How to make children excellent

One day I went to the library to read and met a mother and son, reading at the table next to me. At first, mother and son were very harmonious, each reading his own book quietly. After a while, the little boy told his mother that he was thirsty and wanted to drink water. So the mother opened the water cup she brought with her and gave it to the boy to drink. Unexpectedly, when the boy finished drinking the water and put the cup on the table, the cup was not placed firmly and fell over. All the water inside was poured on the table, and the book in front of him was instantly soaked. At this time, the mother suddenly stood up, picked up the book, pulled the child back, and shouted: \”What\’s wrong with you? You don\’t have eyes! You are about to enter the second grade, and you are always so rough in doing things.\” .\” After a while, many staff and children in the library gathered around him. The mother continued to criticize and criticize the child. The little boy lowered his head and didn\’t know what to do. After a while, he started to cry loudly. The staff checked the book and said that it had been soaked in too much water and could no longer be used. According to regulations, the original price must be compensated. The mother nodded sheepishly, and pulled the little boy with disgust to follow the staff to the front desk to handle the compensation procedures. I vaguely heard my mother scolding the little boy again: \”Cry, cry, you know how to cry. What\’s the use of crying? Why am I so unlucky to have given birth to a useless thing like you.\” Every hurtful word stabbed him like this. At that time, not only me, but many people sympathized with the little boy and felt sad for his mother\’s words and deeds. As a mother, not only did she not comfort her children, but she also did not teach her children how to solve problems. Instead, she only scolded her children and hurt her children\’s self-esteem. What else can children do besides crying to express their sadness? If the mother could control her emotions at that time, use the language of love to communicate effectively with her child, and lead her child to solve problems together, this would be a good opportunity for her child to grow. The neighbor moved here not long ago, but I feel that the couple attaches great importance to education, especially the wife. The couple helps their children with homework every day and does their duty conscientiously. Every time they help children with their homework, I always vaguely hear: \”Complete, pay attention to completeness. I\’ve been telling you all night, but you never pay attention.\” \”I told you to write horizontally evenly. Don\’t be crooked, why are you so stupid?\” \”I told you to complete it as planned, but you still don\’t listen. Starting from tomorrow, you are not allowed to watch mobile phones and TV.\”… Almost every night, I can hear similar voices , gradually, the originally lively little girl looked listless when we met in the elevator. Children\’s interest in learning is being wiped out day by day by this kind of education. It can be seen how important correct communication is for a child\’s growth. Some parents always complain that their children are not good at this or that, and rarely reflect on their own words and deeds, especially those hurtful words that just change a good child. Therefore, parents and children should communicate with each other in four ways, so that children can become outstanding. 1. Don’t be sarcastic, but praise your wrong approach: I’ve taught you this question eight hundred times, but you still don’t know how to do it? Are you a pig brain? Correct approach: Honey, you have studied this question five times. You have worked very hard and persisted without giving up. Mom believes that no difficulty will defeat you in the future. 2. Don’t insult;Respect wrong practices: You are running around doing homework, and you have a nail growing on your butt. Can you write quietly for a while? Correct approach: When doing homework, you have to balance work and rest. If you go out to play for a while, you will know to come back to do homework as soon as possible. Mom thinks you are very self-disciplined. 3. Don’t control, trust the wrong approach: If you listen to me at the beginning, will you end up like this? Correct approach: It doesn’t matter. There is a solution to everything. It’s good to have your own opinion. But next time, you can listen to your mother’s advice. 4. Don’t deny, but affirm the wrong approach: if you cry, you know how to cry. What’s the use of crying? Correct approach: Mom knows that you did not do well in the exam this time and feels a little sad. This shows that you are very motivated. Come, let\’s think of a way together and see how we can do better next time. As the old saying goes: A kind word warms you for three winters, but a bad word hurts you for six months. It is recommended that parents read it carefully, learn to communicate with their children, and train their children to become excellent people.