In the face of trade-offs, this mother’s strange method of educating her children is worth learning from.

\”You can\’t have your cake and eat it too.\” Just like it\’s impossible for a person to step into two rivers at the same time, it\’s impossible to walk on two avenues at the same time. Choice and trade-off are compulsory courses for people in the process of growing up, and they are what children need to cultivate. One of the basic abilities. Children learn to make choices, and they can have the mind to analyze calmly and make rational choices at many points in life, so that they will not worry about gains and losses, and will not miss opportunities in life. Of course, in order for children to understand and master the principles and methods of making choices, the role of parents is very important. In life, if parents themselves cannot make correct choices about things, they may turn this hesitancy into reality. Attitudes are transmitted to children subtly and have a negative impact on them. Therefore, \”bad\” parents attach great importance to teaching their children to learn to choose and give up. \”Bad\” parents will give their children more opportunities to choose in family education and cultivate their children\’s ability to choose, judge and make choices in daily life. In daily life, \”bad\” parents can provide their children with more opportunities to choose, such as which clothes to wear today, and let them arrange their own activities if conditions permit. In the absence of principled conflicts, children can do their best to deal with their own lives. The ancients said: \”Which of the two benefits is greater, and the two disadvantages are less.\” This is a common standard that is easy to understand, and it is also the principle that parents should follow when teaching their children to choose and give up. Once, Lele\’s school held a sports meeting, and the long jump and relay races were scheduled together. However, both of them were Lele\’s strengths. He had to make a choice, that is, choose to participate in one of them and give up the other. One item. According to the regulations of the school sports meeting, only individual rankings are counted in the long jump, while scores in the relay race are calculated on a class-by-class basis. Lele has always regarded the long jump as his strong point and is sure to be among the top two in his grade. However, if he does not participate in the relay race, this event in the class will lose its competitiveness. Although the relay class will not necessarily win the Lele Long jump has better results, but it is also an event that students and teachers are very concerned about. For this reason, Lele was really undecided, so she went home to discuss it with her mother. After listening to this, my mother said lightly in a suggestive tone: \”If you care about personal performance, choose long jump; if you care about the ranking of the class, you can participate in the relay race.\” Lele\’s little eyes rolled and she explained : \”If my long jump score enters the top three in the grade, it will also increase the score of the class.\” Mom then asked: \”Comparing the two, which one will add more points to the class?\” Lele said without thinking. Answer: \”Of course it is the relay race. The relay race is a major event. The first place has 12 points, and the first place in the long jump only has 5 points.\” So my mother said: \”Isn\’t that a good choice?\” But Lele was still very happy. He hesitated: \”The long jump will have its own certificate, and the bonus is also given to individuals.\” At this time, her mother persuaded Lele earnestly and said: \”Compared with the personal interests you may have and the honor of the class, which one is more important in your heart?\” What about heavy weight?\” Lele thought for a while and said: \”Of course it\’s the class. If the class wins, I\’m proud of it. I\’m still a class cadre, but I can\’t bear to give up the long jump, becauseIn order to achieve good results, I have trained many times! \”My mother took the opportunity to educate Lele and said: \”Child, when your palms cannot hold two things at the same time, you must learn to give up one of them, otherwise you may lose two at the same time, or even if you keep one, , I will always feel regretful and no longer happy. Sometimes, giving up is also to get better. In a person\’s life, he will encounter many dilemmas. You have to regard this kind of choice as a very common thing and an exercise for your growth. You will not be difficult. A decision has been made. \”Lele is a smart child. He understood what his mother meant, so he happily chose to participate in the relay race. Moreover, he no longer regretted that he had lost the chance to place in the long jump. In the journey of life, everyone will meet A dilemma. Choice means you need to give up one of them, but not all choices are so easy to choose. It may be two beautiful flowers or two lush trees, making it difficult for you to leave both behind. As adults, it is difficult for us to make choices, let alone our children? However, choice is an attitude, simplicity is a state of mind. In the journey of life, it is impossible for everything to go as planned, and it is impossible to have no choice, only to learn to give up Only by maintaining a peaceful state of mind can you live a solid and satisfied life. \”Taking\” is a skill, and \”giving up\” is also a philosophy.\” Although \”taking\” and \”giving up\” are opposite meanings, they are also two aspects of the same thing. . \”Bad\” parents believe that although this philosophy sounds profound, it should be instilled in children from a very young age. In the face of their children\’s lives, parents should not do everything for their children. When choosing, you should also tell your children early that what you give up today is for what you will gain tomorrow, and the principle of \”a blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise\”. Giving up is for better possession, and relaxation is the best attitude towards life. Here, we also have to mention the wisdom of giving up. What does it mean to give up? \”Bad\” parents often tell their children that giving up means choosing again. Too many parents are unable to teach their children to give up. In their dictionary, giving up means that their children lack perseverance. In fact, this is a curse placed on themselves by the parents themselves. If the child can calmly give up something he thinks is not suitable for him, That is the courage and courage that people who achieve great things should have. Who in life is not at a crossroads of choices? In the process of choosing, we learn to give up. If you gain something, you will lose something. If you give up, you will gain something. Understanding that choice and giving up are also part of education will guide our children towards a better tomorrow. In life, \”bad\” parents need to give their children more opportunities to make choices. For example, they can only allow their children to choose one of two equally good clothes, or they can only choose one when it comes to travel and New Year\’s money, etc. Calmness is also very important. Therefore, parents should try to restrain their anxiety in daily life, such as not complaining and being indecisive. They should also be careful not to face problems dogmatically.