Child, if you have been wronged

A few nights ago, my colleague Juanzi called me angrily and told me that her son was being bullied at school. Juanzi\’s son was in primary school. He came home from school that day with a shallow scar on his face. She quickly asked what was going on, and her son said lightly that it was okay. He was scratched by a treetop while walking on the road. Juanzi said that she could actually tell that it was man-made, but her son didn\’t want to say it, so there was nothing she could do. She was hurt and angry: He is very tolerant at such a young age. Do you think this child is stupid? I chuckled: How could it be possible? Your son is following his father. He has the rarest kind of dignity. He will definitely be successful in the future. I have watched her son grow up since he was a child. When he was four or five years old, Juanzi brought him to play at work, and it happened that another colleague also brought his daughter to play. That girl was spoiled by her grandparents. She liked to scratch and pinch her. She often bullied children and the teacher asked her parents. That day, Juanzi\’s son took out a bag of potato chips from his bag and handed it to the little girl. However, the little girl took it and threw it on the ground. She stamped her feet hard and said: My mother won\’t let me eat this kind of junk food. Long disabled. When the little girl\’s mother saw this, she quickly scolded her daughter, but Juanzi\’s son smiled tolerantly like a gentleman and said, \”Okay, if you don\’t want to eat it, just throw it away.\” I thought they wouldn\’t be able to play together, but they ended up having fun all afternoon. When they got off work, the little girl still pulled Juanzi\’s son and refused to leave. In Juanzi\’s son, I saw gentle power, which is a thousand times more powerful than the brute force of fists. When I was in junior high school, there was a bully in my class, nicknamed \”Fatty\”. Once, a classmate made a joke with him, saying that \”Fat Dun\” would punch him when he came up. That classmate was also very energetic, so how could he bear this anger and retaliate with a punch. \”Fat Dun\” saw that he couldn\’t take any advantage, so he ran to bring in reinforcements. A few minutes before class time, a man in his thirties came in and asked: Who is so-and-so? The classmate didn\’t know what was going on, so he stood up and walked over: Uncle, I am. Without saying a word, the man came up and slapped her, then punched and kicked her. I was petrified by this scene and kept screaming in my seat. A classmate ran to call the teacher, who stopped the man from going crazy and pulled him away. Everyone scrambled to get the beaten classmate to the school doctor\’s office. There was a row of bumps on his forehead and his face was covered with blood. The kid who got beaten got a concussion and had to take a break from school. The parents were not reluctant and went to the school to ask for an explanation. Later, \”Pang Dun\” was fired. When \”Pang Dun\” left, I was extremely excited. At that time, I was young and only knew pleasure and grudges. I felt that the school was trying to eliminate violence and make peace. Last year, the property management company of my old house called and told me to repaint the entire exterior wall of the building and asked me to sign and pay. When I walked downstairs, I saw a man covered in paint getting off the cable car. Their eyes met. I thought he looked familiar, but I couldn\’t remember where I\’d seen him before. But the man shouted my name loudly: Su Xin, you don\’t recognize me, I am \”Fat Dun\”! I suddenly remembered that he was the \”fat guy\” who told parents to beat people. That scene was a nightmare for me as a teenager. Looking back many years later, I feel horrified. At this time, there is no more \”Fat Dun\”The high-spirited youth, his face is covered with dust, his temples are like frost, and his face is cautious. I didn\’t know what to say. We hadn\’t seen each other for many years, and our lives didn\’t overlap much. I didn\’t know where to start. It was \”Fat Dun\” who broke the silence. He said: You are so good. You have gone to school for so many years and seen so much of the world. Unlike me, I have no education and have to rely on my strength to make a living. Look, I have come to paint the walls of your house. ,hehe. I followed his words and said: If you are the number one scholar in any of the 360 ​​professions, it will be the same if you succeed in this profession. I asked him to sit at home, and he said sheepishly: I\’m so dirty, so it won\’t be a problem. There was regret, annoyance, sadness, and unwillingness to his fate in his tone. On the way home, I had mixed feelings. \”Pang Dun\”\’s academic performance was not too bad back then. If he wasn\’t unwilling to accept a little grievance, how could he drop out of school for some reason at such a young age? He lost his flying wings early, so how could he soar in the beautiful sky? Once, a friend who is a professional manager once said to me: Everyone\’s mind is bounded by grievances, and you will suffer as many grievances as your mind is big. And how big your mind is, how big your career will be. People who are not aggrieved at all are just brave men. In the end, they can only see the trees and not the forest. As for those who are willing to suffer losses, that is the courage of thousands of people and a kind of generosity. When Teacher Yi Zhongtian talked about Xiang Yu and Liu Bang in \”Pin Ren Lu\”, he talked about the courage of an ordinary man and the courage of a gentleman. \”If you don\’t agree with each other, you can fight with fists and kicks. This is the courage of an ordinary man.\” “Not being surprised when something happens suddenly, not getting angry when something happens without reason, this is the courage of a gentleman.” The courage of an ordinary man can show off his talents and vent his anger for a while, which makes him feel happy and his face is good, but things are messed up and the consequences are irreparable. The courage of a gentleman swallows grievances, strengthens the situation, endures for a while, but wins for the rest of his life. My child, being wronged does not mean that you are cowardly or cowardly, but that you should have a bottom line and principles when facing grievances: things that you do not need to retaliate for, and things that you must not tolerate humiliation and give in to. Please enter a description of the image. If someone intentionally bullies you, of course you have to fight back in kind. But if it\’s something trivial, I hope you can take a step back and calm down. If you were unwilling to accept a little grievance when you were young, you would lose many friends and the joy of growing up. When you grow up and start working, if you don\’t accept a little grievance, you may lose many opportunities, and it will be difficult for you to have a broad world in your life and career. A person\’s inner big picture must be built up after being polished by emotions and career, and then he can achieve a big mind and take you across the stream to the sea. Set your sights on the distance that your dreams can reach. If your heart is big, things will be small, and you will be unfettered and walk through thousands of rivers and mountains lightly.