The child was always silent when he was not gregarious, until what happened three years ago was exposed…

One day during the summer vacation, a client called me and said he was right downstairs from my house. I said you come up. She said she couldn\’t come, the child refused to come up, and asked me to help. I went downstairs and saw a BMW parked in front of the door. A very fashionable young woman took off her sunglasses and came up to shake my hand. She pointed to the little boy across the street with embarrassment and said, \”Look at my child, who is in the third grade of elementary school. He can\’t get on the stage at all and refuses to come no matter what.\” I asked her what was going on, and she She told me that she was chatting with her child\’s class teacher a few days ago and learned that her child didn\’t like to talk or communicate with others. She said she knew the child was like this, so she didn\’t take it seriously. But the example the class teacher gave next made her restless. There was a party in the class, and the teacher asked everyone to perform a performance, whether it was singing, dancing, telling stories, or reciting. First, they volunteered to perform, and then they played a game of drumming and passing the flower, and whoever passed it to the hand would perform. When it was passed to other students, although some students were shy or introverted, with the encouragement of the teacher and classmates, they would finally stand on the podium and perform a short show for everyone. But when it was passed to him, he didn\’t say a word, didn\’t even raise his head, didn\’t stand up, and didn\’t take the stage. His mouth was clenched tightly and his head was lowered so that no one could see his face. No matter how much the teachers and classmates applauded and encouraged him, he would not go on stage or stand up. The teacher had no choice but to say: \”Then you don\’t have to go to the podium. You can just count tens in your place! Just count from one to ten.\” For such a simple task, if it were other students, they would definitely count. , but he continued to remain silent. Everyone could see that he was nervous, uneasy and a little stubborn. The teacher really had no choice but to ignore him and continue to play the drum and pass the flowers. The teacher said that this kind of thing happened not only once or twice, not only when playing, but also when the teacher asked questions in class, he would only stand up at most, but whether he knew it or not, he always remained silent. I hardly communicate with other students at ordinary times. I always stay in a corner by myself, not knowing what I am thinking. Therefore, the teacher fed back this problem to her and asked her to pay attention to the child\’s problem, which was really too withdrawn. I asked her, \”Since when did the child become so withdrawn? Has he been like this since he was a child?\” She shook her head and said, \”No, my son was very clever when he was a child. He was very naughty, playful, and expressive! Why has he changed now?\” Is it like this?\” After questioning, she told me that the child\’s change should have started three years ago. She and her husband both work out of town and originally wanted to take their children to school out of town, but their grandfather wanted to take care of them for them. The child\’s grandfather used to be a cadre in the army. He was too busy at that time to take care of the discipline of several children. He felt that he had failed in the education of several children, so he wanted to personally take charge of the education of his grandson and educate his grandson into a man of honor. figure. The child\’s grandfather implements a military-style management. He must get up on time and go to bed on time every day. His grandson is not allowed to play or watch TV. He can only do homework at home. It is shameful to waste even a minute. When his classmates came to play with his grandson, he would drive them out and not allow other children to interfere with his grandson\’s studies. He also prohibited his grandson from playing with his classmates. At onceIn this way, the grandson soon had no friends and no one to play with. The child\’s grandfather is usually stern and doesn\’t like to talk, so his grandson also has this character. I asked her, \”What does his grandfather think when the child becomes like this? Why don\’t you change the way of education?\” She said, \”The child\’s grandfather thinks this is good. He can only concentrate on studying if he doesn\’t know how to play.\” I sighed and raised the question There are several examples of people in their twenties who stay at home every day, do nothing but play games, don’t go out, don’t contact anyone, have no friends, no jobs… They have been deprived of their childhood. Deprived of the right to play, they are only allowed to \”learn.\” Later, one day, the child was overwhelmed and suddenly became like this… She then became nervous and said: \”My child is like this too! During the holidays, I picked him up from my place and wanted to take him out. He doesn\’t go to play or participate in some group activities. He only stays at home and plays games… What should I do?\” I told her to transfer the child to her city, take the child with me, and give the child Love and freedom, stop suppressing your children, encourage them to go out to play more, make more friends, and never let your children study… She gritted her teeth and said: \”The child\’s grandfather will definitely not agree with us taking the child away, but for the sake of Regarding the child\’s happiness, even if we quarrel, I will no longer compromise and must keep the child with me.\” A few months later, she happily told me that the child gradually changed back and made a few new friends. I like to play football together every day, and become cheerful, talk and laugh, and become energetic… Many parents with traditional concepts oppose play and learning and do not allow their children to play or even be with their classmates. Play…None of these parents have a good understanding of their children\’s physical and mental development. A child\’s vitality flourishes in childhood, and if not properly educated, it will be stifled. However, today, play is not valued socially, educationally or economically. Because of this, we lag behind. Play and the brain are connected. The more you play, the bigger your brain becomes. The more we play, the more emotional maturity we develop; the more we play, the better our decision-making skills become. These are facts, not fairy tales or novels, this is cold science. Games are childhood, and play is the foundation of learning. I hope those parents who think that only \”learning\” itself is meaningful and that playing is a waste of time will change their minds, give their children love and freedom, and give their children a happy childhood! Only in this way will the child\’s future be better!