A mother can teach her children well only if she is very kind! It is important for lower grade primary school students to develop habits

My little girl went to kindergarten in my hometown in the countryside. As parents, not being with our little girl has always been a great regret in our lives. Children who grow up without their parents will have some problems in their living habits and emotions. Today I want to talk about living habits. In my opinion, a big criterion for testing whether lower grade students have good living habits is whether they are independent enough, such as bathing by themselves, sleeping by themselves, and arranging their own leisure time… I remember the summer vacation (winter and summer vacation) when I was in the top class of Xiaoniu Kindergarten. We would take the little girl to stay with us). One night, our family of three came back from a walk in the supermarket. It was around 9:30, which was almost the time when the little girl was sleepy and wanted to go to bed (the little girl is usually very gentle. The only problem was that she would While walking and chatting, Niu’s father suddenly said: “Girl, you are already so old, it’s time to learn to bathe by yourself.” The girl suddenly became unhappy and said, “No, I want my mother to help me wash it.” !\” Niu\’s father said unhappily: \”Then how long do you want your mother to wash you?\” The little girl said bitterly: \”Anyway, I want my mother to wash it until I\’m a hundred years old…\” Niu\’s father is also a Strange people like to mess with little girls, and the final result is: the girl\’s father stares angrily, and the little girl is left in the pear blossoms. When I got home that day, I still planned to help the little girl take a bath. Her mood had gradually calmed down. I didn\’t say anything at first, but halfway through the bath, I asked her, \”Do you find it difficult to take a bath, little girl?\” She didn\’t say anything, and I knew that she actually relied more on me and enjoyed the process of me accompanying her. I added: \”Actually, mom and dad want you to learn to take a bath by yourself because you should do your own things. Mom won\’t say that just because you learn to take a bath, they will leave you alone, because learning is a process, and I will always be with you during this process.\” You, if you need anything, I will be by your side…\” Before I could finish my words, the little girl grabbed the shower head from my hand and started washing herself. I affirmed her from the bottom of my heart: \”The little girl can take a bath by herself. , Mom will help you if you can’t wash it!” Every day for the next day, the little girl took a bath by herself, and I washed her clothes while watching over her (after all, the bathtub will slip, so as a guardian, I still have to take care of her). In this way, the little girl quickly learned to take a bath. Of course, this is thanks to the girl\’s father being brave enough to ask the girl, and fortunately the girl is willing to try. Compared with taking a bath, sleeping by yourself is a lot more complicated. Because she was about to go to elementary school, about a month before the start of school, we tried to let the little girl sleep in her own room. I did a lot of ideological work before going to bed (about why children should sleep by themselves, what are the benefits of sleeping by themselves, etc.), put a flashlight by the bedside (in case I need to go to the bathroom at night), and plug in a night light (in case I wake up) I couldn’t find a flashlight), put pillow protectors on both sides of the mattress, set up chairs on the outside of the bed, told me a bedtime story, and accompanied me to sleep… I finally fell asleep, and quietly closed the door. The first night, I was the one who couldn\’t sleep. I got up and walked back and forth seven or eight times a night, for fear that the girl would fall asleep.Get out of bed. It turns out that I was worrying too much and she slept well. On the second night, I felt a little relieved, but I still couldn\’t help but get up and take a look: Is the air conditioner temperature still suitable? Have you ever slept on your stomach? Do you still have the little blanket on your belly? … After a few nights, everything was fine, and I gradually relaxed – it turns out that it\’s the mother who can\’t live without her child, not the child who can\’t live without his mother. Good times don\’t last long. About a week later, one night late at night, I vaguely heard the cry of my child. I immediately jumped up and ran to the girl\’s room. She was crying alone. It took me a long time to convince her that she had a nightmare, so I took her back to the room to sleep with her. . As everyone knows, this is just the beginning. For more than half a month, the little girl would run to our bedroom in the middle of the night for various reasons every day, intending to sleep with her parents. Sometimes she stood at the door of our bedroom crying, sometimes she turned on the light in our bedroom, and sometimes she sat quietly by my bed. Niu’s father was very angry: Niu was always running around in the middle of the night. She couldn’t sleep well and also affected “others”! The next half month was a cruel torture. Because I couldn’t sleep well every night in the early stage, I went from pretending that I couldn’t hear to really not being able to hear. After that, every time the girl came over, she would be fooled by her father. Then take him back to sleep by himself. This lasted for more than half a month, and the little girl finally accepted the fact that she was sleeping. This was attributed to her father\’s ability to persevere when he should be cruel. Now that I think about it, parents are the \”pushers\” in the growth of their children, and both moderate trust and moderate cruelty are necessary. Letting children bathe and eat by themselves, especially sleeping in separate rooms, is a big worry for many parents. Not only do children cannot live without their parents, but parents also cannot let go of their children. However, it is not an empty statement that children develop the habit of relying on their parents. If parents are more cruel, their children\’s adaptability and independence will be better. This is not only true for living habits, but also for learning habits. Cultivating good learning and living habits from an early age is responsible for the child\’s future.