How to develop a regular routine for children of all ages. This mother’s summary is perfect.

Doudehui said: Regular work and rest habits are the guarantee for children\’s growth and learning. How should parents guide them to ensure their children\’s health without stimulating their children\’s rebellious psychology? The parent who is sharing today is a mother of a second-year junior high school student. Because she grasped the schedule issue early and tightly, her child\’s current life and study are very regular. Let\’s take a look at her specific approach. Kindergarten stage: Strictly observe work and rest habits and ensure adequate sleep. We both control and ignore the children\’s work and rest. Before kindergarten, we found that if she did not get enough outdoor activities during the day, she would not be able to sleep at night, which was very distressing. So, I discussed with the nanny that no matter how sleepy the child is in the morning, we should wake her up at 7 o\’clock, and let her sleep for an hour at noon. If the child refuses to get up, just let her cry and fuss for a few days. In this way, after persisting for a week, the child\’s schedule was adjusted to: wake up at 7:00 in the morning, 12:00 lunch, 13:00-14:00, lunch break (no matter when the nap is, the child must be woken up at 2 p.m.) 8:00 p.m. Go to bed and fall asleep after half an hour of tossing. From then on, the child has always had this routine in kindergarten. Because she got enough sleep and we consciously urged her to jump rope, she was the tallest in the class when she graduated. Lower grade of elementary school: Give some freedom, must go to bed before 10 pm. In elementary school (grades 1-3), children have better physical strength and do not need so much sleep, so the work and rest time is adjusted to: morning: get up at 6:30, Practice piano for half an hour and have breakfast for half an hour. At 7:30, her father drives her to school. Noon: Eat and take a lunch break at grandma’s house. The time is very stable. The child can always take a nap at grandma’s house for about 40 minutes. Evening: Start washing at 8 o\’clock. My child likes to be in a daze when she is in the lower grades of elementary school, so she moves slowly and we don\’t rush her too much. Go to bed at 8:30: This point cannot be changed, otherwise it will be delayed. I usually fall asleep after half an hour. Our little one\’s difficulty falling asleep has been a trait she has had since she was a little girl. There is always a set of scenes that she has to go through before going to sleep: she has to sing and talk, she has to learn how to play like a fish on the bed, she is so happy, she has to hold a pair of little feet in her mouth and chew them for a while, she has to go to the toilet, and she has to drink water, so that she can fall asleep. . Starting from elementary school, every winter and summer vacation, we will give her some freedom. She can lie down in the morning and sleep until noon. She can also sleep later at night, but she cannot go to bed beyond 10 o\’clock before the third grade of elementary school. Because she got up late, she didn\’t have to take a nap at noon. In this way, she kept her biological clock at night and wouldn\’t be uncomfortable when school started. The relatively free schedule during the holidays allows the child to spend more time in a daze. She said that she likes to lie in bed and daydream, but in fact she has woken up long ago and just doesn\’t want to get up. We all let her. It\’s a holiday, both adults and children need to relax. Upper grade of elementary school: Relax the sleep limit and urge the child to exercise every day. By the fourth grade of elementary school, we began to focus on the quality of her homework and academic performance. Her homework has also increased, and we require her to finish her homework in school (she used to just play in school and never do homework. She would spend a whole day after going home to eat.It can be done in an hour). This will not affect your ability to fall asleep at night, and this habit is also a preparation for adapting to middle school life in the future. After children enter the upper grades of primary school, their thinking becomes more active and they need a lot of activities to release energy in their bodies. Therefore, starting from the 5th grade, we have invested more energy in urging our children to exercise and helped her develop the habit of exercising for half an hour after school, such as jumping rope for half an hour. This will help her release the accumulated accumulated energy in school. Without excitement and stress, you will fall asleep faster at night. In the past few years, her routine has not changed much. She still wakes up at 6:30 in the morning, goes to bed at 8:30 in the evening, and goes to bed at 9:00. Starting from the 4th grade, we have been more liberal with her schedule on weekends and holidays, allowing her to play with the children until 11pm during the winter and summer vacations before going upstairs to take a bath and rest. During that time, she loved to play hide-and-seek. My husband and I would go downstairs every 10 pm and take turns waiting for her in the hall downstairs. She knew we were in the hall, so she felt at ease playing with the children. She would not go upstairs until she was drenched in sweat every time, and she would definitely sleep until very late the next day. During the summer vacation, we sometimes play until almost 12 o\’clock. We made an appointment with other parents to take turns waiting downstairs, just to let the children have a good time. Because they play a lot, exercise a lot, sleep a lot, and eat a lot, by the fifth grade, the child begins to grow wildly. Summer vacation is the most obvious, and you will notice that you have grown taller again every two weeks. When she graduated from elementary school, she had grown to 1.65 meters, and her classmates who were taller than her were all outclassed. When parents ask, I say the main thing is exercise + playing + enough sleep + being able to eat. The schedule is strict during school and relaxed during holidays, but whether strict or relaxed, adequate sleep is ensured. By the winter and summer vacations of fifth grade, children have begun to realize the role of the biological clock. It was really nice to play until late and go to bed late during the holidays, but she couldn\’t adapt to it after school started, and she was also anxious. I suggested that she start adjusting a week before school starts and stop going to bed so late in the future. She nodded repeatedly. Therefore, from the sixth grade to the second year of junior high school, she has consciously adjusted her schedule before the start of school, and the awareness of the biological clock has entered her mind. Junior high school stage: Insist on daily exercise and ensure 8 hours of sleep. Children love to play in kindergarten and elementary school, but after entering junior high school, they become a sit-down child and are no longer obsessed with hide and seek. She has been playing basketball every week since the sixth grade, and added table tennis training once a week in the second grade of junior high school. Now, she still insists on exercising for half an hour after school every day. However, she has more homework in the second grade of junior high school, so she can only guarantee 8 hours of sleep from Monday to Friday, and try to make up for it on weekends. I didn’t go out during the National Day holiday and slept hard at home. It is now the first semester of the second grade of junior high school. From Monday to Friday (non-daylight saving time), the children\’s schedule is: Get up at 5:50 in the morning and do extracurricular math problems for 30-40 minutes. Then have breakfast (while eating breakfast, reading extracurricular books). I ride out to school at 7:00, which takes about 25 minutes one way. During lunch at school, she usually refuses to take a lunch break and is busy competing with her classmates to see who can do their homework faster (Since there are quite a lot of homework, I can only do my homework in every possible opportunity in school. I also use it to do homework when I have free time in some sub-classes, so as to achieve the goal of doing most or all of my homework in school. ) Get home at 6:00 pm and exercise for half an hour. After taking a shower and dinner (reading extracurricular books during dinner), it’s 7:00. Practice piano, continue to do unfinished homework, preview and review, and read extracurricular books. At 9:00, you should consider getting ready for bed. Will fall asleep before 10:00. If you have too much homework the night before and don\’t go to bed until after 10 o\’clock in the evening, then you won\’t get up early the next day and sleep for an extra 20 minutes. Originally, I hoped that the children in the second grade of junior high school could sleep for 9 hours a day, but now it has been reduced to 8 hours. Fortunately, her height is OK, and she insists on regular exercise, and her sleep quality is high. Although she does not fall asleep quickly, she sleeps deeply. She wakes up in the morning in good spirits, and she will not be too tired on Friday, which means that her physical strength is good. After practicing table tennis for 90 minutes on Friday night, I slept very soundly at night and was able to sleep for 10 hours. There was a 90-minute basketball training session the next morning. Both training sessions made the children feel physically and mentally relaxed and helped to restore their physical strength, so every Monday, the children were full of energy again. She usually completes most of her homework on Saturday, leaving a small portion to be completed on Sunday morning. In this way, she still has time to paint and watch a movie on Sunday. This weekend, we watched two movies together: \”Broken Wind\” and \”An Unforgettable Song\” (an old movie from 1945 about the life of Chopin). Thanks to the concept of biological clocks, children now do not let themselves go much during holidays. They always try to plan their studies and exercises in advance, and do not procrastinate on homework. This makes it less likely to stay up until very late. I don’t know if it’s because he has had a regular schedule since he was a child, and sleep has been given top priority. When the child turns 13, his height has reached 1.72 meters. After reaching this height, her feet stopped growing. It is said that height is related to foot length. If the foot length does not change, the height fluctuation will be very small. We used a popular formula to calculate how tall our child would be. Based on the heights of our couple, we calculated that our child could grow up to 1.69 meters, which is still slightly exceeded now. When should parents control their children\’s schedule? Do parents control or ignore their children\’s daily routine? How to manage? Our experience is that when it comes to matters related to the basic health of children such as work, rest (sleeping), eating, and exercising, parents should have a strong sense of control and take control of it. As for other things about the child, such as what clothes she likes to wear, we give her a lot of autonomy and cultivate her sense of independence. After my child entered the first grade of junior high school, she no longer wanted to wear skirts and always wore T-shirts and shorts. As a result, the beautiful skirts and leather shoes that I happily bought for her every summer vacation were always left in the cabinet. Being ignored is being ignored, it doesn\’t matter at all. In addition, we fully support some of the things she wants to do, even if they seem a bit ridiculous. For example, she has been raising rabbits on the north balcony for two years, making it impossible to grow vegetables and flowers on the balcony. The child\’s father kept complaining, but I just let it go and let the child get over his addiction to raising rabbits. Two years later she raised hamsters, the child’s father thinks the hamster stinks in the living room, I think it doesn’t matter, it’s better to let the child have enough fun. Finally, she had enough hamsters, and she continued to raise birds. Although several of them flew away before and after, so what, keep them! Recently, I also bought a fantasy birdcage for my child, because I know that my child really wants to see how the birds hatch and feed the baby birds, and I hope that she can see all this. Hmm, my child also wants to raise a turtle, and I am also thinking about how to make room in the house to fulfill her little wish. From kindergarten to elementary school, whether at home or outside, children will lie down on the ground whenever they are happy. Therefore, her clothes always get dirty and torn quickly. Some parents are very concerned about this, but we think it is completely unnecessary. Normally, we would buy several pieces of clothes of the same color and size, and if they were torn, we would patch them. If the patches couldn\’t be repaired, we would change them to another one, and let her be happy. Now that she is in the second grade of junior high school, she has naturally lost the gangster temperament she had when she was a child and has become much more ladylike. So when can parents let go of their children\’s schedule? In the case of my child, this time will probably be after she goes to college. She will definitely have to leave home when she goes to college. We will try our best to lay a good physical foundation for her with a stable schedule (enough sleep), regular exercise, and a balanced diet before she is 18 years old. After the age of 18, she will face the wonderful or helpless external world completely independently. When the time comes, kid, just go ahead and do it.