After deciding to sign an agreement with his child, his changes were astonishing!

When it comes to signing agreements, it seems that it is not something that should happen at home. However, as children become more and more accepting of this method, many forward-thinking parents have begun to sign agreements with their children at home. Mr. Zheng’s family has such an agreement, and the two parties signing the agreement are parents and children. According to the agreement, Party A is the parents who are about 40 years old, and Party B is their 11-year-old son Xiaohan. The agreement was only a piece of paper, but it seemed very formal. The title, content, and signature position are very standardized, and the stipulated content is also very specific. In the signature position, the parents and their sons also put their red fingerprints. The agreement stipulates that the father of Party A should do housework more than three times a day; be responsible for picking up and dropping off the children before the midterm exam in the first half of the third grade; and that the family should eat meat 4 times and fish 3 times a week. If he fails to do so, 1 point will be deducted. . If Party B (son) accumulates 10 points, he can play on the computer for 35 minutes at a time. 1 point will be deducted for every cry. Reading extracurricular books cannot be less than 5 times a week, and 0.2 points will be accumulated each time. If you read more, you will get more points. If you read less, 0.2 points will be deducted. Earn 1 point for taking out the trash and 2 points for buying groceries. During the holidays, if you insist on exercising every day, you will receive an additional 0.1 point, and if you do not exercise, you will deduct 0.5 points. Mr. Zheng said that the content of the agreement was drawn up jointly by Mr. Zheng and his son, and the entire agreement was written by his son. The agreement was made in July last year. His son likes to surf the Internet. In the past, he stipulated that his son could only have one hour of Internet time on weekends. His son told him that he was looking forward to the weekend coming soon every day, and he was always thinking about what to play online on the weekend during class, so he couldn\’t concentrate. So he thought of signing an agreement with his son so that his son would know how to abide by the agreement. Now this agreement has been implemented for more than a year. Mr. Zheng, his wife and his son have strictly abided by the contents of the agreement. Mr. Zheng said that since signing the agreement, his son has become more willing to help his parents with things, has become more conscious in his studies, can restrain himself when surfing the Internet, and turns off the computer when time is up. After seeing this agreement, many of Mr. Zheng\’s friends went home and signed similar agreements with their children. After reading the above examples, I believe many parents have realized the beauty of signing an agreement with their children. Less success is like nature, habits are like nature. In order to let their children develop good habits, many \”bad\” parents have now learned to sign agreements with their children. The advantage of this is that it not only restrains the children, but also restrains the parents. Parents are busy every day and have some problems to solve themselves. Therefore, if there is an agreement with the children in advance, most of the problems between the two parties will be solved automatically, and the remaining half will usually be solved easily. Encourage children and parents to constantly sign new agreements, start bit by bit, and develop more good habits while growing together. This can also allow children to receive a freer and more democratic family education from one side. Signing an agreement with your children can not only be used to develop good habits, but can also be used for things like the use of lucky money. The child will have a large amount of income during the Chinese New Year. How will the child spend such a large amount of money? Some parents let their children spend it however they like. They believe that the money belongs to their children\’s private property, but they ignore that their children do not yet have the ability to use money correctly. But there are also parents who care about their childrenThe New Year\’s money was too strictly controlled. All the money was confiscated just once it passed through the child\’s hands, which made the child extremely dissatisfied. How to let their children manage and use their New Year\’s money properly has become a very difficult issue for some parents. When it comes to the use of lucky money, many parents have adopted a \”gentleman\’s agreement\” with their children to discuss the use together. A boy said that he received 1,900 yuan in lucky money, but his parents did not confiscate it or strictly control it as they did in the past. Instead, they made a mutually agreed \”agreement\” with him, that is, his two semesters of education would be paid for with the lucky money. Spend another 400 yuan to buy a set of \”Celebrity Biography\” that I have always wanted to buy, and store the remaining few hundred yuan for temporary use. Another child received nearly 6,000 yuan in lucky money. He felt that he received a lot of lucky money every year and spent it all in a confused manner. This year I signed an agreement with my parents. In addition to buying some books I like, all the remaining money will go to the bank for \”small deposits and withdrawals\” to prepare for future use in college, graduate school, and studying abroad. By then, the savings of tens of thousands of yuan can be used to finance my own education, which is a lot of money. It is not difficult to see from the above examples that such \”bad tricks\” by parents not only cultivate children\’s planning and saving habits, but also effectively prevent children from spending money randomly. It can be said that it kills two birds with one stone. Regarding the issue of signing an agreement with their children, many \”bad\” parents have expressed positive views and believe that it has many advantages. For example, some \”bad\” parents believe that this \”family education agreement\” is useful in urging parents to Being of good conduct when dealing with others will help create a harmonious and democratic family atmosphere. The emergence of this form reflects the spirit of the times and meets the needs of spiritual civilization construction. It can be called the \”new family rules\” of the 21st century. There are also some \”bad\” parents who believe that the \”Family Education Agreement\” also shows a breakthrough in our country\’s educational thinking. Schools and families are both classrooms for students. Although families cannot set rules and regulations for children to strictly implement them like schools, teachers and parents should jointly guide and teach children, complement each other, and learn from each other\’s strengths. This kind of \”family education agreement\” plays a connecting role, allowing children to obtain a certain degree of voluntary restraint at home, and from it, they can also obtain their own due benefits. There are also some parents who believe that they do not know the real needs of their children at all, and signing an agreement allows the children to express what their parents should and can do, and write it into the \”Family Education Agreement\” to form written \”family rules\” and use the terms of the contract to express them. Forms constrain the behavior of parents, which allows parents to follow rules, which is very beneficial to both parties. In fact, signing an agreement with children has a more important meaning, that is, children who grow up in an open and democratic environment are open-minded, can look at problems from different perspectives, have compassion and love, and are good at interacting with others. , willing to share joys and sorrows with others, and willing to share his achievements with others. \”Bad\” parents need to understand what kind of problems can be solved by signing an agreement with their children. Not all problems can be solved by this method, such as how to manage new year\’s money, study and entertainment.This method is very suitable for aspects such as the time proportion arrangement that need to be restricted for children. Parents need to pay attention to that the content of the agreement signed with their children must be neutral and cannot be biased. Don\’t let the children feel that \”the parents are just controlling me in a new way, changing the soup without changing the medicine.\” Instead, they should give their children more Space.