Please be respectful! Parents, please don’t do this to your children!

When I went to a stationery store to buy office supplies some time ago, I saw a scene like this: beautifully decorated diaries were placed on both sides of the door, and they were all locked. The locks had different shapes, which was eye-catching. The clerk saw me looking at it, and he hurriedly ran over to me and introduced me: \”This is a very popular lockable notebook this year. Many children like it. You can also buy one. Your children will definitely like it.\” I heard a little bit. It\’s amazing, what magic makes children fall in love with such a troublesome notebook? No wonder it only relies on its glossy appearance and cute cartoon shape? Isn\’t it? I noticed that there were other regular notebooks in the store that were packaged no less well. At this time, a parent brought his daughter into the store, and seemed to be preparing to choose a notebook. The girl was seen shaking her two pigtails, walking to the locked notebook without thinking, pointing to a certain favorite target, and using an almost command. I said to my mother in a tone of voice: \”Mom! No need to look for it, I want this!\” This made me very curious, are these lock-top notebooks popular among children now? Later, after talking with my eldest son, I learned that this is popular in many schools now, and some teachers even encourage them to buy it independently. The reason is that children need to establish their own privacy. Today\’s parents are afraid that their children will learn badly, be playful and not learn. Keeping an eye on the child\’s whereabouts at all times, even the diary assigned by the teacher, seems to be a standard family education behavior, but in fact it has seriously interfered with the child\’s privacy. The consequences of not respecting the child may lead to psychological disorders, etc. Growing shadows, this kind of behavior is frowned upon in the education community! In my opinion, children’s worldview is still very small. In this growing environment full of unknowns, they shut out their closest and most trustworthy parents and need to hide themselves with locks. This situation is actually It\’s cruel, but the reason why children have this kind of reaction is ultimately due to parents\’ disrespect for their children. The parents\’ feelings are understandable. We are really afraid of the generation gap with our children, and we actively seek ways to get along with them, but without permission Under such circumstances, peeking at a child\’s diary is a premature and immoral act. It would be uncomfortable for any of us. Not only is this counterproductive, but it also seriously hurts the child\’s self-esteem. In fact, there are no real ulterior secrets in many children\’s diaries. Parents know their children best. They just record the interesting things or moods they encountered that day, and then think about them from a positive perspective. A child\’s willingness to take the initiative to create his own secrets shows that he has a certain degree of self-esteem, rich inner activities, and active thinking. Such children are often smart and cheerful, and their creative actions should not be restricted. In this regard, parents It should be kept in mind. Regarding how to respect children, Doudehui suggests that parents can learn from the following points: 1. Children have independent personalities and are complete and thoughtful individuals. Many parents call their children treasures, but in fact they treat them as playthings. Even pets. It is undeniable that everyone is happy to have a cute living treasure at home. However, we should spend more energy to understand the child\’s personality and inner thoughts, and give full affirmation and psychological freedom instead of overly interfering.Their little secret, this is very disrespectful to the child. 2. Children have their own emotional expressions and like to exaggerate the truth, but it does not mean that they like to lie. Every child wants to be loved and paid attention to, and they are born with a set of performance desires that match their own personality, so do not deny or accuse them easily. When children lie, they feel uncomfortable being wronged, which is often a major trigger of rebellion. 3. As we all know, we are now a society with strict discipline and the rule of law. There is a set of laws for citizens of all ages. Among them, the law on the protection of the rights and interests of minors has attracted special attention, which shows that the country respects minors and children are the hope of the future. , they should grow up healthily in an environment where independent individuals should enjoy certain rights. If you, as a parent, do not know how to respect your children and interfere with their privacy, it is also a violation of the law. If you want your children to develop good qualities of being polite and respecting others, you cannot ignore these details. A child who is respected will naturally know how to respect others, and if a child is arrogant, rude and disrespectful to others, he will naturally know how to respect others. Those who know how to respect people\’s impressions must not be respected enough and have no recognized status in the family. Their souls have already been seriously hurt, which is something no one wants to see. If you want to raise your child to be a person with a bright heart and noble moral character, you must start from now on to build trust in your child and give your child full freedom of thought. You must insist on believing that children who receive enough trust and respect will definitely not Disappoint you!