Is it good to not talk back? What should parents do when their children say no or talk back?

Parents usually like obedient children. Obedient children tend to cause less trouble to their parents and generally do not object to their parents\’ opinions. Since parents and teachers like their children to be obedient, children who are brave enough to express their different opinions are often classified as disobedient and sometimes even unpopular. In fact, asking children to be obedient too much will hinder their intellectual development. At this point, \”bad\” parents have different ideas. They know that they should properly appreciate and encourage children who have the courage to say \”no\”. It is very helpful in cultivating children\’s independent thinking ability and adaptability. In fact, parents don\’t have to worry. Allowing your children to say \”no\” does not mean that you will always do what your children want. Even if a child can say “no,” it doesn’t mean they always get to do whatever they want. In fact, parents\’ willingness to listen to their children\’s feelings and requests can make children and parents more cooperative. More importantly, this allows children to cooperate with their parents without suppressing their true selves, and helps parents gain a deeper understanding of their children. Usually, we don\’t want children to say \”no\”, which is actually a disguised form of asking children to suppress their own requests and feelings and give in to their parents\’ wishes. This habitual surrender will lead to the weakening of children\’s willpower. Without a strong will, children will be easily influenced by negative factors in society or peers who are not controlled by their parents. If a person does not have a strong sense of self, he can easily become the target of control and bullying by others. He may even be attracted to situations based on controlling relationships because he feels that he is not worthy of respect and is afraid of insisting on his own wishes. Not trusting your own thoughts. Without a strong will, it is difficult for a child to stick to his beliefs and he can easily be swayed by the pressure exerted on him by his peers. These consequences are very terrible, so parents should raise cooperative children instead of obedient children. Children must be allowed to boldly express their wishes and say \”no\” when they should. It is very unhealthy for children to blindly follow their parents\’ wishes. Allowing children to have a certain amount of resistance will not only help them develop a sense of self, but will also make them more cooperative to a certain extent. Submissive children only follow orders, but do not think, feel, or actively participate. Only cooperative children will proactively and wholeheartedly devote themselves to every interaction, thereby growing up healthily and robustly. When children are allowed to resist, it actually gives parents more control. Every time they go through the process of resisting their parents and then giving up their own wishes and complying with their parents\’ wishes, the children can experience and truly feel that their father and mother are the leaders. Therefore, under the influence of this awareness, children also have a strong desire to imitate their parents\’ behavior and cooperate with their parents. At the same time, children can freely discover their true selves, correct themselves after making mistakes, feel and release negative emotions, and ask for help. More, and adjusting to your needs as much as possible, can express different ideas to get more. Allowing children to say \”no\” or allowing children to rebel against their parents\’ authority is actually allowing children toAlways understand that they are under the control of their parents, but this control has more authority and trust, rather than forcing children to blindly obey. Allow children to say \”no\”. In fact, the most common phenomenon in life is children\’s \”talking back\”. Children\’s \”talking back\” is indispensable in life. Although this may cause many parents a headache, please Just imagine, if our parents were faced with children who couldn\’t \”talk back\” or were unwilling to \”talk back\” every day, would such a life really be harmonious? Is it really beneficial to children’s physical and mental development? Therefore, children who \”talk back\” and dare to say \”no\” are a sign of growing up and having a sense of self-expression. Children\’s \”talk back\” is mostly the product of intuition and emotion, but generally by the time they reach their teens, some of their objections may be rational, well-thought-out, and well-reasoned and explained. No matter what the situation is, as parents, we should face this problem calmly and treat our children\’s \”talk back\” rationally and kindly. What should parents do when their children say \”no\” or \”talk back\” to them? The child is 6 years old this year. One time when she was doing homework, her handwriting was very sloppy. I found out and asked her to rewrite it, and I taught her carefully: \”Sloppy writing means that you are not serious about studying. Writing is the foundation of learning. If the foundation is not laid, it will be difficult to learn.\” Well, it’s just like building a building. It will turn into a crooked building.” The child didn’t take it seriously. Instead, he said, “What’s wrong with a crooked building?” Faced with this situation, I knew that I should continue to be calm and peaceful. My daughter communicated and found out her thoughts, so I did not get angry, but calmed down, showed interest and asked: \”How can the crooked building be good?\” The child did not realize that she was actually \”talking back\” to me. \”, but replied confidently: \”Crooked buildings can also be praised, such as the Leaning Tower of Pisa.\” After hearing this, I laughed loudly, raised my thumb and praised: \”My dear girl, you really have your own opinion. \”The child was very happy. I then guided her to understand the difference between the beauty of the Leaning Tower of Pisa and the need to lay a solid foundation for learning. The child listened very carefully and took the initiative to rewrite her homework. Through the above examples, it is not difficult for us to conclude that many parents still need to master certain rules for children who can appreciate saying \”no\”. In this regard, \”bad\” parents have put forward their own suggestions. First of all, parents must calmly deal with their children\’s different opinions or unconscious \”talking back\”. Parents always have a natural \”private\” mentality towards their children, so most parents have a strong desire to \”shape\” and \”dominate\”. They often only focus on their own motivations for disciplining their children and blindly regard adults\’ Certain will is imposed on the child without ever considering the child\’s ability to bear it. When children say \”no,\” they get angry. This approach is actually the parents putting a curse on themselves, and calmness is the magic weapon to solve this problem. Parents, please remember that no matter how strong the child\’s reaction is, no matter how unreasonable the child\’s \”talk back\” is, \”bad\” parents advise everyone to calm down first. Maybe in this way we will get unexpected gains from the children’s next words, and only in this way can parents communicate with their childrenHave real communication. Secondly, when facing their children to say \”no\” resolutely, most \”bad\” parents can take a buffering approach first. Even if your children are young, it’s a good idea to calm down with each other first. After parents calm down, they should be good at finding breakthroughs in their children\’s words and pave a buffer for their children\’s excessive emotions, that is, they can give their children a step down. Use a small gesture, a gentle word, or a kind look to calm the child\’s excessive emotions. In fact, while laying a \”buffering road\” for children, I have also embarked on a buffering road. In addition, it is also more important that parents must learn to listen to why their children say \”no\” and try to find out what their children really think. After their children \”talk back\”, the most successful \”bad\” parents know that they must have the patience to listen to the reasons and rationale of their children\’s \”talk back\”, so that unnecessary misunderstandings will not occur, because many times, children\’s thoughts Sometimes the imagination runs wild, and adults may always misunderstand some of the children\’s words, which makes them angry. In fact, the children don\’t think that way at all. Only by clarifying the children\’s meaning can we achieve a good education. . Finally, \”bad\” parents must not forget their responsibilities as parents. As parents, one of our most important obligations is to correctly guide our children\’s thinking. After the children have said everything they want to say, parents must seize the opportunity. Guidance should be carried out in a reasonable manner, and the most appropriate way of talking should be selected according to the child\’s psychology at that time. Especially when the child\’s different opinions are wrong, this kind of guidance is even more important, because only correct guidance can make the child truly understand the meaning. Only by reasoning can he understand why his opinions cannot be adopted. In short, \”bad\” parents are very tolerant and accepting. They always believe that as parents, we must not immediately stop our children from \”talking back\” or saying \”no\”, but rather encourage them. Children say “no” to us. When a child says \”no\”, we must first say \”yes\”, and then we must learn from the child\’s ideas, affirm and support the child\’s correct views, guide the child to correct those wrong ideas, and seize the opportunity for education. In fact, when children know how to say \”no\”, they are expressing their wishes to their parents. Parents should first listen to their children\’s voices and understand them. \”Bad\” parents should also encourage their children to express two or more views and ideas on various things. This will help cultivate their children\’s ability to think divergently, prevent them from learning \”dead knowledge\”, and lay the foundation for future living learning and application. Base.