From feeling sleepy as soon as I read a book to actively wanting to read, I used this trick to make my children fall in love with reading!

Qing Lanjun said: Nowadays, there are many educational theories saying that parents should take the lead and read books themselves. Only then will their children be inspired to read books. It sounds like as long as parents read books, children will automatically fall in love with reading. However, the reality is not that simple and optimistic. The parent sharing today is Ling Xiang, the mother of an 8-year-old child. She loves reading, but she has put in a lot of effort and made some detours in guiding her children to read. Fortunately, the results are beginning to show. Let\’s take a look. I sent Chengzi to school in the morning. As soon as I got in the car, I saw Chengzi sitting up straight and asked me: \”Mom, what do you think is in my clothes?\” I touched his belly and said, \”It\’s a book, right?\” ?\”right! Cheng Zi took out the \”The Adventures of Tintin\” that he had not finished reading last night from his clothes. He took it with him because he wanted to finish the book on the way to school. At this time, I had a feeling of nostalgia and comfort. If you know what Chengzi\’s reading status was like in the past, you may be able to understand my mood at the moment. 1. Let’s start with my childhood. It was natural for me to fall in love with reading when I was a child. At that time, my parents told me about picture books, and then I read the picture books myself. The whole process was very natural and didn\’t cost my parents much thought. At that time, there was no emphasis on parent-child reading, and they didn’t teach me many picture books. It’s just that my father likes to read, and there are many books at home. Maybe it’s because of my father’s influence. I could read a whole storybook when I was in the first grade of elementary school. In the third grade, I started reading tomes, such as selected British novels, Japanese novels, etc. wait. As long as there are books with storylines in my dad’s bookcase, I will read them. Slowly, reading has become an indispensable part of my life and a deep-rooted way of life. Its shaping of my outlook on life and its nourishment of my life cannot be overemphasized. So, when I became a mother, on the one hand, I very much hoped that Chengzi would develop the habit of reading from an early age; on the other hand, I had optimistic confidence that Chengzi would develop the habit of reading. Because I love reading, in addition to bookcases, there are also books in every corner of my home. With this environment, it should be natural for Chengzi to fall in love with reading like I did back then. However, now it seems that this is a kind of blind optimism and confidence. 2. How we missed the opportunity When Cheng Zi was young, I would read some picture books with him, and most of the time I would read them to him. Later, this reading session slowly evolved into storytelling before bed. Cheng Zi loves to listen to stories and asks to be told stories before going to bed every day. Sometimes, after a busy day, I am too tired to read him a story, so I let him listen to the story on his iPad. Slowly, it evolved into mainly listening to audio stories, supplemented by me reading to him. At that time, I was not in a hurry about reading. I thought that after he learned more words in school, he would naturally fall in love with reading. From the first to the third grade, Chengzi listened to a lot of miscellaneous audios, including not only stories, but also popular science and history. It can be said that his knowledge range is quite broad. Chengzi started writing poems when he was in the first grade. During the summer vacation of his second grade, he went to Penglai Beach. The poems he wrote were exquisite in contrast, which surprised me. On a whim, he even wrote his own stories, which were astonishingWhen I enter the book, I will use pinyin for the words I can’t write. He plans to have me publish it after he completes a book. Relatives and friends around me also praised Chengzi one after another when they saw it. They all said that Chengzi’s Chinese skills were good and they were influenced by me. (Small poem written by Chengzi) However, amidst the praise, I realized that the problem was gradually becoming apparent: Chengzi was already in the third grade, and his basic vocabulary for reading was no problem – but Chengzi still didn’t like to read. ah! At home, even if he scratches the wall when he is free, he will not take the initiative to read. I asked him to find a book to read by himself, but he only looked for books with many pictures. He only looked at the pictures and did not read much text. The school requires fifteen minutes of reading every day, and he always looks at the book as if he has completed the task, glances at the watch, and puts down the book as soon as the time is up. If we cannot develop the habit of reading and do not have the lasting and powerful source of motivation brought by books, Orange\’s current performance will easily be short-lived and not lasting. 3. The blind optimism and hidden laziness that I had taken before finally began to show its consequences. If you continue to let it go like this, the older you get, the harder it will be to develop the habit of reading. This is not good. I\’m going to start thinking of ways to catch up on this lesson. Developing a habit starts with interest. Some of Chengzi\’s classmates have already started to read \”Charlie IX\” and \”Sanlian Life Weekly\”. I told myself not to worry and start with simple things first. I bought a lot of simple storybooks. Cheng Zi had a hard time reading and stopped reading after two pages. If story books don’t work, then read picture books. I also bought a lot of small picture books with pictures, and each picture was only accompanied by two or three lines of text. Is it okay now? I turned over the orange and put it down. Just when I was feeling anxious, I accidentally saw an article about parent-child reading. The article says that no matter how old a child is, when he feels difficulty reading, he needs the company of his parents. This sentence woke me up. I used to think that Cheng Zi was now this big and literate enough that he was no longer a child and needed me to read with him. As long as I gave him time to read to him, the rest would be a matter of practice makes perfect. It turns out that before developing a reading habit, it is very necessary for parents and children to read together. 4. Accompany, accompany, start parent-child reading. After understanding this, I started to practice it. First find a small picture book that interests him – \”The Adventures of Tintin\”. I had told him about this set of books in the past, but later I asked him to read it himself, and he only looked at the pictures. Of course it’s not interesting to just look at the pictures, and it was later shelved. Since you have missed so much homework, don’t say anything and just start from the beginning, starting from the small picture books! Cheng Zi and I said, can we each read a paragraph? Orange readily agreed. At this time, I discovered another problem. Chengzi basically knew the words in it, but because he had read so little, he was not familiar with the words, let alone the language. He struggled to read, and sometimes he almost read each word one by one. I finally finished reading a passage, but I only focused on recognizing the words, but I didn’t understand what the passage meant. Only then did I understand: No wonder Chengzi doesn\’t want to read. There\’s no fun in reading like this. What if there is no fun? Then I will take him to have fun together. When I read, I imitated the tone of different characters and read consciouslyIt’s so lifelike. Chengzi reads slowly, I never rush him and listen to him patiently. If I read it wrong, I don’t tell him, I just point it out to him. He still didn’t understand after reading it, so I explained it to him. When we encounter interesting places, we laugh together – there are too many places in this book that make people laugh. When it was his turn to read a slightly longer paragraph, he felt intimidated when he saw so many words and groaned and didn\’t want to read. I gave him three chances to read in different directions to stimulate his initiative. 5. My children changed so quickly that I was constantly surprised. I quickly saw the effect of reading together. Yes, soon. First of all, Chengzi became interested in reading. I remember the first time I read it, it took us nearly two hours to read 12 pages. This was 12 pages in a small picture book! But after reading it, as soon as I opened my eyes the next day, Cheng Zi got up to get Ding Ding and wanted to read it with me. It is rare for me to take the initiative to read a book, and I was very happy. Later, this state of active request to study has continued to this day. Whenever he has some free time, Orange asks to read Tintin. Then, he began to gain a sense of accomplishment from reading. Once, when we were driving out, Chengzi saw a newspaper in the car with a news section and a photo of a fighter plane. Chengzi actually took the initiative to read this piece of news, which was really unprecedented. I was a little surprised. I quickly strengthened his sense of accomplishment: \”Wow, you actually read the entire news article. How awesome! Look, if you don\’t read the text but just look at the picture, you will only see a plane. Now, what you have gained Isn’t the amount of information much larger?\” Chengzi said thoughtfully: \”No wonder so-and-so (Chengzi classmate) likes to read military articles. He said it was very interesting and said that I would understand it later.\” I didn\’t say anything more. No need to say more, this thing itself is a kind of subtle guidance. He began to feel that there was a vast and interesting world behind the words. Compared to when I forced him to read a book before, his sense of achievement in being able to read a large text stimulates his interest in reading more. Now, we have read several Tintin books. Unlike a child who is starting from scratch, Cheng Zi has a foundation of vocabulary after all. Apart from having difficulty reading the first two times, he is now reading more and more smoothly. When encountering long passages of text, I am no longer afraid of difficulties, and I almost no longer use the right to change readings three times. Sometimes when adults are busy, he reads by himself. We are still reading Tintin. Sometimes I read it with him, sometimes my father reads it with him, and sometimes the three of us read it together. There are dozens of books in the Tintin series. I think that after reading all these dozens of books, Chengzi\’s reading ability will be greatly improved. We are not in a hurry, we take our time. 6. Some of my experiences When it comes to cultivating children\’s interest in reading, I have gone through some detours and had some gains and losses. Although I cannot say that I have succeeded now, I have accumulated some experiences, which I would like to share with you. 1. I made a mistake that many parents make, taking empiricism for granted. Educate children to rely on feeling and instinct. What I did when I was a child will also do to my children. No matter how good your own growth experience is, you cannot copy it to your children. Every child has his or her own unique characteristics, and the one that suits the child is the best. 2.I found that the phrase \”trees grow naturally\” is not very reliable when used with children. Many parents believe that although their children have problems of one kind or another now, things will get better when they grow up and become sensible. I thought so at first, but later I discovered that things did not develop in the direction I hoped for. On the contrary, the older I get, the harder it is to cultivate habits. Timely guidance and education, although time-consuming and laborious, are the responsibilities of parents. 3. The most important thing is companionship. A child\’s growth cannot be separated from the attentive company of his parents. Companionship is actually the fundamental way to solve many problems. I can feel that at first, Chengzi liked reading with his parents rather than reading. Attentive companionship means that the person is there and the heart is there, without blaming or judging, and with complete acceptance. In companionship, the child feels love, strength and support, which is very important for his initial start. If parents are lazy when their children are growing up, sooner or later they will pay back twice as much. 4. To develop a habit, if there is no interest and sense of accomplishment, it is too difficult to persist by relying on perseverance alone. This is true for adults, and even more so for children. Finding and cultivating your child\’s interests and strengthening his sense of accomplishment in a timely manner is the biggest and most lasting motivation for him to persist in doing something. 5. Be patient and careful. Children\’s growth and changes do not happen overnight. There will be stagnation and repetition. Parents need to patiently and carefully observe every small progress of their children and provide encouragement and affirmation in a timely manner. I believe that every child has the motivation to do good. We only need to cultivate the soil, water it, and wait for it to sprout and grow up slowly.