My son was bullied outside! Dad’s weird teachings made everyone applaud

I was chatting with a friend on WeChat last night, and somehow the conversation ended up about her six-year-old son. This little guy is very naughty, but he is naughty, but he is not a bastard. He is reasonable and does not have the temper of his ancestors. He is still very polite in front of adults, and he interacts harmoniously with his friends. The day before yesterday, this boy went out to ride a bicycle in the garden downstairs. He came back crying soon. My friend was still stunned. It was really rare for this boy to cry because he was used to being naughty. It seemed like nothing was wrong, but it seemed like the situation was serious this time. So his friend asked him why he was like this, and the little guy told the reason intermittently. It turned out that the little guy went downstairs to play with the cars with his friends as usual. He was having fun when an unknown little boy next to him took a small branch and a small stone and deliberately threw it at them. So the little guy got out of the car and told the strange little boy not to throw these things away, but who knew that he didn\’t listen at all, and not only that, but also pushed him to the ground hard. As a result, he went home crying and complained. After hearing what the child said, before the friend could ask the child if the strange little boy had any questions for adults, the friend\’s husband, who was looking at the computer, spoke directly to educate the little boy. \”Is the kid who pushed you as tall as you? Is he as fat as you?\” The little guy shook his head and said no. \”Then you are still crying. You are taller and fatter than others. You also have arms and legs. Why don\’t you get up and push him down? What\’s the use of a man crying? If he hits you, if you hit him again, you have to fight back. You have to retaliate when you are scolded, be a man, if you can\’t beat me, daddy will help you!\” After saying this, the little guy looked at his daddy. His daddy was 1.9 meters tall, and he was very strong. He looked really strong. I don\’t know if he really understood what his father said or what, but he stopped crying and turned around and went out. The friend was worried about the child and followed him downstairs. Sure enough, there was a child in the small garden who was making trouble as the child said. He would throw the other children wherever they went. The little guy walked up to the troublemaker and pushed him to the ground. But the strange little boy didn\’t seem to expect that the fat boy who left crying would come back and push him to the ground. He became angry for a moment. He got up and pushed the little guy hard, but this time he was not as easy to bully as the last time, and the little guy responded unceremoniously. After going back and forth, the strange little boy was defeated and fell to the ground crying. stand up. The friend who was hiding behind wanted to come out and pull the strange child, but it was too late. The crying child had already been pulled up by someone else, and this other person turned out to be his own son. This surprised my friend. How could his son know how to do this? I saw him pulling the crying little boy up and saying something to him. Due to the distance, my friend didn\’t know what to say, but he saw the strange little boy nodding and sitting on a small stone stool. , the son rode his bike again to play with his friends. After two laps, he sat on the small stone bench and gave the bike to the strange little boy to play with. After a while, the little boy took the bike again. The car is returned to my son, soPlaying for each other, the two of them obviously have a feeling of being friends. This is really different from the blushing and thick-necked pushing just now. To apply the thinking of our adults, it is \”no acquaintance without fighting\”. Such a result is really something that my friend did not expect. My friend came out with only one purpose, to worry. I\’m worried that if the child really does what his father taught him, he will definitely cause trouble and fight, either his own baby will be injured, or someone else\’s baby will have an accident. In short, neither will be good. So run out on your own, follow behind and stop them when necessary. But now I realize that I have really over-considered what I was thinking. It seems that my husband’s method of hitting, cursing, and fighting back really works. Seeing that the children were having fun, my friend went back upstairs, opened the door, and told her husband what she saw. At the end, she didn\’t forget to ask, \”Are you really worried that the children will cause trouble?\” Unexpectedly, my husband said: \”Why don\’t you worry? If you didn\’t follow me out, I would have followed you out. However, he will not change this educational method of hitting back and scolding.\” Because the purpose of this is not only to make people In addition to children\’s self-protection, another reason is not to let your children be timid, cowardly, and weak, let alone bully children to become more arrogant. Because there are often little fights in children\’s world, and they have to be allowed to face it on their own. However, this tit-for-tat approach also has a prerequisite. First, follow the principle that if others do not offend me, I will not offend others. Before educating your children to use tit-for-tat, you must first see whether the other person is careless or deliberately bullying. If they are careless, it doesn\’t matter. Just remind each other to pay attention. If the latter is the case, then be polite before fighting. You must treat others the way they are. The Tao also heals the person\’s body. Second, when educating their children in retaliation, parents should also be careful to tell their children not to touch important parts of the human body. The best thing is to grab the wrist or leg. This can teach the child some skills. Third, if there is a huge disparity in strength between the two parties, then the child must be taught to quickly find a teacher or parent to deal with the problem while protecting himself. Hitting and scolding before retaliating may seem like an undesirable way to deal with violence with violence, but as long as you master the principles, it is much better than the repressive method of not hitting back, scolding or retaliating, and it will be more conducive to the growth of children. what do you think? Anyway, everyone in our circle of friends agrees.