Mom\’s favorite mantra, ruining her daughter\’s dream of becoming a biologist

A colleague often complains to us that today\’s children are becoming more and more difficult to teach, and she doesn\’t understand their thoughts at all. Her son has passed the high school entrance examination this year, and his grades were excellent, but she, a mother, is very anxious. It turns out that her son has recently passed the exam because of The retirement of NBA basketball superstar Kobe Bryant has once again ignited his basketball passion that had been barely restrained for several months. In addition, as the captain of the school basketball team, he has been unable to let go of the game, so he seems to be in danger of \”going astray\” again. . Hearing this, I clearly found out what the problem was. For the sake of their children\’s studies, mothers stifled their children\’s pursuit of interests and talents! So, I asked her: \”Your child is very good and tall. We all know that you are very proud of it, but is the child really happy? Have you ever really communicated with him?\” \”Uh… In this regard, I usually only care about him studying well and not being a bad student, and I really don’t care about the rest.” In fact, this kind of problem has become common. We often ridicule how bad the competition in China’s exam-oriented education is and how it kills nature, and Questioning why there are so many experts with ideas in foreign countries in all walks of life, while Chinese experts are always so conservative, indeed, these are objective reasons. However, few people have discovered that our Chinese parents are also using the same method to strictly control their children\’s ability to develop freely, which happens to be a driving force for the above problems. Many parents only care about their children\’s academic performance. In order to improve their children\’s performance, they do everything possible to curb the development of their other interests and hobbies besides learning. In this way, the effect is often counterproductive, and the children\’s rebellious mood will fluctuate even more. In addition, parents ask how many scores they will get on the test. When the child does well in the exam, there may be material rewards and all kinds of love. If he fails in the exam, what awaits the child will be a scolding or even a beating, and a scolding: \”Do you still want to have hobbies? What will happen in the future?\” Stop doing it! Study hard from me!\” This seemingly extreme approach is actually very common. Children\’s nature and talents will be the source of all creativity. As parents, we should support and explore their individual needs. This is the responsibility and obligation of parents. Learning is important, but guiding them to develop in an all-round way is even more crucial. , a hobby often opens your mind and lays the foundation for a successful career. The current national education policy is actually undergoing subtle changes, from examination-oriented to quality-oriented to comprehensive development of morality, intelligence, physical and aesthetics. The purpose is to better play a responsive role and guide parents to care about their children\’s interest cultivation and acquired development. The future China needs diversified construction, and it cannot lack the basic training of this group of future generations. This is an era of freedom and openness, and we should take the initiative to cater to it. There is such a ridiculous thing going viral in China. It is said that there is a little girl who likes to observe and watch the movements of small animals motionlessly. Once, she unexpectedly found an earthworm broken in half in the soil and still moving tenaciously. Then she grabbed them and prepared to do a little experiment. At this time, her mother ran over very angry, threw away the earthworms in the girl\’s hands, and scolded loudly: \”What do you mean by a girl playing with mud and fighting insects all day long? Hurry up and learn from me.\” .\” Later, this matter was reported to the National Ministry of EducationA certain leader said angrily: \”Look at these parents, they just killed a female biologist alive!\” Of course, there are also some wise Chinese parents who are setting the right example. Do you still remember Xie Jun, the famous master-level chess player who was restless? His upbringing has been an example of advocacy in the education community because of his liberal mother. As a child, Xie Jun was already crazy about the game on the chess board. As long as she sat on the throne of the chess game, she was reborn and concentrated on studying various chess skills. However, the mother did not support her child’s interests at all in the beginning. She believed that her family’s scholarly family should allow her daughter to plan her life according to her own design, such as getting a science major, enrolling in a famous university, and then having a good and well-established job. Unfortunately, The child is very persistent in his preference for playing chess, and his chess skills are really good. He often wins various competition awards, and is highly praised by school coaches, relatives and friends. They all think that he is a natural genius chess player! After repeated ideological struggles, the mother spoke to her daughter seriously. The mother asked her if she really liked playing chess. The daughter was very timid, with tears in her eyes and a desire for recognition. She nodded slightly and expressed her inner thoughts. . After hearing this, my mother took a deep breath and told her happily: \”Remember, you have to finish the road you choose on your knees. Mom supports you, but you must be responsible for your own life. At this stage, you cannot Drop your study tasks!\” In this way, Xie Jun\’s happy dream journey began, and it was finally verified that her choice was correct and her dream was worthy of recognition. This is the unshirkable responsibility of great and wise parents. This It is also a way to love your children.