Should parents really read the privacy on their 9-year-old daughter’s mobile phone?

\”Baby, who are these people in your WeChat? There are so many of them?\” \”Why have you joined so many groups? It\’s so chaotic…\” \”Who is this person named *****? They all talk about random things. Something?\”…I suddenly realized that the problem was a bit serious, put down the dishes and chopsticks I was washing, and quickly slipped into the living room. During dinner, the father\’s cell phone screen accidentally broke, so he had to borrow his daughter\’s cell phone for the night. Now I saw him holding his daughter\’s mobile phone and pointing at her WeChat, scolding her righteously, his voice getting louder and louder. There was a slight fermentation of warm gas in the air, and the light in the living room was extremely bright. I saw my daughter\’s eyes were reddish, with tears of grievance in them. The daughter is nine years old. During the Chinese New Year last year, we gave her a mobile phone. Now she often uses her mobile phone to read WeChat public account articles, such as Educational Teachers, The Little Lady of Yilin and so on. After my daughter got a mobile phone, she has always been very self-conscious. I just go home from school and chat with my classmates in the living room for a while and grab red envelopes. I basically never bring my mobile phone into the room to play with while doing homework, and I never bring my mobile phone to school. I have always wanted to be a friend in my children\’s lives and try not to put pressure on my children by pretending to be a mother in my life. In fact, I am approachable and have a baby face that I love when I see a baby. My children are also very close to me, they like to get into trouble with me, and they knead and knead me like a clay doll when they have nothing to do. I enjoy such casual interactions with my daughter. I believe that parents should not interfere too much with their children\’s freedom. They should respect their children, trust them, and give them independent space. Of course, I am not an education expert, nor do I understand adolescent psychology. As an ordinary mother, I hope that my children can grow up in a more relaxed and free family environment. After giving my child a mobile phone, I helped her register WeChat, gave her some brief guidance, and told her not to download anything online to prevent her phone from getting poisoned, and then left it to her to take care of her phone. I never take the initiative to look at her mobile phone, even if her mobile phone is left at home every day, it always beeps and vibrates non-stop. I would only tell my daughter appropriately: Don’t add strangers as friends, don’t talk to strangers, and protect yourself. My daughter will often chat with me and tell me that her classmates like to give out red envelopes and form groups, and then drag her into them. I always listened carefully with a smile and found nothing wrong. But now, looking at the two old and young people in the living room, one is serious and serious, and the other is a pear blossom with rain in my eyes. I feel pity for them. I took my daughter\’s phone from my father\’s hand and scanned it quickly. Mona Lisa, Zhuge Kongming, various English names, and all kinds of strange avatars on the WeChat friends list are bustling with unread messages on the phone screen, waiting for my daughter to click on them and reply. A long list of unknown software icons were flashing on the notification bar… I paused and turned to my daughter: Baby, first of all, your parents have said that they will not interfere too much in the private space where you communicate with your friends, so we never I haven\’t actively looked at your phone. Dad didn’t intentionally check your phone today, but he wasWell, I need to borrow your cell phone for the night today, and your cell phone keeps ringing and vibrating, right? Because we all believe in the baby and believe that the baby is a good baby. Of course, the baby has never let us down, he has never been hidden away, and his mobile phone has always been placed openly on the coffee table in the living room. Your mother has told you before that you cannot accept requests from strangers to add friends, and you cannot download any software at will. You must ask your mother first before downloading any software. Your mother knows the operability better than you, right? It’s also my fault, Mom. You told Mom that your classmates and classmates from school like to form groups and like to drag you into them. Mom didn’t ask clearly what groups you belong to. If it’s an unfamiliar group, don’t join any unnecessary groups. Join, if someone you don’t know in the group wants to add you as a friend, you can’t accept it, you know? Also, you said that most of your friends are your classmates. Can you add their real names to all of them? This way you can tell them apart even if they change their nicknames again? The daughter nodded, her clear eyes flashing with tears. Seeing that my daughter is still accepting it, I continue: Also, we should play less WeChat and less mobile phones. It is so cold. All emotions are isolated by the cold screen. You can’t feel the joy and anger of your friends under the screen. Sad music, wouldn\’t it be more fun to chat and play with friends in a lively manner? Love is mutual, right? Mom loves you so much, and you love her too, right? Mom trusts you so much, and you should repay her by making her feel at ease, right? There are too many things on your phone, so you should keep it slimmed down. It also needs regular exercise to stay healthy! Mom believes you know what to do, right? If you trust your mother, can you take the initiative to give your mobile phone to your mother from time to time and let her be your woodpecker to help you check its health? I handed the phone to my daughter, and she took it and tapped it quickly with her fingers. After a while, hand it to me again. I know that everything that needs to be deleted has been deleted without even looking at it! I held my daughter in my arms and pecked her little face twice, and my daughter\’s flashing eyes suddenly smiled, shining brightly under the light. The air became mild and moist, like a warm breeze blowing through the garden in the afternoon, gentle and peaceful. Dad turned on the TV. On the TV, the men\’s 69kg weightlifting final of the Rio Olympics was in full swing. Outside the window, night falls, the lights begin to turn on, and the pink neon lights and bright street lights blend into a gentle ocean. With unparalleled comfort, I sat comfortably on the sofa. The cheers and cheers from the TV came to my ears, and the warm atmosphere in the air began to flow again… Bai Shijun felt that children\’s privacy should not be peeped, but the church It is necessary for children to establish good discrimination skills and establish good communication habits with their children. As a parent, you should help your children establish correct principles for making friends and good discernment skills, so that when encountering problems, even if parents do not interfere excessively, the children can still make more reasonable choices. And good communication can ensure that parents can keep abreast of their children\’s lives. There is no need to peek into privacy, the children will share it with you.