Overtaking in corners during the summer vacation will drive your children to death!

Summer vacation has begun. How are parents feeling and how are their children feeling? bother. All annoying. Parents have to consider where to send their children, how much it will cost, and whether they want to accompany them. As for their children, just when they want to relax for a few days, parents start making various arrangements, including training classes and cram schools, summer schools and camps, museums and art galleries… …How to spend your summer vacation? There are actually two core issues: How much does it cost? What to do? I have seen many parents say in their circle of friends that they originally wanted to plan with their children how to spend the summer vacation, but as a result, they received an \”underground notice\” from the school, saying that the children should not go out during the summer vacation and should hold \”holiday study classes\” . This phenomenon goes without saying in high school, and it goes without saying in the third grade of junior high school; it seems that it has spread to the second and first grade of junior high school. A child who has just entered the first grade of junior high school told his parents before the summer vacation that he should take this opportunity to take me out to play. I think in our school, once we reach the second grade of junior high school, there will be no summer vacation! So, why do we have summer vacation? How should we spend it? Is summer vacation used for overtaking in corners? It is for children to \”eat night grass\” to \”fatten\” them. It is used for poor students to catch up with top students and top students to pull away. The best time to distance yourself from your opponent? Summer vacation is for life, for body and mind, not for tutoring. For primary and middle school students who are usually busy with their studies, summer vacation is the happiest thing for them. After studying hard for a whole semester, I finally have a chance to relax completely. For parents, how to help their children have a fruitful summer vacation is almost one of the most tangled and difficult things every summer. Speaking of how to spend summer vacation in a meaningful way, let us go back to the original question: Why should we take summer vacation? What exactly is the role of summer vacation? You know, school-age children spend a lot of time in school. On the one hand, the child\’s body is developing and growing, on the other hand, the child\’s mind is constantly absorbing knowledge. The growth of the body and the development of the mind go hand in hand. This is the process of life growth. So why do we have summer vacations between school years? I think of the six basic talents that ancient Chinese Confucianism requires students to master, namely the six arts, which are etiquette, music, archery, charioteering, calligraphy, and mathematics. Li refers to etiquette, music refers to music, shooting refers to the skill of shooting and riding, chariot refers to the skill of driving a carriage, writing refers to calligraphy, and counting refers to arithmetic. It is not difficult to find that skills that have nothing to do with book knowledge, such as etiquette, riding and shooting, and driving carriages, account for half of the six arts. This shows that Confucianism actually attaches great importance to the coordinated development of body and mind. Looking around the world, this is consistent with the mainstream thinking in the development of modern education. Primary and secondary schools in most European countries are half-day. They only study textbook knowledge in the morning and finish school very early in the afternoon. Children use a lot of time to engage in sports and outdoor activities. Activities and being with nature. Our current school has nothing to do with nature. As for sports, they are not allowed to leave the classroom for even ten minutes between classes. Therefore, during the summer vacation, children are allowed to come to nature and the real world, bask in the sun, and breathe freely. The air is best adjusted by running and jumping. On the other hand, summer vacation is the hottest time of the year. Even adults often need to recuperate physically and mentally during the summer vacation and go to cool places to escape the heat. In ancient times, emperors built summer resorts, and farmers went to work in the fields very early in the summer.Having gone back to rest when the sun rises is a good proof in life. In the coldest winter, farmers who work in the fields all year round will also take a \”winter break\”. All this shows that people will adjust their work and life rhythms according to the different climates throughout the year, that is, they will recuperate and recuperate. Summer vacation is an adjustment time in children\’s lives. Children who have been burdened with heavy learning tasks for a long time can get some rest and recuperation in their lives. The release, growth, and contact with nature that children cannot get in school life have the opportunity to be restored during the summer vacation. There are flowers in spring, moonlight in autumn, cool breeze in summer and snow in winter – the ancients had a beautiful way of life to spend each season – if there are no idle things to worry about, it is a good time in the world. However, our children today have homework in spring, homework in autumn, homework in summer, and homework in winter – they are never idle all year round, and their spirits are always tense. When I think about the fact that during the summer vacation, all the teachers are on vacation and the children still have to do their homework, I get very angry – so many children are depressed, but there are still many schools who are afraid that their children\’s grades will drop as soon as they relax. \”Not enough\”, regardless of the child\’s physical and mental health, assigning a large number of repetitive and memorized homework. There are also many parents who are forced or take the initiative to use summer vacation as another \”training camp\” to make up lessons and study more intensively. Doesn\’t this push the child to death? A car needs to be sent for \”maintenance\” every time it runs for a period of time; a machine needs maintenance every time it runs continuously for a period of time; even prisoners who have lost their personal freedom will have time to \”exercise\”… Our children, growing children, do not have time to \”rest\” – they are like a rubber band that keeps tightening and eventually loses its elasticity. Moreover, regardless of whether you have been engaged in education or not, a basic common sense is that if you remain in a state of tension for a long time, the efficiency of learning will inevitably decrease, and even produce many side effects. We really don’t need to oppress and torture children during the summer vacation. Therefore, before making plans for the summer vacation, I strongly recommend that you don’t go to the cram school classes held underground by the school if you can. Don’t sign up for the training classes for tutoring subjects unless your children actively request them. This, on the contrary, will truly provide your children with the opportunity. Learning is beneficial. I know that many parents will say \”everyone is like this\” and \”we have to\”… However, when the number of students\’ depression gradually rises in this \”have to\” and spreads to \”everyone is like this\”, we as parents , you should still be responsible for your own children. Who will make summer vacation plans? Not a parent anyway! A few days ago, we received a question from a reader on the backstage. He said that his child is 14 years old. He is doing well in all aspects and is emotionally stable. However, there is one problem. He cannot stick to the plans he has set and only implements them very rarely. God gave up, and parents didn’t know how to “fix” this problem. Making summer plans is undoubtedly a good way to plan your summer life, but I still want to ask: Who should make this plan? Is it the child or the parent? From my observation, most summer vacation plans, even if they are made by children themselves, are mostly \”instructed\” or \”encouraged\” by their parents.customized. Plans made by \”others\” require you to implement them. This is probably the reason why plans always fail to be implemented. Therefore, the first step in formulating summer vacation plans is for parents to hide their \”intentions\” in their hearts, do not rush to speak them out, and instead encourage their children to make plans freely according to their own ideas. At this time, you will often find that your child\’s plan is likely to be completely different from what you imagined. Maruko also went on summer vacation a few days ago. I asked her: \”How do you plan to spend your summer vacation? You see, our plan is this: Because we think internship is very important to you, we want to find an internship unit for you…\” As a result, Xiaowanzi directly He replied to me with a big emoticon of rejection. I said, what are you going to do these days? She told me she planned to sleep, hang out with classmates, and draw. So you know what? At the beginning of the summer vacation, be sure to relax your child\’s nerves and give him the freedom to make his own plans. I guess most children\’s plan for the first few days of vacation is to rest, which is the same as us adults – the vacation finally comes, let\’s lie down for two days first. Don’t tell me that mountain climbing is good and healthy, and some good books are worth reading… I know you can do all these things, but the summer vacation has just come and I have a more demanding schedule than usual classes. Maybe the child is very Hard to accept. You might as well set aside a few days so that your child can spend these days relaxing completely freely, freeing him from the daily hard work and intense learning rhythm. You can sleep until as late as you want, and play whatever you want. This is the first step in planning your summer vacation. The advantage of this is that it allows the child to return to his own self from the \”regular\” life during school, and there is a \”repair period\”, just like a tightly stretched rubber band, which can have a chance to return to normal elasticity during the summer vacation. Some parents may ask, are they really allowed to indulge their children and let them do whatever they want, even if they stay up late playing games? In fact, many times it is precisely because of the tense and repressive family atmosphere that children insist on confronting their parents. If the family atmosphere is harmonious, relaxed and tolerant, and if parents trust their children enough, children can do much more to make themselves happy than playing games. We should not think that children will only choose something that their parents hate and continue doing it. When a child has the power to choose freely, he will have many attempts within the allowed range. Use the summer vacation to find other \”arts\” for your children. There is also a question about summer vacation plans that cannot be avoided: Do I need to make up for classes during the summer vacation? Summer vacation tutoring can be roughly divided into two categories. One category is where parents feel that their children’s grades are not good enough and they must take advantage of the summer vacation to make up lessons quickly. This is the so-called “overtaking on a curve”; the other category is when their children’s grades are very good, but parents are always worried about “don’t fall behind.” . Based on these two types of thinking, summer vacation becomes a continuation of classes. Just like the best players in the world cannot play consecutive games, even Messi has to \”take turns\” even if he is not injured. Only in this way can Messi\’s long-term competitive status be maintained. Otherwise, it is very easy to \”use\” the athletes. Therefore, summer vacation is a time to recuperate and recuperate, and letting the fatigue continue is not worth the gain.. So let your children sleep in and not study during the summer vacation? of course not. The theory of multiple intelligences tells us that there are at least seven intelligences in each person, namely language intelligence, mathematical logic intelligence, musical intelligence, spatial intelligence, body movement intelligence, interpersonal intelligence, and self-understanding intelligence; the classification of intelligence is not limited to These seven items. Among these intelligences, very limited ones are taught in school classrooms. The development of most intelligences is achieved through out-of-school learning, and summer vacation is the best time to discover children\’s strengths and cultivate them. When we use the theory of multiple intelligences to look at children, we will find that the school system can only cultivate and measure the development of a certain part of intelligence, and other intelligences that cannot be reflected in the school system are probably what your child is good at. Can only a few students in a class have the best test scores, and the rest of the children can\’t do it? Obviously not. When you know which other intelligences your child is talented in, you will have a better idea of ​​how to support him in developing those intelligences and seeing his unique strengths and values. Can\’t complete the plan? Very normal! When it comes to making holiday plans, we cannot help but let our children relax, and we cannot tighten them up again after they relax, so what we need to make is a normal and flexible plan. How to create a normal and flexible plan? First, don’t fill your schedule to the brim. Many vacation plans that are popular on the Internet are characterized by scheduling from morning to night, and the timetable is specific to the time. The schedule is full, and there seems to be no room for breathing. Such a plan obviously lacks room for flexible changes and has no flexibility. Second, the majority of the plan is for children to have active control. If a child can control himself, he is flexible. For example, the plan includes time for children to read independently every day. Then, children can decide independently what content to read and how long to read. For another example, if the plan says to read for 1 hour every day, but there is a book that the child particularly likes, and one day he holds the book and reads it for 3 hours at a stretch, or for the whole day, is that okay? absolutely okay. This is resilience. You must know that compared with strictly implementing the plan, what the child absorbs from this book during the reading process is more important. Another characteristic of flexible plans is that they allow the plan to be changed or the children to give different feedback during the process. I still remember one year when our family traveled to Australia. Our hotel was right on the beach, and it was a veritable \”ocean view room.\” One day, according to the \”plan\”, we had a full day of outings. But before setting off in the morning, Mikawa Maruko suddenly said that they didn\’t want to go anywhere today and just wanted to lie in the hotel room and watch \”Poirot\”. OMG! We came all the way to Australia, there is a beach right outside the hotel, and you actually want to watch a movie in the room! But then I thought, why not? Since they don\’t want to go out to play today, then I\’ll go for a walk outside by myself! If you think it is more important to strictly implement the plan, then you will definitely not understand their behavior and will try every means to drag them out to play. But the plan is not for enforcement, but for the family to be more open-minded.Heart, harmony. No? Spend a few precious days with your children. If parents have the conditions, I really strongly recommend that parents take some time during the summer vacation to travel with their children, or go back to their hometown or go to the suburbs to experience nature. You know, in normal times, children have to go to school and parents have to work. It is difficult for parents and children to have complete time to spend together in harmony and harmony. For these few days of precious time together, it is recommended that both children and parents be prepared. The greatest value of having the whole family together is not to check in at popular tourist destinations, but that parents can spend some time with their children 24 hours a day. If you can find a good way to communicate with your children, spending these few days together may greatly improve your parent-child relationship. The greatest value of this kind of coexistence is the relaxed communication between parents and children. You will find that the children are growing every year. For these precious few days, it is recommended that the whole family make travel plans together, rather than being made unilaterally by dad or mom, because the process of making plans is the process of family members getting to know each other. Where to go, why to go, and how to play there, father, mother and children can each express it, then discuss it together, and finally reach an agreement. No matter where you go, the process of making plans has been very enriching. The whole family can reach an agreement through full participation and discussion. It is a good experience for children to grow themselves. Since Maruko was very young, our family has had the habit of traveling every year, and this has become a fixed way of life for my family. During the trip, the three of us were together 24 hours a day, booking hotels, driving, and chatting. Gradually, we talked more and more, and we got to know each other better and better. We even made an agreement that even if Maruko grows up and has a family of his own, the three of us will still travel as part of our repertoire every year. Well, having said so much, in fact, it is nothing more than emphasizing \”relax, relax and relax.\” Once we truly relax our body and mind and clear away many things, then many ideas, emotions, and creations will be born in this \”space\”. If we still fill up all our time, how can these wonderful things come?