What should I do if my child is tired of studying? Experts are here to help!

Recently, there have been a lot of parents asking about their children\’s learning problems in the background. The questions are generally very abstract: What should I do if my child doesn\’t like to study? What should I do if I can\’t concentrate in class? Parents are their children\’s first teachers, but do Chinese parents really know their children? Or trying to understand your own children? The college entrance examination has long been described as a \”one-plank bridge\” and is what Chinese parents consider to be the best path for their children! \”It takes ten years to sharpen a sword.\” Today\’s parents, in order for their children to enter a good university, are worried that their children will lose at the starting line, so they start to pay attention to their children\’s education from prenatal education. After the child is born, various special skills training, extracurricular tutoring, and various nutritional supplements are provided, not to mention, to prepare the child for admission to a good university! Chinese parents can be said to have \”twenty years to sharpen their swords\”! Why do children have learning problems? Parents want their children to focus on their studies. As long as their academic performance is good, they don’t have to worry about other aspects. Parents have to worry about it. But once their children have learning problems: their grades will drop; their motivation to learn will decrease; they will want to spend more time playing; Playing with mobile phones and computers for a long time; spending too much time on hobbies other than studying, and other similar problems, parents may become anxious, not to mention the children who are unwilling to study, do not want to study, or even feel uncomfortable Such behaviors as doing homework, sleeping in class, and skipping class! As parents, when faced with children’s problematic behaviors, we must remind ourselves: These behaviors are not the children’s goals, but means, to achieve some purpose that the children themselves may not be able to explain clearly. There must be a reason why a child is \”weary of studying\”. Parents can\’t just see their children\’s playfulness, laziness and other problems! Especially for adolescent children, when the child does not like to study, it is not accurate and appropriate to use \”weary of learning\” to describe the adolescent child\’s dislike of learning. A very important task in adolescence is to establish one\’s own direction and find one\’s own value. Adolescent children will start to think from their own perspective when facing anything: what does this matter mean to themselves, and they will no longer \”just follow orders\” from their parents. Have you solved the problems that children need to learn correctly? As for learning, in China\’s exam-oriented education environment, before adolescence, children basically learn because their parents and teachers say that studying hard will be good for your future, and then the children will be obedient and study well. But in adolescence, children will start to think about what use learning is for me. At this time, children are likely to have a one-sided understanding of learning: they see that the learning in front of them is just for exams, and think that this knowledge is not practical. They will not be able to use it in their future work and life. There is no use for it. I feel that learning is meaningless and worthless, so there is no need to learn! In this regard, parents should not accuse and criticize their children as soon as they hear their children say they don’t want to learn: If you don’t want to learn, what else can you do? Parents should see more of the good side of their children at this time, and see the positive side that their children will start to think about problems independently. Although children\’s ideas are still relatively one-sided and immature, this kind of independent thinking is at least a good start! Parents cannot force their children to accept learning at this time, but need to communicate with their children on an equal footing.Through his or her own views on learning, why learning is more beneficial to his (her) future and more helpful to him (her). Children may say that there are many people who do not study or have academic qualifications, but still live a good life and have a high income. Many parents may become \”at a loss for words\” when faced with this problem of their children, and then no longer communicate calmly with their children, but \”get angry\” and \”unreasonably\” demand that their children must learn! In this case, the child will feel more justified in not studying, and \”would rather give in\” than succumb to the \”majesty\” of his parents. Instead, he will insist on his \”correct approach of not studying\”! In fact, parents can use this as a good opportunity to discuss with their children: There are far more people who have not gone to college than those who have gone to college. If it is because they can have high incomes without studying, why do most people who do not go to college have high incomes? Are they all low-income people? Why do research surveys show that among high-income people, the number of people with a college degree or above is much higher than the number of people without college? (These information can be found online) It triggers children to search for answers and understand why these people can earn well without studying! For example, Li Ka-shing, the richest man in China, and Wang Yongqing, the \”god of management\” in Taiwan, only have primary school education, why can they achieve such great things? career? It\’s not because they don\’t study or have no education that they can achieve these achievements. On the contrary, precisely because they don\’t study and have low education, they study harder and find time to study business management after their hard work every day. In this field of knowledge, I was not discouraged despite all kinds of failures. I constantly improved myself and used perseverance, willpower and ability to build up my subsequent achievements! Children only see one-sidedly the glory of people who succeed without studying, but fail to see the hard work behind them. Parents help their children see the hardships and efforts made by those who have achieved high achievements without studying – these are far more difficult than sitting in the classroom and studying, and are tens of millions of times harder than doing questions and memorizing! – and then ask their children about ( Is she) willing to endure all this hard work without studying to achieve success? Use data and facts to illustrate the value of reading and let children see that only a small number of people achieve success without studying. For more people, the more convenient and preferable way to achieve success is to study and enter college! Parents do not need to force their children to study. They only need to present the pros and cons of studying and not studying to their children, tell them what they will encounter in their future lives through different choices, and let them choose by themselves. It is human nature to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. People will be willing to choose a relatively easy way to reach their destination. After understanding the pros and cons of studying and not studying, most children will be willing to choose this path of learning. Of course, primary school learning experience will greatly affect this choice. If your grades in primary school have always been poor, your foundation is very poor, or your child really doesn’t like learning, maybe studying for college is really not suitable for your child! Everyone has a suitable path in life. If your child is really not suitable for college, cultivate a positive and responsible life attitude in your child, and your child can also live a happy life!