Parents do this so that junior high school students do not feel that you are educating them

Confucius said: \”If your body is upright, you will not do what you are told; if your body is not upright, you will not follow orders.\” When our parents and friends themselves can show good moral cultivation and values, the children will be positively influenced by what they hear and see. There is no need for parents to deliberately educate. Many families can do this, which is very trouble-free, especially in the education process of junior high school students, because their personal thoughts will develop slowly at this stage and they are easily affected by the environment around them. There are also some families that are facing challenges. Because of usual neglect or improper management, it is already very difficult for parents to educate them at this time. The phenomenon of superficial obedience and inner dissatisfaction abound. So how can we let our junior high school students be positively affected without being aware of it without arousing their resentment, without feeling like they are being \”educated\”? There is only one answer. Tao Xingzhi said: \”Education is life itself.\” PART 01 If you can\’t let go, you won\’t be able to hold on to our junior high school classmates. The most fearful thing is to be obsessed with something, and can\’t let go of your mobile phone, hobbies, and interests. Not less of a playful heart. Because I can’t put it down, I can’t pick it up. Imagine, if our classmate is always addicted to mobile games, he may miss many valuable learning opportunities. Slowly, he will find that his grades are gradually declining, and then he will become confused and anxious, because he will find that he can\’t seem to pick up anything except his mobile phone. I once saw a story like this. The plot is almost like this: a father wanted to educate his son, so he asked a friend to help him. While playing games with his son, he called himself and turned on the speakerphone. He goes to the company to work overtime. He replied directly: \”I\’m playing games and don\’t have time,\” and then hung up the phone. After a while, his friend called him back and said, \”You don\’t have to come to work!\” Although extreme, if this story is true, it would have a huge impact on his son. You go directly to him and ask him to put down some things, instead of doing something to influence him indirectly! PART 02 Why you should work hard Studying hard is the key way to realize your personal dreams and goals. However, the material life of current students is very good. They lack nothing. Many of them don’t even know the meaning of hard work. Anyway, they are living a good life no matter what. However, what we need to understand is that the abundance of material life does not represent a person\’s true happiness and success. True happiness and success come from inner satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment, from realizing one\’s dreams and goals. When appropriate, we can set a small goal with our children and work together to accomplish it. Of course, we must devote enough time to accompany them. For example, let\’s work together to make a water-jet rocket that can fly into the sky. He is responsible for learning how to do it, and the parents are responsible for preparing the things. They participate in the production process together, and finally the whole family watches it together. If it is successful, there will be a celebration party. For example, if we study mathematics together, you will be responsible for learning, he will be responsible for teaching, and finally let him come up with questions to test you. Finally, to sum up, if you want to educate your children, leading by example is fundamental, participating in life is a process, and relying only on language output, at this ageDuan, it actually doesn’t have much effect. Only by letting them see something and see a role model can education be powerful. At that time, what they feel is not that they have been educated, but that they have learned it themselves!