After ten months of pregnancy, I finally gave birth to him (her). However, my husband’s wolf-like eyes also knew what he was thinking. But when is the best time to have sex after giving birth? Many mothers said that after giving birth, Sex life is not very good, why is this? The editor will take stock of it for everyone.
After giving birth to a baby, what issues do couples need to pay attention to when having sex? How to avoid the minefield of postpartum sex life and maintain a high-quality \”sex\” life?
Today, the editor will talk to you about 5 things about postpartum sex life.
1. Sexual intercourse is not allowed for 42 days after delivery
In the eyes of many people, the confinement period is 30 days. If after 30 days, the lochia has been passed, does it mean that you can have sex?
No! \”Confinement\” is medically called the \”puerperal period\” and usually lasts 6-8 weeks ( About 42-56 days). The worst result of having sex during the puerperium is \”puerperal infection.\”
Puerpertine infection, that is, the maternal reproductive tract is infected by bacteria, which can cause local or systemic inflammatory changes. In severe cases, it may cause sepsis, toxic shock, and even renal dysfunction, endangering the mother\’s life.
In an era when medical care was still underdeveloped, many women passed through the hell of giving birth, but failed to escape the disease. Until now, \”puerperal infection\” is still one of the common causes of maternal death.
So, for the health of postpartum mothers, no matter how anxious you are, you must be patient.
Furthermore, the \”42\” days mentioned here are not a rigid point in time.
Everyone’s physical recovery is different. It is best to have a postpartum physical examination. The doctor can tell you that your body is recovering well and that your uterus and vagina are in good condition before you can start having sex.
For mothers who have had a caesarean section, it will take more time for their body to recover. Because in addition to repairing the uterus, vagina and other parts of a caesarean section, you also need to wait for the surgical wound to heal.
2. The vagina is loose after childbirth, how to make it \”tight\” again?
Many mothers find that after vaginal delivery, the vagina is not as tight as before, and they secretly envy mothers who had caesarean section.
In fact, medical research shows that the birth canal of mothers who have had a caesarean section will also become loose. Because in the third trimester of pregnancy, the progesterone in the mother\’s body will increase, causing the birth canal to expand in preparation for the birth of the baby.
Is there any way to make it \”tight\” back?
The most feasible way is to insist on \”\”Kegel exercise\” is currently the most common and effective way to restore pelvic floor muscles, and it is very simple and concealed to operate. In layman\’s terms, it is an action to hold in urine.
Persist in doing it 3 times a day, with about 10 contractions each time, and hold each contraction for about 5 seconds, and the vaginal muscles will usually recover better.
Some even do this. The mother reported that after a few months of use, the vagina became tighter than before giving birth (of course, this is related to the individual’s physical condition)
3. Do I need contraception if my period has not returned during lactation?
Say important things three times: contraception, contraception, contraception!
Why does the editor emphasize this point? Because there are two mothers around me who are breastfeeding. I didn’t use birth control during my period and got pregnant accidentally. The real case is before me. I don’t want everyone to be so passive, so I want to remind everyone about this matter.
Why should you use birth control even if your period hasn’t returned yet? ?
Usually, most mothers resume menstruation 2-6 months after delivery, and some mothers even resume menstruation 1-2 years after delivery (without other underlying diseases, it is normal to have menstruation earlier or later) , related to personal constitution).
But menstruation has not resumed≠Contraception is not required. In many cases, menstruation has not resumed, but ovulation may have quietly resumed. Therefore, even if menstruation has not resumed during lactation, contraception is not required. This matter cannot be ignored. If you are careless, you may get \”succumbed\”.
4. Why do you feel a little painful during intercourse during breastfeeding?
Some mothers report that during postpartum intercourse, it hurts. , I feel a little pain. Is this normal?
According to surveys, more than 50% of mothers will feel discomfort during sexual intercourse within 2-3 months after giving birth, which may be due to vaginal recovery. If the situation is not ideal, it may be due to vaginal dryness.
How to solve this problem?
▪ If it is caused by poor vaginal recovery, sexual intercourse must be suspended until the body has fully recovered. Try (How can you know whether your body has fully recovered? Your own feelings may not be reliable, it is best to have a postpartum checkup)
▪ If it is due to vaginal dryness, you can use caressing and other methods to get both parties into the state. Try again. Of course, you can also use lubricant to solve this problem (don’t be too conservative, you should unlock new products when necessary)
5. What to do if you have \”frigidity\” after childbirth?
Some people say that the husband should be blamed for \”losing sexual interest\” after childbirth. Take a look at the following analysis, and maybe you will know why!
Usually, postpartum mothers\’ \”sexual frigidity\” is mostly inseparable from the following two factors:
Too busy!
Lack of energy and exhaustion, definitely 80% The reason why mothers are \”sexually frigid\”.
You must know that food, clothing, sleep, and sex are all basic human physiological needs.When you don\’t get enough sleep, do you still think about \”sex\”?
Furthermore, having sex is a physical job. If you not only have to give your baby 24 hours of personal care every day, but also Under such circumstances, who has the strength to do the heavy housework?
If you want to change this situation, your husband must take the initiative to help take care of the baby and share the housework. Mom was energetic enough, and when it was time to \”turn the cards\”, she naturally stopped retreating.
Afraid of seeing her husband’s disgusted eyes
There are definitely a minority of mothers who do not have stretch marks, a shape that is out of shape, and breasts that do not sag after childbirth!
Many mothers are worried When my husband sees that he is no longer as beautiful as before, he will involuntarily cover up during sex, making it difficult to let go and unable to enter the state, so \”sexual frigidity\” inevitably occurs.
To solve this problem, in addition to the mother\’s own efforts to recover her body and maintain a good condition, she also needs her husband\’s comfort and understanding, more encouragement, and tell her: \”Your body has changed just because Having a baby is a great thing, and I don’t feel bad about it.”
If a man can’t even do this, and even throws cold water on it, then he can’t blame his partner. Indifferent. You know, the door to sexual desire can be opened by words. No wonder my wife\’s \”sexual interest\” has dropped to freezing point!
