The simplest way to educate your children is to be yourself with self-discipline

Some time ago, my daughter made me very embarrassed. The thing is like this, my cousin had something to do, so he asked me to take care of Xuanxuan after get off work, and also asked my daughter to help Xuanxuan with his homework. My daughter is in fifth grade and Xuanxuan is in third grade. On the first day at home, the two children were very harmonious and happy. The headache happened after my daughter finished her homework. After her daughter finished her homework, she went to see Xuanxuan do her homework because she promised her uncle. The daughter first pointed at a wrong question in Xuanxuan\’s homework book. Xuanxuan thought about it for a long time and couldn\’t figure out how to correct it. The daughter told Xuanxuan Once again, Xuanxuan changed. My daughter was watching Xuan Xuan write homework at the desk. When she saw that Xuan Xuan was doing it really slowly and even seemed to be in a daze, she kept urging Xuan Xuan to write faster. Xuanxuan took a question and kept looking at it, but didn\’t start writing. I was busy cooking, and when I looked back at them, I saw that the exercise book had been torn in half, Xuanxuan was howling and crying, and my daughter was standing next to her with her arms folded, looking impatient. Xuanxuan packed his schoolbag and shouted to go home. His daughter yelled, \”If you want to leave, leave quickly.\” I quickly comforted Xuanxuan and asked my daughter to stop talking. When my cousin came over in the evening, I was very embarrassed and gave him the exercise book I had taped. The next day, Xuanxuan was unwilling to go home with me. I talked with my husband about what my daughter was doing, and my husband said to me: Isn’t this exactly the same as when you teach her to do homework? I was so angry that I quarreled with my husband. Normally, you don\’t care about my daughter\’s studies. I am in charge of my daughter\’s studies. If I have any problems, I will come to you to discuss them. Why are you still making trouble for me? I will think about this later when I calm down. I have to say, my daughter looks quite similar to me before. One day after school, I asked my daughter about this on the way. My daughter still felt very angry when she mentioned this: \”Mom, you didn\’t see how he was dawdling. I told him a question. It was very simple. I asked him if he understood it. He also said he understood it. Let\’s continue with another question. , I just stared at the question blankly, and I was so angry that I couldn’t even type it out. I’ve been writing for almost an hour, and I haven’t even turned a page. At this speed, I can write fast until 10 o’clock.” I saw My daughter was still very angry and didn\’t answer the call, but she felt a little uncomfortable inside. Because this is how I accompanied my daughter to do her homework when she was a child. Although it is no longer the case, but now when I think back to her appearance that day, it’s like seeing myself. This way of accompanying children to their homework always ends unhappily, and when I was watching from the side, I realized that it was a bit \”cruel\”. After my daughter calmed down, I talked with her about the things I had done with her to study in the past. I told her: Mom did something wrong in the past. Just like you now, she was too anxious and felt angry. Although the matter has passed, my mother feels that she did something wrong, so she apologizes to you. When my daughter saw me apologizing so solemnly, she became a little embarrassed. Yesterday, Xuanxuan came to play with her daughter again. The two of them got along quite happily. Children are copies of adults. I recently heard a saying: children are copies of adults, and we ourselves are the original copies of children\’s problems. The more I think about it, the more I agree with this statement. It is always easy for us to use \”reasoning\” to educate our children. But when it comes to reasoning and actions, children learn more from our actions. Our principles will say that we shouldBe polite, respect others, don\’t lose your temper, and be reasonable. But when we get angry, we will also say to our family members: Shut up and get out. I don\’t want to hear what you say. Who do you think you are? Just want to quarrel? We say you should be patient with your child, but when we see him making mistakes all the time, we feel very irritated and say, \”How come you don\’t have a long memory and don\’t like to learn at all?\” We say that life and work should be distributed reasonably, but when our children have poor grades but have a lot of fun, we will think: Hey, it would be great if you could be so serious when studying. Education means that as parents, we should first prepare our own life experience and educate me: Education is really not just about opening and shutting up and talking about the truth. Most of the time, the truth is passed, and it goes in the left ear and goes out the right ear. It is more about leading by example. ,be oneself. I saw a short story on the Internet: A father said to his very playful son: \”You are so ashamed. When Lincoln was your age, his academic performance was always first in the class.\” As soon as the words fell, his son Then he replied: \”Dad, when Lincoln was your age, he was already the president of the United States.\” If you want to educate your children well, the easiest and most difficult way is to be yourself, fulfill your responsibilities, love your family, and love your children. ,love yourself. In the process of education, we may also need to reflect on our words and deeds. I have never seen a child who has been perfect since childhood, nor have I seen a parent who knows everything right from the beginning. Neither children nor we are perfect, we are all learning all the time, and we are all under pressure. Therefore, rather than saying that we are raising young children, we are also accompanying our inner children. Start changing from the original instead of clinging to the copy. Not accepting the shortcomings of our children is also not accepting some of our own characteristics. Children are just like us.