Two little habits that mothers don’t care about create completely different lives for their children

My mother made me feel very safe, and I completely trusted her. Once in a parent education class, the organizer arranged for a group of teenage girls to be guests. Before get out of class, the organizer arranged a question and answer session. One of the mother trainees asked the girls on the stage: \”What of the things your mother has done for you over the years have enhanced the closeness between you and your mother?\” A senior girl in high school immediately replied: \”Every morning I When I went downstairs to go to school, I saw my mother always holding a book and reading, while writing in her notebook.\” My mother and I have never mentioned this matter, but it has a great influence on the relationship between my mother and me. important influence. Mom doing this makes me feel safe and I can trust her completely. I have a mother who read to me. When she was in elementary school, my daughter Doudou’s grades were very poor. I have always been competitive, but I was often ridiculed for this. I didn’t know how to improve my daughter’s grades. I don\’t like reading or studying. I have been an ordinary teacher all my life, but I always tell my children to study hard. The beige bookshelf placed in the corner of the living room has a few books sparsely placed, but it is already covered with dust. When I saw this article in the office that day, I couldn\’t help crying. When it comes to learning and growing up, as a mother, I have never set an example. I have no right to blame my daughter for her poor grades, and I have no reason to blame my daughter for smearing my face. Just like I once read a sentence in Jim Trillis\’ \”Reading Manual\”: \”You may have unlimited wealth, boxes of jewelry and cabinets of gold. But you will never be richer than me – I had a mother who read to me.” I don’t blame my daughter for not making me proud, because I didn’t make her proud either. Being a parent is the hardest job in the world. In 2015, the mother of a girl in my county-level key junior high school was rated as a municipal-level outstanding mother. Out of tens of thousands of parents from 27 junior high schools in 15 counties in the city, only 7 parents won this award. This incident caused a big stir in our school. This girl once skipped two grades in a row. Not only did she have excellent grades in school, she was also very well-behaved and sensible. She was also widely praised among her classmates. We are all surprised, how are such children raised? At the opening ceremony three months later, the girl’s mother was invited as an excellent parent to share her experience. That afternoon, the school auditorium was packed with seats. The girl\’s mother stood on the podium to share her educational experience, and bursts of applause broke out every 10 minutes. The girl’s mother said something that I will never forget in my life. She said: \”Being a parent is the most difficult job in the world, but we are all on the job without training, so we can only learn while doing it and grow with our children. Only when we are eager to learn, eager to progress, and eager to grow Only then will the children learn, grow and progress with us.\” I am very ashamed that after being a mother for many years, I have never thought about growing up. What ruined the children was the bad family atmosphere. In 2010, we moved to our current community and met our current neighbors, Chenchen and his family. Chenchen\’s father is away on business trips all year round, and her mother likes to play mahjong. Chenchen’s mother is here half the time a weekI play mahjong outside, and sometimes I bring my poker friends to play mahjong at home. Before my mother fell in love with playing mahjong, she would always care about Chenchen’s studies and cook delicious meals for Chenchen to eat. Everything has changed since Chenchen\’s mother started playing mahjong. When I come home from get off work, I often see Chenchen sitting on the ground waiting for her mother to come home, forgetting her keys. Sometimes my daughter will bring a small stool out to accompany Chenchen and wait for her mother. Chenchen rarely gets to eat delicious meals cooked by his mother. Her mother always gives him money to buy food outside, and then goes home to do his homework after eating. Starting from the first year of junior high school, I could no longer see Chenchen sitting at the door of my house waiting for my mother. I heard from my daughter that Chenchen started going to Internet cafes to play games, and sometimes even skipped class to go to Internet cafes to play games. Her homework used to be average, but now she is completely at the bottom of the class. After graduating from junior high school, Chenchen did not go to high school and went to a technical technical school in our county. Family is the most important thing in a child\’s life. Chenchen\’s growth in school is like a negative teaching material, always reminding me to accompany my children and grow up with them. In real life, there are too many families like this. Parents are always asking what to do if their children like to play games, but they have never really thought about the reasons behind it. We are afraid that our children will lose at the starting line. We place our education in schools, but we bypass ourselves. Education can be divided into two types: one is family education, which is responsible for cultivating children\’s interests and teaching children to behave, and the other is school education, which is responsible for transmitting knowledge and knowledge to children. Which one is more important? In fact, we all understand that family is the most important school in a child\’s life. Mature and harmonious families all have similar tastes and hobbies. We are willing to spend all our energy sending our children to various key schools for higher education, but we rarely think about paying attention to family education. The school teaches children to be positive and sunny teenagers. The children nod in agreement and write down things in their notebooks, but when they come home they see their mother who is obsessed with playing mahjong. Is school education still meaningful? A mature and harmonious family should have similar tastes and hobbies. A mother who loves reading will affect her child\’s life, and a mother who is obsessed with mahjong will also change her child\’s life. These two types of mothers, I hope you are not the second type!