Every morning when your child goes to school is like a war. How can this situation be improved?

\”Ding-ding-ding-\” \”Get up, get up!\” \”Hurry up, you\’ll be late if you don\’t wake up!\” \”Hey – I called you 10 minutes ago, why haven\’t you gotten up yet!\” Get up, wake up Yawning, with sleepy eyes, he opened and closed his eyes, groped his way into the bathroom, and began to wash up. What to wear to school? What books and items should I bring to school? I was in a hurry, looking everywhere. When I saw it was almost time, hurry up and sprint out. He is holding a schoolbag in his left hand, a water glass in his right hand, and a water glass around his neck. I looked down and saw, ah, the shoelaces were untied. Squat down and tie. Accidentally, something splashed all over the floor. Come to the elevator quickly and wait for the elevator with hope. Came down from the 23rd floor. Oops, why is it so slow! Stop at every level. When we got to our own floor, it was so crowded that the door was not even opened! Just have to wait for the next one. …As a result, after waiting for three times, I finally entered the elevator. Run quickly to the parking lot. Open the door and start. When we got to the road, there was another traffic jam. Alas – does this scene look particularly familiar? No matter whether the children have just started school or are already in school, as soon as school starts, every morning is like a war. Why is this happening? Is there any good way to solve it? The experts\’ ideas are particularly clear. ——First clarify the tasks, then clarify the responsibilities, and then do their own thing. Sort out your tasks. What are the things that need to be done in the morning? Get up on time, get dressed, go to the toilet, brush your teeth and wash your face, eat, pack your things, and go out. Among these things of clarifying responsibilities, which ones can and should be done by children themselves, and which ones do parents need to help their children with? Parental responsibilities: Make breakfast, prepare clothes, provide transportation. Child\’s responsibilities: get up, get dressed, go to the toilet, brush teeth and wash face, eat, and pack things. The first two items are easy to do. Clarify tasks and clarify responsibilities. What is difficult is execution and implementation, especially for children. You should get up on time, but your child doesn\’t stay in bed on time, what should you do? After finally getting up, I am slow to do everything, slow to get dressed, slow to go to the toilet, slow to brush my teeth and wash my face, slow to put things away, what should I do? This requires cultivating children\’s time concept, self-care ability, and sense of responsibility. What should I do if I can\’t get up on time? A simple and easy way is: use an alarm clock. Reserve enough time for your child, set 1-3 alarm times, and call them every 5 minutes. Children quickly get used to a routine. When I taught my son to play the piano before, I used an alarm clock to set the playing time every night. After persisting for a while, when the alarm clock rang, my son knew that it was time to play the piano! What should I do if I am slow in doing things? The first step is for parents to teach their children how to do everything, including: parent demonstration and step-by-step instruction. The second step is to let the children do it for their parents to see, and provide timely help and guidance if there are any problems. The third step is to finally let the child do it until he is proficient. For example: getting dressed, such as going to the toilet, wiping your butt, such as brushing your teeth, washing your face, such as packing your things. Note: Sometimes, parents need to be careful and considerate to help their children reduce the difficulty. For example: when wearing clothes, try to prepare cardigans and reduce pullover clothes to prevent children from wearing them poorly. For shoes, if a child cannot tie his shoelaces, try to prepare shoes with zippers and magic buckles. Prepare secondThe clothes you need to wear for the day can be prepared the night before, and the items you need to bring for the next day are also packed the night before. You can wear them directly the next day and just take them and leave. This not only saves time, but also reduces omissions and problem appear. After deliberately training your child\’s ability, all that\’s left is the attitude of execution to see if he is willing to do it. Therefore, timely feedback and deliberate training are needed next. For training, you need to make a plan with clear rewards and punishments. The conventional method is to make a table and divide it into items according to the things that need to be completed every day. If you can do it well, you will get extra points and put a sticker on it. If you can\’t do it, you will lose points and record it. Then summarize regularly. Of course, sometimes, even after making all the above preparations, the child still refuses to implement it and refuses to listen no matter what, then it is your own responsibility. If the child does not hurry up, the consequences will be that he will be late. If he is late, the teacher may criticize him, deduct points, and affect the group\’s honor. Parents should not feel too distressed at this time! This is a good time for children to remember. If you suffer a loss, you will learn a lesson. If the teacher criticizes and affects the collective honor, the children will pay attention to it, thus improving their execution ability!