Children are in charge, take everything slowly

Now, parents, please pay close attention to your surroundings. I believe you will often find the following scene: adults hurriedly walking ahead. The child staggered behind and struggled to follow, but the parents in front kept urging the child to keep up with his nervous and rapid pace. The child also looked anxious… In this era where every second counts, parents work at a fast pace. Coupled with the assumption of a fiercely competitive environment for children in the future, the fast-paced life will inevitably seriously affect the lives of children. \”Fast\” has become a common problem among parents. Many parents are having trouble raising children. Although they have some introspection, they are forced by the current situation of the entire society and cannot change it. In fact, I wonder if parents have ever thought that the little figure behind them is suffering even more. They must suppress their instinctive inner needs and rhythms to keep up with the faster and faster pace of their parents. Therefore, more and more people are now Education experts have begun to appeal to parents on this issue to pay attention to \”slow work\” for the sake of their children. And as many \”bad\” parents have realized, \”slow living\” is not only a new life trend that has emerged in recent years and has become a new pursuit of urban people, but also, for children, slow living The pace of life is of great significance. First of all, taking everything slowly is more conducive to children\’s understanding and digestion of the unknown world. Children usually remember things quickly and forget things quickly. Fill in a lot of things quickly for your child. Even if your child is very smart, has a good memory, and can remember it temporarily, he will not have time to \”digest\” it. And it will be quickly forgotten; on the contrary, if the education of children can be small but refined every time, it can give children time to digest it slowly, and knowledge will take root in their hearts, which will have a profound impact. A teacher from a foreign kindergarten spent a full two months to help children learn to distinguish \”living things\” from \”non-living things\” from real life, using some extremely simple phenomena and language that children can understand. the concept of. This slow and infrequent teaching process really awakened the children\’s awareness of the world and allowed them to re-understand the world. The children in the class were all like little scientists, obsessed with analyzing the plants and trees around them. In this way, they learned The knowledge you gain can be used throughout your life. Secondly, what parents should be aware of is that only by slowing down can they return the sovereignty of growth to their children. In the process of children\’s growth, parents often unconsciously play the role of master. Parents\’ misunderstandings and blind spots are often: we only think about the tomorrow of our children and what their future lives will be like, but no one ever cares about them now. A child was not accepted by the children because of his weird behavior. In two years, his parents changed the child to two kindergartens. Later, under the guidance of the slow teaching method advocated by a teacher, the child himself sighed: Why am I in other places? They are all bad boys, only here are the good boys? The teacher who taught Shi Xin concluded: \”I still can\’t turn him into a child that everyone loves, but I believe that through leading him step by step, I have gained a deep understanding of his inner world and transformed him into a child that everyone loves.\” The most important self-esteem and self-confidence were returned to him.\” In fact,, parents also have their own worries. Faced with the fast pace of the entire society and the increasingly fierce social competition, are their children falling behind? This is entirely the wishful thinking of parents. From an objective point of view, there is no final conclusion and standard for \”fast\” and \”slow\”, and the results it leads to are not absolutely good or bad, nor can they be related to the future development of the child. Success and failure are simply linked. Could it be that children who once had poor academic performance would not be able to develop well in their fields of interest in the future? Or will children who were once slow to do things inevitably fall behind others in the future? In fact, when it comes to the issue of speed, \”bad\” parents suggest that the best way to educate is to respect your children\’s own rhythm. Objectively speaking, children\’s own pace is still slower than that of us adults. Therefore, it is necessary and necessary for parents to make appropriate sacrifices and concessions on this issue. However, children are also individuals with individual differences, that is, some are fast and some are slow. Some children are born to be \”slow\”, while others are born to be \”whirlwinds\”. Do parents give their children certain choices? Do parents pay attention to their children\’s feelings? Have you paid attention to your children’s personality differences? Children\’s rhythms may be fast or slow, and parents must learn to observe and respect each child\’s unique rhythm. \”Bad\” parents will fully open their own perceptual abilities. Parents must be aware of every detail of their children, so that they can follow their children\’s rhythm and gradually figure out when to go fast and when to go slow. Of course, while parents accommodate their children\’s rhythm, they must also let their children learn to understand the adult situation so that the children can also adjust their own rhythm. For example, in order to rush to an important party, you can inform your child in advance so that he can prepare and adjust his slow pace in time. This will lay the foundation for children\’s good interpersonal interactions in the future, because fast and slow speeds are sometimes closely related to the coordination of people and things around them. \”Bad\” parents believe that in addition to observing their children\’s slow pace and respecting their children\’s own rhythm, parents can also slow down their own pace appropriately, which is also helpful in educating and adapting to their children\’s \”slow work\”. First of all, parents can slow down the pace of work. Of course, this slowness does not mean doing less, nor does it not mean not doing it. It means paying attention to the method of doing it. You can choose important things to do first, and then take your time one by one. Secondly, \”bad\” parents can also slow down the pace of housework. The family is a warm haven, the atmosphere should be warm, the rhythm should be soothing, and housework should be endless. Parents should not treat housework according to the standards of work, nor should they treat their family members according to the standards of subordinates and colleagues. Everyone can do housework together, and it\’s also good for parents to \”be lazy\” sometimes. Thirdly, supervising children can slow down their learning pace. This slowness refers to the parent\’s pace, not the child\’s performance. Knowledge is slowly accumulated bit by bit, and the improvement of children\’s academic performance does not happen overnight. Parents must have patience and perseverance to solve problems with their children, rather than just putting pressure on them. Finally, \”bad\” parents also remind everyone to cultivateChildren\’s mood can also be slowed down as they get used to it. It may take a long time to develop a good habit. If parents are impatient, they will often give up halfway. Create and provide more opportunities for children, and they will definitely do well. In short, parents cannot control the fast pace of society, but what we can do is control our own emotions and moods, so as not to pass on the impatience caused by fast pace to children who live a leisurely life. Remember, children are in charge. When doing so, please proceed “slowly”. In fact, it is easy to go fast, but difficult to slow down. As a parent, as long as you don\’t think you should always \”take your children to do this and that\”, but learn to \”follow your children to do this and that\”, you will naturally develop patience. The sign of a person\’s maturity is whether he or she will affect others with his or her emotions. Therefore, as a parent, you must not infect your children with your anxious emotions. This will only make the fragile children at a loss what to do.