These three types of children have the least future prospects and are easily eliminated by society! I hope your child doesn’t get hit

Ran Ran\’s mother shared an incident with me. On weekends, a colleague brought her children to visit her home. Their children wanted to catch goldfish in the fish tank, but Ran Ran stopped her. The little boy took advantage of Ranran to get the toy and quietly pulled his mother to the fish tank. The mother thought that the child wanted her to see the goldfish, but unexpectedly the child stretched out his little hand and went to fish for the goldfish. The child\’s little cleverness made everyone embarrassed, and the mother stopped the child in time. Ran Ran\’s mother also praised awkwardly, \”The child is so smart, he can think of such a method.\” We often say that promising children are often very smart and clever when they are young. However, not all smart children will be successful when they grow up. Three years old looks older, seven years old looks older. If a child has these three signs since he was a child, it will be difficult for him to be successful in the future. Parents must pay attention to this. There is no doubt that people with low emotional intelligence will speak regardless of the situation. Nowadays, society pays more and more attention to a person\’s emotional intelligence. People with high emotional intelligence are more likely to succeed in this society. Have you noticed? Some children are naturally sweet-tongued and lovable, while others are dumb and unable to say nice things. There are even some children who can be called the \”last hit king\”. They become silent whenever they talk, but they always like to answer the questions. There is a child in the neighbor\’s house. Whenever he sees any child wearing new clothes, he will say with disgust, \”Why are these clothes so ugly? They are so tacky.\” When playing in the community, when he saw a child accidentally falling down, he would be the first to run over. Seeing their embarrassment, before leaving, he would say, \”It\’s so funny how you chewed mud in your mouth!\” Over time, Many children in the community don\’t like to play with him, and adults don\’t want to pay attention to him. Some parents may think that low emotional intelligence is enough. If others don\’t like it, just like it yourself. This is not the case! Harvard University psychologist Dr. Goleman once said: \”IQ only accounts for 20% of a person\’s success, while emotional intelligence accounts for as much as 80%.\” The level of emotional intelligence determines the child\’s future social and interpersonal skills, and affects the child\’s future career development. Children with low emotional intelligence are likely to lose the most precious opportunities in life due to inappropriate verbal expressions when they grow up. Emotional intelligence is something \”invisible and intangible\”, but it will follow you at any time like a shadow. The book \”Emotional Intelligence\” mentions: Family life is the first school where we learn emotions. What is heartbreaking is that many parents unconsciously expose their words, deeds, and emotions to their children; they even label their children negatively and magnify their shortcomings. Many times, your IQ and EQ are hidden in what you say to your children, and this will also affect your children\’s EQ. I once went to a scenic spot to visit. When I was queuing up to buy tickets, there was a grandma in front of me with a six or seven-year-old child. The grandmother possessed her and said to the child: \”When I ask you how tall you are later, just say 1.1 meters, so you don\’t have to buy a ticket.\” The child raised his head with confusion and asked why. \”Just say whatever I want you to say.\” Grandma told the child in a tone that left no room for doubt. There are countless examples of parents taking their children to evade fares. At ticket purchase windows at stations, subway stations, scenic spots, etc., parents often whisper to their children to check theirWhen you are high, you \”lower your head\” and \”bend your waist\”, trying every means to take advantage. The child is in the period of establishing the concept of right and wrong, and being greedy for petty gains can easily lead to him developing bad habits. Those children who love to take advantage since childhood seem to have found a shortcut, but they don\’t know that everything in this world has a price secretly marked on it. Every time you take advantage, you lose your ambition and height as a human being. British philosopher Locke said: \”Everyone comes into this world like a blank sheet of paper. Then, the environment in which he lives begins to color him. What his environment is like, what he will become. People. \”Children will not be sensible as soon as they are born. Qualified parents nourish their children with upbringing, while unqualified parents influence their children with bad habits. When I was a child, I saw my mother stealing green onions from the store when she was shopping. When I grew up, my child also became such a person. When I was a child, I saw my father telling me lies in order to save money. When I grew up, my child also became a person who told lies. Children are a mirror of their parents. Parents who set wrong examples are equivalent to \”mirroring\” the bad children\’s lives. Psychologists say that people\’s tendency to take advantage of others is usually formed under the influence of their parents during childhood. If parents like to take advantage of small things, it will be difficult for their children to have a big picture in their lives. Family education will really affect a child\’s life. Parents who are \”poor at heart\” are destined to be unable to support their children\’s future. Fear of hardship and extremely fragile psychology. As a parent, the more deeply you love your child, the more you must educate him to learn to \”endure hardship\” from an early age. However, today\’s children are particularly afraid of hardship. There have been media reports before: In a summer camp, a junior high school boy lost his temper on the first day he arrived at the camp; he disliked the poor accommodation conditions, no air conditioning, and no elevator in the summer camp, so he took his luggage that night. Went home. Some children complain that the food at school is too poor. They dislike the food being oily and tasteless, forcing their parents to either deliver food or pay to eat out themselves. Although material life is generally richer now, meeting children\’s basic needs such as food and clothing has long been no problem. However, children who are delicate and afraid of hardship are also a big problem. A very common phenomenon in families nowadays is that several adults surround a child and give the child whatever he wants. Most parents have suffered a lot, but they are reluctant to let their children suffer. No matter how hard it is, I can\’t hurt my children, and I love my children too much. I can\’t tell the boundaries of how to love my children correctly. I have to do everything for my children and do it all by myself. More and more working-class people have \”carefully\” cultivated a \”rich second generation\” who can only open their mouth to \”buy, buy, buy.\” There are many children nowadays who are particularly afraid of hardship. They will give up when encountering difficulties, cry when encountering obstacles, push back when encountering problems, and often give up halfway. Children with a \”glass heart\” are fragile and sensitive inside, and have no resilience at all. It is difficult for such children to be successful when they grow up. We must warn our children: Don’t choose comfort when you should be struggling, and don’t give up studying when you should be studying. At the same time, parents should also set a good example, so that their children can learn to deal with setbacks and difficulties, promote the development of their children\’s internal drive, and give them a strong heart. Educator Fonnarsky believes: \”What a child becomes is all shaped by his parents.\” When children are young,It is extremely malleable, so you must take care of your children as early as possible. When you notice these 3 signs in your child, you must be vigilant. Use correct three views and excellent role models in a timely manner to guide and help children return to the correct path of growth.