There is a kind of education called cheating

(01) I have a happy friend who is quite a bit older. He is so happy every day that his body is trembling with fat. He laughs wherever he goes – let’s call him Doubao. The reason why Doubao is so happy may be because he has a silly and cute father. Doubao said: When he was a kid, his stupid dad didn\’t care about his studies at all and didn\’t care about his grades. But homework requires parents’ signature. The stupid dad got angry and went to school to make trouble. The silly and cute dad arrived at school and entered the teacher\’s office. His eyes rolled around when he suddenly saw a banner on the wall: There is a road to a mountain of books and a path to learning, and hard work leads to a boundless sea of ​​learning! This couplet is familiar to everyone. When Dou Bao\’s cute dad saw this, he was overjoyed and found the cause of the trouble. (02) The cute dad sighed and said to the teacher: Teacher, do you know? There is a kind of education called cheating, and you have taught all the children bad things. Taught bad? The teacher was surprised: …The spring silkworms will not run out until they die, and the candles will not dry until they turn to ashes. He looked up to the sky and laughed and went out. A branch of red apricot came out of the wall. As teachers, we burn ourselves to illuminate the naughty children, work hard and forget about food and sleep, work more than donkeys, eat less than chickens, and are as tired as dogs. Don’t we just hope that your naughty children will grow up to be successful? You said you taught your children bad things? What does this mean? Look, the silly and cute dad pointed at the couplet: Look at this elegiac couplet… The teacher was very angry: That\’s a couplet, your family calls this an elegiac couplet. Silly and cute dad: …that’s okay, just call it couplets. Look at these couplets, the first couplet is just so-so, but there is a problem with the second couplet. Teachers: …what’s the problem? Silly and cute dad: Look at this sentence: There is no limit to learning and hard work. If we don’t talk about whether Xuehai has a career or not, why are we just working so hard? Reading happily and writing happily, why is it so painful? Who in this world does not need to learn? Who doesn’t need to read a few books? Kittens learn to catch mice, and puppies learn to chew bones. Learning is a normal thing. There is no wind or rain, no need to worry about food and clothing, so why is it so hard? Bitter… The teacher is anxious: Don\’t mess around. This means that children should study hard… Silly and cute dad: Reading and studying are just like eating and sleeping. They are all normal rules in life. When have you ever heard someone say that you have to work hard to eat? When have you ever heard someone say that you need to sleep hard? If you exaggerate a normal thing into something horrific, you will disturb the child\’s mind and make the child think that reading is such a terrible thing. The teacher was extremely angry: Whose parent are you? Which class is the child in? Only then did the silly and cute dad realize that something was wrong, and murmured a few words: Hmm, I was just passing by. I saw that your school door was open, so I came in to take a look. I didn’t mean anything else, uh, I didn’t mean anything else… (03) Back home, Doubao\’s silly and cute father went to teach his son in person. First, I took a copy of the \”Three Character Classic\” and opened it. Hey, here is a sentence: The head hangs from the beam, and the cone pierces the bones. He doesn\’t teach, he works hard on his own. At that time, Dad Beanbao was anxious: Son, have you read this? Doubao: …Watch it. Beanbag Daddy: Then explain this sentence to Dad. Doubao: …This sentence, hanging one\’s head from a beam, refers to a man named Sun Jing in ancient times. When he was studying and wanted to take a nap, he took a rope and tied his hair to the beam. Put your head on the table while taking a napAs soon as he lay down, he was beeping loudly, his head was grabbed by the rope, and he woke up. This is called the head cantilever. The last sentence is bone-piercing, referring to Su Qin during the Warring States Period. When he was studying, he was so sleepy that he was about to fall asleep. He picked up the awl, touched his thigh, stuck the awl in, and woke himself up, so he could continue reading. Beanbag Daddy: …Son, what do these two stories mean? Bean bag: Eat the bitterest of hardships, only then can you become a master. Daddy Beanbag was furious: That\’s nonsense. Son, please don\’t fall for it. If you fall for it, your life will be ruined. Dad, let me tell you, these two stories were made up by people who hate reading to scare you and make you sigh and not dare to read. (04) Daddy Beanbag said: Your father and I are half-readers after all, and we know the joy of reading the most. If you get a good book, you will never fall asleep, you will be fascinated by it, and you will read it all night without feeling tired. Even if you feel tired after studying for too long, take a nap and wake up more energetic and with better memory. You said Sun Jing and Su Qin, what books did they read? Make them sleepy when they see books? There are two situations when you feel sleepy while studying. One situation is that you don’t think that your life needs reading to recharge. Life is decadent, but reading is progressive and positive. When a decadent life encounters positive books, it will naturally make you sleepy. You are still children, your minds are immature, and you are not yet decadent. There is only one way for you to feel sleepy while studying, and that is because your reading method is wrong. Son, I tell you, even a math book is so interesting that you don’t want it. But some people cannot appreciate the joy of mathematics, so it is impossible for them to pass this joy on to their children. Think about it, a person who regards learning as a scary path will regard learning as a very scary thing, and will make up bone-chilling horror stories. On the surface, it encourages you to endure hardship, but the greater possibility is that many children are frightened by this miserable reading and never dare to read again. Is this happening? Doubao was dubious: How should I read the book? (05) Beanbag Daddy: Always remember, first, reading is just like eating and sleeping, they are all normal things in life. Second, reading is more enjoyable than eating and more interesting than sleeping. Third, the fun in books lies in understanding while reading. As the ancients said: It is difficult to explain the beauty to you when you understand it leisurely. Fourth, it is not just happiness in reading, everything in life is full of happiness. Reading brings the pleasure of reading, farming brings the pleasure of farming, and working brings the pleasure of working. You must know that the happiness of life is composed of small achievements one after another. A life that avoids life responsibilities and has no achievements is destined to be impossible to be happy. The joy of life requires an optimistic attitude towards life and a positive and enterprising state of mind. Fifth, not every person, action, or word that encourages you is desirable. Be wary of those who deliberately turn a simple and happy life into a bloody one. On the surface, they are motivating you, but in fact they will arouse you. The fear in your heart makes you regard studying and life as a daunting path, and you will fall into fear and depression, unable to move forward. (06) Doubao said: When he grows up, he will become his father. Once, the company hired a spiritual mentor with a high salary to encourage employees. The instructor came and wrote beautiful writing on the small blackboard: Be afraid of hardship and you will suffer for a lifetime. Don\’t be afraid of hardship, you will suffer for half your life. Afraid of being tired, tired for a lifetime. Don\’t be afraid of being tired, you will be tired for half your life. Then the instructor started talking, asking everyone to cheer up, show a fighting spirit, and not be afraid of hardship or suffering. The more you are afraid of suffering, the more you will suffer; the more you are afraid of suffering, the more tired you will be. And so on. After the instructor finished speaking, he asked each employee to express his position. Doubao noticed that the employees\’ expressions were a bit reluctant. Suddenly he entered his father\’s mind and realized that these employees were frightened by the bloody life described by their mentor. Although I had to take a stand, I felt fear and shrinkage in my heart. When it was Doubao\’s turn to express his stance, he couldn\’t help but raise his voice and said: I think your view is absolutely wrong. If you are afraid of suffering, you will definitely suffer for a lifetime. Don\’t be afraid of hardship, but you will have to endure hardship for a lifetime. The same goes for being afraid of being tired. Whether you are afraid of it or not, you will be tired for a lifetime. The reason why you have to suffer for a lifetime is because there is a big problem with your interpretation of life. Life is life, it is as plain as water. The suffering and tiredness in life are all created by you fighting against life itself. For example, some children go to work in the fields with baskets at a young age. Do you think this child is suffering? Just because you regard work as hard work for no reason. In fact, life in the countryside is the closest to nature and is the happiest. Many people have dreams of the countryside because everyone knows that suffering is just a fantasy in your heart. Another example is that some children keep reading under the lamp every day. They are making progress every day and becoming better. They are happy because of their excellence. But you are saying for no reason that children have a hard time studying. This kind of despondent mood infects children and makes them afraid of studying and life. When the children grow up and enter the society, they are instilled by you for no reason that life is hard and tiring. The decadent concept resulted in tremendous psychological pressure… Before Doubao could finish speaking, the instructor\’s face became very ugly, and he clapped his hands vigorously: Okay, okay, this employee has stated that he is not afraid of hardship, and he is willing to A lot of hard work, next one! (07) Inheriting his father’s ideas, Doubao’s view on life is a bit different. He believes that there are three things in the human mind: emotions, concepts and objective facts. ——The objective facts are the world we face and the way we should live. Each of us is born to practice our own values ​​and find the meaning of life. This means that we have to do many things that must be done in this world. These things include: making money, making a living, eating, sleeping, reading, studying, traveling, getting married, finding the most suitable and best partner for you, having sex, taking a break and then having sex again… – The concept is you How to look at the process of your own life, how to look at everything. Things are just things, without emotional attributes. But different people have completely opposite opinions. Some people think that reading is tiring, and they wish they could kill all the writers in the world and burn all the books. Some people think that work is tiring, and they cry in frustration after doing just a little bit of work. Some people think reading is fun, and they think other people’s wisdom is life, but youReading this book means paying for it, which is a good thing to take advantage of. Some people love their jobs, their careers, and gain dignity and happiness at work. ——Emotions come from the infusion of the surrounding environment and fluctuations in mood. For example, people who hate reading will feel tired when they see books. Either preach that reading is useless, or be more positive and encourage children to learn and work hard. But because I regard reading as a scary thing, my encouragement turns into intimidation, and my children feel extremely aggrieved when they pick up a book. For another example, some people regard daily work as hard and tiring. Even if they grit their teeth and encourage themselves not to be afraid of hardship and tiredness, they are tired and bitter in their hearts. It is okay if they are not motivated. The more they are motivated, the more they feel bitter and tired. So Doubao said: As a human being, you must know the laws of balance between heaven and earth in order to achieve a happy heart. (08) What is the law of balance between heaven and earth? Happiness in the world is not without reason, it is built on a positive attitude towards life. For example, you read a book to make yourself a little better than you were yesterday. This little bit of excellence comes at the expense of time. One side is time and the other side is excellence. The more time you spend traveling, the more excellent progress you will get. These two things are balanced. For another example, if you achieve a small result at work, you will feel a small sense of accomplishment in your heart. A sense of accomplishment brings us happiness. One side is dedication, and the other side is excellence and happiness. The two are also balanced. On the contrary, those who live a decadent life, are unwilling to study and are full of aversion to work. They will describe normal life as unreasonable suffering and tiredness. They will complain about reading a book and feel tired when doing something. Even though they are forced to study and work, what they feel in their hearts is only the true love born from the confrontation with normal life. They suffer from hardship and huge psychological pressure, but rarely feel happiness – the hardship they feel in this process is also balanced with their confrontation with life. All lives are the same. But different choices give our lives different qualities. If you fall into the confrontation with life, you will end up in mediocrity, and you will always bear the huge impact of inner growth, so you will always feel unspeakable pain and pressure. On the contrary, if you find happiness in your daily life, you will have fun in learning and achieve success in work. Every bit of progress will make you happy. You will enjoy the legendary tranquility, simplicity and joy of the years. Life is life, and it is always an objective existence. Completely opposite concepts and feelings allow us to obtain pain and happiness respectively. Whether it is joy or pain, it completely depends on our state of mind and our attitude towards life.