Abandoned by her mother after her father died of illness, how does a 10-year-old child find spring again?

Wang Qidong is a very timid child with a cowardly and introverted personality who never interacts with others. He comes quietly every day and leaves quietly. In the class, he is the type who can\’t attract anyone\’s attention even if he is absent for a week. Since I took over, I have heard the previous teacher mention this child. I didn\’t pay much attention to it at the time, but a week after I took over, I felt the seriousness of the problem. This child obviously has low self-confidence. He never raises his hand in class. Occasionally he is asked to answer questions. He stutters and his face turns red from holding back. He cannot say a word for a long time. He is unsociable after class and stays alone in the classroom with his eyes staring at the ceiling. I was in a daze, almost didn\’t turn in my homework, and was distracted in class, not to mention my academic performance, which was last in the class. Seeing this situation made me really worried. Regardless of his academic performance, just think about it from the perspective of mental health. A child in his teens is innocent and full of love from his father and mother. This is a carefree time, and it is the age when a person is most innocent and innocent. How could this child behave so abnormally? This constitutes a picture that is extremely disproportionate to his identity and age. I don\’t know what\’s going on, but I know that a person\’s inner world and living conditions cannot be revealed just from an indifferent face. I decided to visit his family and then prescribe the right medicine. I think this is the most effective way to save this child. I first learned about the situation from the classmates around me, and I roughly knew something: he was a child from a broken family, his father died of illness at a young age, his mother remarried, and he lived with his grandparents. Later, I went deeper into the child\’s family and learned more about the whole story: Because Wang Qidong was not particularly smart since he was a child, his stepfather refused to accept him, and his mother abandoned him to find her own happiness. Therefore, he lives with his grandparents. The two elderly people are already in their sixties and lack the basic source of life. They can barely survive on a few acres of Susukino fields. The hardships of life and the pain of losing a child have made the two elderly people heartbroken and heartbroken. There is no time for him to take care of him. Just three meals a day and washing and washing are already too much for the old man. He has no ability to take care of his children\’s studies, let alone tutor them. From the two weathered faces, I understood what helplessness meant. From the words of the two old people, I learned that Wang Qidong is actually a very sensible child. He is filial to his grandparents and does a lot of things at home. When I say this, I already feel a heavy responsibility weighing on my heart. After visiting Wang Qidong\’s family, I felt depressed for a long time. For this lonely child, for the two elderly people who have gone through many vicissitudes of life, and even more for the indignation in their hearts: the ruthless disease that took away young lives, and the mother who abandoned her own flesh and blood for her own happiness. In any case, children are innocent. How can they bear the double physical and psychological load at such a young age? This is the root of his lack of self-confidence. Untie the knot in his heart, build up his self-confidence, let him integrate into the class, have a healthy psychology and a positive attitude towards life – this is the development goal I set for him, and it is also a hard task I set for myself. It is my duty to complete this task, and it is even more imperative for me to do so. I started to implement my plan. I asked him to go to the office to deliver messages, to send lesson plans to the principal, and to find the teachers who were absent from class… He was obedient, but there was always a hint of timidity in his eyes at the beginning, and I would always give him an encouraging look. Perhaps because he understood the trust in the teacher\’s eyes, he could basically handle these things. Every time he did something well, I would praise him with a few words of appreciation, and I could clearly see a hint of shyness in his eyes, as well as an unusual excitement. This is not my ultimate goal. Next, I will be more \”demanding\” and ask him to be responsible for the duty work in the class. Maybe the responsibility is too great. For a long time, this job was not very good, because there were always naughty children who refused to obey the discipline, and there were also children who had bullied him before and asked him to control them. They were unbalanced and deliberately looked for trouble. , he also retreated timidly and did not dare to start work. At this time, I will first talk to him and cheer him up, and then \”kill the chicken to show the monkey\” at the class meeting, criticize the students who are not doing well on duty, improve his prestige, and give him confidence and courage. He also told him that the teacher admired his ability to do housework very much and called on all the children in the class to learn from him. Let him gradually build up confidence, eliminate his inferiority complex, and do his job well. With me as my backing, he seemed to have the courage, he was obviously confident when speaking, and he was orderly when arranging his duties. This may be related to the fact that he often participates in labor at home. He has this ability and experience, so The arrangements were orderly, unhurried, reasonable and orderly, and no one complained. I am very lucky to have found this entry point and successfully implemented my plan. In a labor class, the work was hard and tiring, and most of the classmates were complaining and staggering around. In order to boost their enthusiasm, I joined in, but after a while, I also had back pain and general weakness. Only classmate Wang Qidong was sweating profusely but his energy remained unabated. He kept swinging the shovel until the labor class was over. At the summary meeting, I affirmed and commented on his performance in an appreciative tone, saying that the teacher is very envious of your unique skills and abilities. I hope you can also impress others with your studies. After a period of contact, this child seems to have developed a certain foundation of dependence and affection with me, and he really listened to my words. On this day, I specially assigned a diary to write down my labor experience, and he actually handed in the assignment for the first time. You know, he never does homework, but his writing style is really unflattering and his handwriting is messy. After reading it, I added a line of comments at the end of his diary: \”The teacher read your diary and it was well written. The teacher is proud of you! In the teacher\’s heart, you are the best and always will be!\” The good news is that you are the best. , he handed in the homework again the next day, and I wrote another comment: \”Very good, you can hand in the homework on time, which means the teacher did not misjudge you, but the teacher will like it more if you write clearly.\” \”On the third day, the homework was handed in. The handwriting was obviously clear, but it was not finished. There is a line of small words at the back: \”Teacher, there are too many homeworks. I haven\’t finished them. Aren\’t you angry?\” My comment said: \”My child, it\’s too late for the teacher to be happy. How can you be angry? Just take the time to make up the homework.\” Just get up. I have seen your progress. You are the teacher\’s most proud student. \”In this way, our teachers and students communicated with each other on the homework for a long time. I kept cheering him up. Sometimes I deliberately showed an envious tone and wrote some encouraging, appreciative and encouraging comments: When he was not in a good mood, Encourage him when he is good, bless him when he is happy, comfort him when he is troubled… This child has also grown up slowly under the wings of my love. He dares to communicate with the teacher head-on, and his speech seems to be less stuttering. , he can stand alone in the duty work in the class. What\’s more valuable is that he has become much more cheerful and can play with the children. The childlike smile blooms like a flower on his face. He gradually loses his temper. I shed my inferiority complex, became confident, and integrated into the warm embrace of the class. And I seemed to clearly feel that a life that should have been immature and innocent became extremely vivid – full of longing for a better life, positive and An upward attitude towards life, a humanistic sentiment of hard work and self-improvement, and a strong and confident optimistic mentality. I am pleased that I have a desire to spread my wings and fly. Appreciation is an extremely common word, but few people stop to think about it. I feel it The magical power of this word. Appreciate it, it is a poetic and legendary word, and it is also a great and fraternal teacher\’s love. Because of its existence, I understand the true meaning of education, because of its Its existence has given me the dignity of being a teacher. Because of its existence, I have saved a soul that was on the verge of collapse. And because of its existence, my work as a class teacher has never tired of it, and it goes smoothly… Every unfortunate person Children are all smart and vivid lives, and they all have a lonely expectation in their hearts. They are looking forward to the trust of teachers, looking forward to the recognition of classmates, looking forward to that \”appreciation\” like the spring breeze and drizzle that nourishes their souls, looking forward to their own life. The teacher\’s love blooms brilliantly in the sunshine and rain. Giving is joyful. I give \”the power of appreciation\” and get \”the takeoff of happiness\”. I will appreciate, discover and interpret the meaning of love in the students\’ full expectations. The truth.