Children often say these two words, which are actually asking you for help. Parents, please don’t take it seriously.

We all know that every word a child speaks is a small window into their heart. Sometimes, those casual words hide great needs and troubles. Just say the word \”whatever\”. If the child keeps talking about it, it may be a \”distress signal\” to us! Children always say \”whatever\”, but there is a mystery behind it. According to the \”hierarchy of needs theory\” in psychology, after people have satisfied their basic needs such as food, drink, sex, and safety, they have to pursue higher-level things such as respect and self-realization. If a child always says \”whatever\”, it may mean that he is confused and doesn\’t know what he wants, or he feels that it is useless to say it and no one will listen to him. For example, if you ask your child where he wants to go to play on the weekend, and he says \”anything\”, it may not be that he really doesn\’t care, but that he doesn\’t know what he likes. For another example, the family is discussing where to travel, and the child is \”casual\” again. This time, it may be that he feels that his opinion is not important and he cannot interfere in anything at home. If this situation continues like this, it will not be good for the children. As a result, the child may become less and less talkative, and will not say anything on his mind, because no one will care if he does. Secondly, children may become less confident and unable to think independently. Always being \”casual\” means that you don\’t want to take responsibility and don\’t dare to express yourself. How will you deal with troubles in the future? What to do? Four tips to teach you how to deal with it. There is a saying that goes like this: \”What you say determines what kind of person you are.\” Children who always say \”whatever\” will easily have low self-esteem, lack of assertiveness, and live in a muddle throughout their lives. We have to change this situation, start from the parent-child relationship, and give children more respect. 1 Listening and respect are both indispensable. Montaigne said it well: \”The most important thing in the world is to know yourself.\” When children speak, we have to listen carefully. Even if they are different from what we think, they will still understand. Don\’t be too quick to deny it. For example, if your child says he wants to learn hip-hop, don\’t rush to say \”it\’s useless\” or \”no time.\” First, listen to why he wants to learn, and then add up together. 2. Help children find their own \”cooks\”. Children are like a blank piece of paper, and we need to guide them to find their own colors. Usually take your children out for a walk, see art exhibitions, listen to concerts, and watch sports games. Maybe the child will find his interest at that moment. For example, after watching an art exhibition, the child\’s eyes light up and he says, \”Mom, I want to paint too!\” This is where the interest comes in. 3. Give children the right to choose, but they must bear the consequences themselves. Children must learn to make their own decisions and know that every decision has consequences. For example, when buying clothes, you give him several options and let him choose, but you have to tell him that if he chooses, he must accept the possible consequences. In this way, children can learn to judge and think, and can be responsible in the future. 4 Parents also need to reflect and reflect. Finally, we parents also need to think about whether there is anything wrong with our own education methods. Are you usually too strong, which makes your children afraid to speak? Or do you not care enough about your child, making him feel that it is useless to say anything? Think more about these, so that we can make timely adjustments and give our children a better growth environment. In short, we can\’t take it seriously if our children always say \”whatever\”. Pay more attention to the child\’s inner world and give him moreLots of love and guidance to help him get out of his confusion and grow up healthily and happily!