It is better to leave an apartment for your children than a room of books

Recently, \”hollow disease\” has become popular, which refers to the nihilism of modern young people. Some time ago, Xu Kaiwen, deputy director of the Center for Mental Health Education and Counseling at Peking University, gave a speech on \”The Hollowness of the Era and the Economics of Anxiety.\” He started with the hollowness problem of Peking University students. It is said: \”Forty percent of freshmen at Peking University believe that life is meaningless.\” “30% of Peking University students are actually tired of studying.” These children have a strong sense of loneliness and meaninglessness. They have been the best students and the most well-behaved students since childhood. They also particularly need to be praised by others, but they have strong suicidal thoughts. It is not that they want to commit suicide. They just don\’t know why they live. What is the value and meaning of living? After reading the full text of the speech carefully, as a father, I couldn\’t help but break into a cold sweat. Why did the child become like this under such good conditions? Talking to friends, I think people still need to have dreams, especially children, they must have dreams. And this dream cannot just stop at the college entrance examination, nor can it just focus on the job after college. Individuals are powerless against common social problems, and the only one who can change them is themselves. Many times, we feel that talking about dreams is too empty, and some people may even think you are a fool. \”Who talks about dreams these days? They only talk about money. If you have money, everything is easy, and you have dreams.\” I think that is confusing dreams with desires. People with dreams can realize their dreams if they have money. But when people without dreams have money, they can only continue to sink and get lost in desire. Many people have given up on their dreams in real life. I just think of the sentence in my childhood composition class, \”I want to be a scientist when I grow up.\” I guess the collective ideal of parents born in the 1980s was to be a scientist. I don\’t know why, almost everyone was like that at that time. written. Later, everyone struggled to move forward in their own lives. Either go with the flow and let fate take its course. Or you have to rely on your parents\’ arrangements and follow the beaten path that you don\’t want to take but have to take. It is my dream to open a bookstore where adults and children can have tea and stories. As a parent, have you ever talked about your dreams with your children? \”As an \’adult\’ in the eyes of children, what kind of wealth will you leave to them?\” Have you ever thought about what kind of influence you will have on your children? Many rich people who have become wealthy will give you this answer: Some time ago, there was an article on the Internet \”In a family with seven houses in Shanghai, do the children still have to work hard to study?\” ”, the author Huang Zhengyu said something, which can be said to be a true portrayal of people in current Chinese society after they become rich. \”I just returned to China not long ago, and I called an Uber at the airport. In the car, this driver friend started chatting with me all over the world. When it came to the current situation of domestic economic development and children\’s education, He told me that his family had been allocated seven apartments due to demolition, so he did not expect his children to have good grades. He said with a smile: \”It doesn\’t matter even if my son comes last in the exam, because the family\’s The money is enough for our family to spend a lifetime. I drive Uber now to experience new things and kill time. \”When I heard him say that, IThere was silence for a long time. The reason for silence is: Money is not everything in life. The relationship between how much money you have and whether you want to learn and make progress should not be an either/or relationship. \”It\’s a pity that there are many people like this around us. They go to work to kill time. They have everything at home, so why should they struggle? There is a second-generation official in a friend\’s workplace, and his family is full of officials. In his own words, I am unlucky and did not enter a public institution, but I am also lucky. I can go to work wherever I want, as long as it is fun, and it is to kill time anyway. But countless examples in history tell us that money will not be eternal, but spirit and culture Talents have been passed down for thousands of years. When my grandfather was young, because his family was poor, he didn\’t read many books. However, he always wanted to study and studied by himself while working on the farm. He actually read the Dream of Red Mansions thoroughly and was proficient in all kinds of local music, chess, calligraphy and painting. The old man is still alive. Before that, he used his last strength to send his uncle to college. Although he failed the college entrance examination twice, he still encouraged him to \”fight again alone.\” \”Finally he became famous. He wrote many poems and essays throughout his life, but the most important sentence is \”Thrift and diligence will last a long time, and reading will last a long time.\” \”I hope that our future generations will attach great importance to reading. This is the power of the spirit. Every time I think of it, I will feel that there is a calling and mission in my heart. A temporary prosperity is not affluence, and the achievements of a generation cannot be said to be achievements. Things are changing, and things are impermanent. . How many powerful and wealthy families in history have returned to the loess, but some have continued to thrive. Only through the efforts of one generation can we truly get better. It is better to leave an apartment for your children than a room of books. Give your children an environment to study and cultivate them. Children\’s reading habits. A single mother left a message saying that her child is 8 years old and she is afraid that not having a father will affect the child. In fact, there are many places where children can get love education. For example, good books, the stories in them will Let the child\’s soul be nourished. Life is always full of suffering and incompleteness, but our spiritual strength will help us overcome these difficulties. Mr. Chen Weiping, president of Taiwan\’s Xiaolu Cultural Society, wrote an article and mentioned: \”Father He passed away suddenly without leaving any property, leaving only a room full of books. When the lay disciples were trapped in a wall, my mother once asked for divination, and the diviner said: \”Your child has a lot of property, and it was left to him by his father.\” After returning home, my mother said to me disappointedly: \”I think it depends on fate. You’re not sure, you’d better rely on yourself!” In this way, we have gone through the rough years, and the room of books left by my father is still intact after more than 20 years of changes. And after I graduated from college and tried jobs in various industries, I finally discovered that my greatest joy is still the same as when I was a child, being a happy book lover – I want to tell the most exciting and beautiful stories, Write it out and publish it for all the children to see. \”My father did not leave him any property, only a room full of books. However, it was this room of books that influenced him as an adult, what kind of person he became, and what kind of things he did.\” Chen Weiping The husband once summed up his father\’s influence on him in this way: First, his loyal personality, and the other is idealism. Hopeless idealism, which cannot be sacrificed for five buckets of rice.I don\’t care about worldly material enjoyment, I just want to do something beneficial to society, and I have a sense of mission as an intellectual. There is no measuring stick in the world that can measure the profound influence of parents on their children. If you are afraid that your child will get hollow heart disease, it is better to first see if you have the hollow heart disease of this era. Is your education method forcing your child to become a \”hollow sick\” child? Too precise calculations and too utilitarian emphasis on the purpose of learning. It\’s all very scary. For children, what they need is not how much money you leave. But care about where you are when they need you most? What did you do when they needed your guidance the most? In their hearts, what kind of person are you? As a parent, the way you deal with others is the key. In this era of exaggeration and hype, it is even more important to stick to your heart. Being a parent who is dreamy, interesting and loves to read, leaving your children with rich spiritual wealth is more effective than any other wealth.