The meaning of parents’ existence, this answer is so amazing, I strongly recommend parents to read it again and again (collection)

I hope that after your child breaks something, his first reaction is not \”It\’s over, my dad will definitely beat me to death\” but, \”Looks like I need to call my dad.\” I hope that after your child fails in a test, his first reaction is not \”I\’m dead and I\’ll get scolded again when I get home\” but, \”I really want to relax with my mother.\” I hope that your child’s first reaction after falling out of love is not, “Oh, they will definitely say ‘you deserve it’ again,” but, “Hey, my dad will buy all the movie tickets from now on.” I hope all parents can understand that if your child really has the opportunity to choose whose family he is born into, you actually have no competitiveness. When you emphasize the hard work you have done for your children, you should also be grateful that your children never dislike you. Reminding me of a private message from a fan, without any foreshadowing, he started with three cold questions: \”Is anyone really grateful to be brought into this world?\” \”As a parent, why do you only think about whether they want it or not?\” Children, but never think about whether the children would like to have people like them as their parents?\” \”Or at least think about: \’Will people like themselves be the parents of their children, will they let their children down?\’ Parents should not talk to their children. Emphasize how hard you work for him, why not take some free time to chat with him. Instead of forcing him to make progress by losing his temper or even beating and scolding him, it is better to calmly ask him why he is unhappy recently and whether he has encountered any problems. Some parents left a message saying, \”Life is already very difficult, and there are still so many accusations against education.\” Life is indeed not easy, but it is not the child\’s fault. It is indeed difficult to shoulder the responsibilities of life, but that is also the responsibility of parents. The difficulties of life are not caused by our children, nor can they bear them, nor should they be the reason to increase their guilt when they make mistakes or become frustrated. Children do not have the ability to digest this huge sense of guilt. They can only feel self-blame and uneasiness, hating themselves and the world more and more. The accumulation of emotions and disappointments will make him more and more convinced that he is not good and the world is not worthy of love. For children, the scariest thing is not being second to others or being poor, but the fact that their parents allow them to fall in the dark, and instead of lending a helping hand, they give them a slap in the face. In a world of powerlessness, helplessness and hopelessness, what your child needs most is for you to acknowledge his efforts, sense his emotions, and guide him to face the battle of growth. This is the meaning of the existence of parents. How miserable is a child who grows up in an unfortunate family? Some netizens answered this, which makes people feel distressed; \”Live like an orphan with both parents!\” He will habitually feel inferior. , sensitive, timid, will take the initiative to show weakness and take the initiative to take care of other people\’s emotions and feelings, because he has lived a cautious life since he was a child. I would like to say three things to parents: (1) Don’t frequently say to your children, “So and so is so great” or “So and so is much better than you.” For children, these are all harmful and have no motivating effect. A better incentive is that you believe \”the child can do it\” instead of repeatedly reminding him that he is inferior. (2) Speak well if you have something to say. Every time you tell your child, \”I scolded you and hit you,It\’s because I love you.\” This kind of behavior is to \”help\” the child confuse anger and love in a disguised way. When he grows up, he will love the person who hurt him and hurt the person who loves him. Because That person looks very much like his parents. (3) The home is the flower pot, and the children are the seeds. The purpose of the flower pot is to provide a safe space for the seeds to grow, not to dictate what fruits the seeds should bear. From the child\’s perspective: \”You love me very much, but you don\’t like me at all!\” An enlightened parent-child relationship means that parents can make requests, but allow their children to express their opinions and allow them to have the power to make decisions. Parents will not be annoyed because they make demands, and parents will not accuse their children of being unfilial because they are disobedient; children\’s various feelings, thoughts, and opinions can flow safely and freely in front of their parents; parents are providing When giving opinions, there is no condescending \”what must be done\”, no unnecessarily \”this can only be this\”, and no \”what else do you want\” trying to control