A seven-year-old child was refused admission to school. The doctor\’s words made the mother regret it!

Because they have registered residence in other places, according to local regulations, the procedures for enrolling children in school are more complicated than those for local children. After a lot of effort, Lin Fei registered her child Wenwen, but she could not enroll in school. In half a month, the teacher visited Lin Fei nearly ten times. The last time the teacher said to Lin Fei, the child did not listen in class, liked to walk all over the floor, and lost his temper and threw things at every turn. Maybe it was because he was too old. It\’s a small reason. Wenwen sounds like she is seven years old, but she is actually only five and a half years old. In addition, her self-care ability is relatively poor, so there is definitely a gap compared with other children with big birthdays. If it doesn\’t work, Lin Fei is suggested to If Wenwen is taken back and goes to kindergarten for another year, maybe the situation will be better than now. Although the teacher did not say no directly and let Lin Fei choose whether to stay or go, there must be some meaning in declining the child\’s enrollment. Maybe the teacher really considers it from the perspective of children\’s physical and mental learning. After all, oppressive learning is detrimental to children in all aspects. In fact, Lin Fei was not ignorant of Wenwen\’s behavior. In kindergarten, a teacher told her about Wenwen\’s performance. Compared with other children of the same age, she was either inattentive or doing some small damage. The teachers all said that although Wenwen was a little girl, she could do more things than a little boy. However, whenever the teacher told Lin Fei about Wenwen\’s performance, Lin Fei always severely criticized Wenwen. At that time, she thought that it was just a naughty child, and it was no big deal. It would be better if the child was older. On the first day her child entered school, Lin Fei thought to herself that school was no better than a kindergarten, and that the environment should help Wenwen get rid of her bad habits. But who knows how such a thing happened? My friend said that we should take the child to the hospital for a check-up to see if it is due to ADHD or a lack of some elements in the body. This way at least we will have some confidence in our mind and be able to make a targeted decision. By coincidence, on the day Lin Fei took her child to the hospital for examination, a pediatrician happened to be sitting there. After completing relevant examinations, the expert told Lin Fei that the child did not have ADHD and had no physical problems. The reason why she was so different from children of the same age was that the problem was psychological. When children have psychological problems and bad emotions, they often show symptoms such as poor concentration, reckless and impulsive behavior, and irritable and naughty tempers. How could such a young child have such psychological symptoms? The next conversation between the old pediatrician and Lin Fei made Lin Fei shocked and regretful! It turns out that Wenwen is so much related to herself. I had a baby, Wenwen, not long after I got married. Due to the relatively poor economic conditions at that time, the monthly loan repayment pressure and the strong pregnancy reaction, my mood became irritable and my appetite was even worse. After the child was born, I became pregnant. She was a little malnourished and cried constantly. Unexpectedly, the child was already affected by her emotions during pregnancy. When the child was a little older and asked adults to accompany her, she would either use work as an excuse or just deal with the child casually. Sometimes, he even treats the child simply and rudely, interrupting the child\’s conversation. The child is there to encourage him, but he thinks that the child will be fine in one minute, it\’s no big deal, and he will come back later.Just buy a toy she likes. I can count on my ten fingers the number of times I have played with my child seriously or chatted with her for a while. I thought it was enough for my child to eat well, drink well and have fun. Who would have thought that at such a young age, the emotions of adults would become so severe? harm. Think about how simple and rude you were to your children in the past, and then think about how the bad emotions caused by work or household chores have affected your children, but you don\’t even know it, and you don\’t feel sad! Fortunately, it\’s not too late to remedy the situation. Considering the child\’s condition at school, Lin Fei found Wenwen\’s teacher and told the teacher about Wenwen\’s situation in detail, and asked the teacher to observe the child for another half month to see if there was any improvement. Lin Fei decided to send Wenwen to kindergarten again. The moment Lin Fei took her child out of the doctor\’s office, she decided to change her bad mood first, change the way she dealt with her child, and combined the doctor\’s advice to first keep her bad mood from appearing in her child. around. Let yourself control your emotions and give your child a good atmosphere. Second, try to take some time to chat with your child every day, pay attention to what happened to her today, praise her highlights, give her suggestions on her shortcomings, and hope that she can do better. Praise makes the child happy, and the happy emotion makes her feel that she has to do better, so she can slowly get rid of her bad habits. At the same time, she can also talk about her own things and share them with her child. If she has enough time, she will accompany her. Play for a little longer and let your child feel your peace of mind and care. The last thing is to give the child a certain amount of time to adapt and not to rush for success. Give your children more patience. Bad habits do not form overnight, and changes will not be completed in a short time. In addition, these practices of adults must also be carried out persistently. Only in this way can good educational effects be achieved. Half a month later, Lin Fei found the teacher, and Wenwen was finally able to stay in school. Because the teacher saw the changes in Wenwen, she began to be able to control herself, and stopped losing her temper and throwing things at will. Wenwen is now a third-grade primary school student with excellent academic performance. When chatting with several friends, Lin Fei often says, \”Don\’t let your bad mood spoil your child. It\’s scary to think about it.\” . This is not alarmist, because it is a fact, and parents with children really need to pay attention.