The child is extremely nervous as soon as he takes the exam. The truth is actually a word from his mother

A few days after the final exam, Xiaomiao’s results came out! According to our previous agreement, her father and I did not show any obvious sadness or joy. We only looked at each other and said in unison that she did well in the exam and we were very satisfied. We hope she will do well in science next semester. Be careful and study hard. Why his father and I are so harmonious is a long story. Before this exam, Xiaomiao communicated with us. She said that no matter whether she did well or not, she hoped that we would not be angry with her or nag her. We also promised her we could do it. But she was very worried and said that in view of her past experience, although we agreed to her in this regard, sometimes we would still get angry with her or nag her endlessly when we saw her not doing well in the exam. In order to reduce her psychological burden, we repeatedly assured her that we will definitely do it from now on. She has always been skeptical about this (it shows how deeply we have hurt her before, so ashamed), so after the final exam results came out, she paid very close attention to my and her father\’s reactions. Seeing that we didn\’t nag her as usual, she relaxed and said that she would work hard next semester and must restore her first place in science class. After dinner that day, she and I went for a walk in the park hand in hand. She said: \”Mom, after getting the results this time, you and dad performed well!\” It seems that we passed the test. I said: \”Xiao Miao, we used to ask you for grades and so on because your parents are also under pressure. I hope you can understand. My parents don\’t want you to go to training classes, and they look down on those utilitarian training classes, so they always feel depressed. With great enthusiasm, we want to use some learning methods we have summarized to help you play and learn well. When your test scores are worse than those of classmates who have attended training classes, we will wonder if there is something wrong with our methods. This is our pressure. We hope you will never go to any training class, so you have to work harder and arrange your study and play time reasonably.\” She shouted: \”You don\’t want me to go to a training class. , why did they say that they would send me to a training class when I didn’t do well in the exam? I was scared to death every time. I was so nervous during the exam, and I was so afraid of failing the exam!” I laughed and said, “We I never really want you to go to a training class. I scare you every time because you relax yourself too easily, and the time you arrange for playing is much more than the time for studying. I promise you, if you If you can take the initiative to put learning before playing and take the initiative to pay attention to learning, we will never send you to a training class unless you ask for it yourself and want to strengthen it.\” Xiaomiao was very happy, dragging my hand and shaking it, laughing. Ah Xiao said that she believed in us and she would work hard in the future. I know that her heart was opened and we reconciled. That day, after she went to bed, her father and I still talked for a long time about her performance in the final exam. As parents, I think there are not many people who can truly remain calm and calm when faced with their children\’s grades. We affirmed that she did well in the subject this time, and we also felt very sorry for her failure in the science test, because she learned this subject pretty well, and I usuallyWhen we communicated with each other, I often praised her for her clear and logical answers to some scientific questions, and I felt that everything she said were standard answers. But she didn\’t expect that this exam not only failed to achieve the perfect score she expected, but even gave up the first place to others. After analysis and analysis, we feel that she still did not pay too much attention to the final review stage. She thought she had mastered all the knowledge points, but she was careless and missed Jingzhou. We have re-examined her performance in the past six months and believe that Xiao Meow is currently in good condition. She has not attended any training classes. She usually does not invest too much in learning. She has more time to play and read and does physical exercise every day. I am healthy and happy, and I have made many good friends this semester. I had a slight failure at the end of the semester, but I still got fifth place in the class, which is pretty good. Xiaomiao\’s father and I are often in conflict: I want her to play well, but I also want her to learn well, which is a bit greedy. Maybe it’s because the little cat usually spends more time playing than others, so we naturally require the little cat to give us the best results. This seems to us to be fair and reasonable. Xiaomiao occasionally fails in exams. When we analyze her wrong questions, we will inevitably nag her a little more. When she is in a bad mood, I will scare her and tell her to go to a training class, because I know that she is the most resistant in her heart. The best thing is to go to the training class, and scaring her to go to the training class is my trump card. Every time she heard me talk about sending her to training classes, she burst into tears. In her eyes, training classes meant no time to play, because she saw that our children upstairs and downstairs never played again after attending training classes. Why did you go to the park and have fun? For meow, not being able to go to the park and play wildly is like going to jail. Her father and I talked for a long time, and finally decided to make peace with scores and rankings from now on, and stop worrying about scores and rankings so much. Just let her maintain her current state, and don\’t let her tighten her learning string too tightly, lest she develop a dislike for learning at a young age. We confirmed again that what we want is a healthy and happy child, and what Xiaomiao wants is a relaxed and happy family environment. This is the key, more important than anything else. Elementary school is the primary stage of learning. There is still a long way to go in the future. As long as she develops good study habits and retains her interest in learning, we usually teach her more good learning methods and keep an eye on her learning progress in various subjects. and understanding is enough. We have done what we promised Xiaomiao, but in private we still have to continue to educate ourselves. Because it’s not just Xiaomeow who needs to improve, but also Xiaomeow’s parents. We reached a settlement with scores and rankings, and we reached a settlement with Xiaomiao on the training class issue. This is the first step to victory. The road is long and long, we will take it one step at a time and strive to find a bright and joyful road.