\”I just had a big fight with my adolescent child.\” Getting along with adolescent children: don\’t care about three things, don\’t get used to them, and don\’t tell them about three things.

Let me share an example I heard recently. It was a crazy complaint from a mother. Her son, who is in the first grade of junior high school this year, is 13 years old. One fine weekend, my mother got up early and made breakfast for her son because he had to go to school. But he didn\’t want to eat it, and because he was worried about his son\’s health, he persuaded him to eat more. As a result, the conflict broke out. The son said that his mother had kidnapped him because of his morals. He couldn\’t eat anything in the morning, so he insisted on eating and missed him. My mother felt that it was too boring to not appreciate it even though she was worried about his health. So the mother and son had a big fight, arguing and making both of them cry, each feeling aggrieved. Then they each went back to their rooms to calm down. However, this mother is one of the wisest mothers I have ever seen. After calming down, she would immediately reflect that it was a small matter in the first place and there was no need for it to become such a mess. 02 My son is willing to go to school to have breakfast. Why do we always have to worry about his malnutrition and poor health? My son is already so old, he should learn to take responsibility for his own health. Even if I worry that he will only eat bread and milk every morning when he goes to school, what about it? If he is willing, it is his choice. Even if his parents think it is wrong, how will he know whether it is good or not if he doesn\’t try it? It\’s not the parents who have the final say whether it\’s good or not, it\’s up to the children to experience it themselves and then choose and make the decision. Later, the son also apologized. The main content of the apology is that the person lost control of his emotions and spoke indiscriminately. The final result of the two people\’s discussion was: there will be no breakfast next week, and the son will go to school to eat breakfast by himself for a week. If he feels good, he can continue. If he feels bad, his mother will still make breakfast for him. 03 Adolescent children are like a little monster in their hearts. They don’t know when it will pop out, but after a while they calm down and return to their normal state. Getting along with adolescent children: don\’t care about three things, don\’t get used to them, and don\’t tell them about three things. 1. The children’s own affairs: 3. Don’t interfere with the children’s homework. When you remind them frequently, they may become lazier. Don\’t stop things that interest your children. Children may have all kinds of unique interests and hobbies, from calligraphy to games, from reading to chasing stars. These unique interests may be the source of future core competencies. Don’t deprive your children of the opportunity to pursue their interests, as miracles may be hidden in those seemingly inconspicuous hobbies. Don\’t invade your child\’s privacy. Adolescent children crave their own space and secrets. Never peek into their cell phones or private diaries, as this will destroy your child\’s self-esteem and trust. They say that once you are unfaithful, you will be tolerated a hundred times. If your children catch you peeking, it will be difficult for them to open up to you again. Therefore, parents, please do not do this kind of thing that will hurt the enemy a thousand times and damage yourself eight hundred times. 2. Don’t condone bad habits: 3. Don’t condone bad behavior if you are not used to it. Adolescent children may have mood swings, but you cannot condone their bad behavior. Stop inappropriate behavior promptly and establish clear rules to help prevent problems from escalating. Don\’t indulge in lazy eating. Don\’t overdo everything and let your child become a giant baby who does nothing. Cultivating children\’s independence and letting them handle their own affairs is the way to be a responsible parent. Don’t indulge in being ungrateful. NoChildren should be placed at the \”center of the world\”. Children who are ungrateful can easily become selfish. Educating children to cherish family ties and appreciate the contributions of their elders will be beneficial to their growth. 3. Don’t hurt your child’s self-esteem: 3. Don’t say “you must listen to me.” Avoid using overbearing language and let your children have a say. Don\’t make them feel restricted, which will avoid inspiring rebellious feelings. \”Look at other people\’s children.\” Don’t always compare yourself to others, as this can hurt your child’s self-esteem. On the contrary, compare yourself with your past self and feel confident when you see progress. \”I\’m all for you.\” Don\’t use moral kidnapping to educate your children, as this will only make them feel guilty and uneasy. The parent-child relationship should be based on mutual trust and dependence.