in the name of love, cuts off his children\’s knowledge and ability to survive: teenage children don\’t know how to cut vegetables because knives are dangerous; twenty-year-old children dare not go far away alone. Because there are traps everywhere outside… There is a classic saying in \”We Will See You Again\”: \”You haven\’t even seen the world, how can you get a worldview?\” We always want our children to get ahead, but they haven\’t even seen a few heads. , how to get ahead? As the old saying goes: It is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish. Parents cannot accompany their children for a lifetime, so instead of taking care of everything, it is better to learn to let go. Let the children experience hardships, gain knowledge through practice, and develop a strong heart step by step. Fan Deng’s new father in reading clubFive compulsory courses for maternal family education [Video + Audio] Cut off the rules and plant bad habits. Parents who truly love their children, while teaching their children how to live, pay more attention to cultivating their children\’s correct outlook on life and values. However, Yana in the novel did not find the root cause of the tragedy. After her husband\’s death, she continued to perform the deformed love of her father\’s generation on her son Paul. She responded to Paul\’s requests. As long as her son was happy, she would do it and use this kind of fanatical maternal love to fill the emptiness in her heart. After Paul turned 15, Yana\’s father persuaded her to send her son to a school in the city. Worried that her son would suffer, she rented a house for him, freeing Paul from the supervision of the school. Later, under the temptation of an older prostitute, Paul began to smoke and drink, get into fights, and was expelled from school. Under Yana\’s connivance, Paul became spoiled, willful, uneducated, and gradually deviated from the track of life. On the other hand, the maid Rosalie was born in poverty and had a rough fate. After being kicked out of the manor, she married a farmer. She started a small business with the money Yana gave her, and her life was pleasant. She also raised her son very well, and he was as independent-minded, well-planned, and thrifty as she was in running the household. So much so that when Yana saw him, she no longer felt ashamed that Paul had such a brother. Liang Qichao once said in \”On Preschool Education\”: \”A hundred years of life is based on early childhood education.\” When he was six years old, he lied about a trivial matter. His mother beat him dozens of times and gave him a \”No\” policy. \”Lying\” rule. When he grew up, he felt grateful every time he mentioned this incident. No one wants their child to become a \”naughty child\”, and it is difficult for a willful person to prosper in society. Because of this, parents should set rules for their children as early as possible. Only by establishing a correct outlook on life and values ​​for your children when they are young can they benefit from it throughout their lives when they grow up. Cut off responsibility and sow selfishness. Overprotecting children and allowing them to do whatever they want from an early age will easily lead to a lack of responsibility for society and others as adults. After dropping out of school, Paul began to find various reasons to ask for money every day, but Yana didn\’t ask questions and just sent money without any regrets. Later, Paul became addicted to gambling and speculation, and owed a lot of debt. Yana\’s blind indulgence made him become unscrupulous, irresponsible, only asking for money, and even threatened his mother with her life to help him pay off his debts. In order to pay off the huge debt owed by her son, Yana spent almost all her savings. He also resold all the dozen or so manors he inherited from his father, and his life fell into a deep valley again. Fortunately, the kind-hearted maid Rosalie and her son saved her. With their help, Yana sold her ancestral house, bought a small new home, and controlled the money given to Paul, so that she could live her old age securely. While she and Rosalie were living frugally, she was still obsessed with memories of the past, lamenting the unfairness of her fate. It wasn\’t until she finally saw her infant granddaughter that her life had a glimmer of hope. These sufferings are ultimately caused by Yana\’s abnormal education of Paul. Not only does it destroy yourself, but it also destroys your children, causing the family to eventually decline and your later life to be miserable. And around us, such stories are still happening every day. There was such a naughty kid. His parents took him to play at a neighbor\’s house. He poured mineral water on the electronic keyboard and said he wanted to clean the piano. The neighbor was very angry, but the parents said nonchalantly: \”The child is ignorant. \”Half a year later, they took their child to the mall to play, and the child poured half a bottle of Coke on the piano worth 680,000 yuan. But this time, it was difficult to fool him by saying \”the child is not sensible\”. Just imagine, when the child made a mistake for the first time , if parents stop it in time, let their children apologize sincerely, and then face the responsibilities they should bear, isn\’t this an excellent opportunity to educate their children? As Bacon once said: Responsibility is the most precious seed in the world, sow it early Only in the hearts of children can we gain a lifetime of happiness. ▽I agree with a saying: “Parents are the destiny of children. Your cognition and behavior determine your child\’s future life. \”Life is short, but parenting is long. Being a parent is a long practice. Like it, I hope we can all be alert to these three \”knives\” of education and become the best destiny for our children.